Is that a shame if you still living with your parents?

United States
July 15, 2009 4:16pm CST
I don't know if that is custom or what. If you are 25 years old, and you are still living with your parents, it would be a joke for everyone to laugh about. Why? Why is that important that you must live on your own, and separate from your parents? Is that mean you are always a small baby, and you can not be independent? It is not so. Maybe people has to look after their parents, or they have to help out the family when the family really in need of help. I don't think it is a shame if you still living with your parents after you are turning 25 years old. What is your opinion on this?
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@nehaagra (849)
• Singapore
16 Jul 09
I think its the western culture , where children grow up , and then move to live indeendently. Whereas in asian culture( where i belong too), its quite normal to continue living with the family together, kids as well as parents. Its a family bonding, and we feel proud for it. Its the responsibility of the children that when they grow up, become independent, and start earning, should take care of their parents, and support them in their old age; physically, emotionally and financially...
@fheroan (619)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
i think its not a big deal especially here in our country, Philippines. We are known for having close family ties..whether your young or old or a relative or a grandparent..your welcome to live in the house of your relative... but for our family, we don't practice having so many relatives in our house, we only have our two cousins living with us..but for me, im just 16, i'll just live on my own if i already have a stable job and can sustain my needs or if im going to be married or something...
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@jalucia (1435)
• United States
15 Jul 09
It'a not a shame! I have thought about this, too, and wondered if it was an American thing that after you turn 18 you need to start physically separating from your parents. I think, just like any other situation, as long as you or your parents don't mind - and you are not living your life like you are still a child - there's no problem. There is nothing wrong with embracing our family members, especially those that gave birth to us. There is nothing written in stone that says that we must stay a certain distance from them once we become adults. In today's world people are a little to individualistic and removed from others. And, there are such a variety of living situations that I don't see one who lives with their parents as awkward. This could actually be a beneficial situation for all involved. Divorce, finances, elder care, single parenthood and a loving relationship are all good reasons for someone to live with their parents. I would rather see a child being raised in a house with their mom or dad and their grandparents than to be raised alone with a single parent (especially when that single parent has to juggle family time and finances). Remember, it takes a village to raise a child?
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• India
16 Jul 09
well its not a shame at all !!!!!!!infact if u c the other side u get a chance to take gud care of them ..............i dunt feel any1 shud leav there parents aftr 25 !!!
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I don't think that it is law. To each his own. And, just because someone lives with their parents doesn't mean that they are not a viable human being or that they don't have a grown up life.
@jellymonty (2358)
15 Jul 09
Personally I think its not really ideal to live with your parents if you're over 21 years old. I haven't lived with my parents since I was 17 and it's great to be independent and now I'm looking after them. I think if your over 25 and live with your parents it symbolizes that you are lazy and afraid and don't want to face the battles of life and you're still clinging to mummy and daddy.. I once dated a guy who didn't mention that he lives with his parents. He's 42. I wasn't impressed with that so well that ended. I know in the UK its becoming common now for people to move back in with their parents but from my point especially if your a bloke, 25 and still live with your parents that really isn't very manly. I mean at the end of the day when we grow up we're meant to leave our parents and start a life of our own.
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@jalucia (1435)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Devil's Advocate: Who says we are meant to leave our parents? Start a life of our own, yes. But, exactly where does it say that we have to "leave" our parents?
15 Jul 09
personally i think that if i did not have children i would love to be still living with my mum! and i think alot of people are staying at home now as they can't afford to move out especially with this reccession going on. i think it is up to the individuals as long as they don't take the micky out of their parents expecting them to do everything and pay for them then its all good.
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• Indonesia
16 Jul 09
I do not think it caused a custom or any kind of that.. I'm married woman with two children and we live at my mother in law's house. I think the same with Louisey...it is up to the individuals as long we do not disrupt the lives of parents. I wont staying with the parents if i can afford to buy a house... Wish that we can buy a lovely home..for own family..i hope someday..it becomes reality
@lealuvy2j (1999)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Here in the Philippines, it isn't a big deal because our culture has strong family ties. Heck, I am 24 years old but I'm still living with my parents. lol! I like living in my parents house because number one, rent is free and number 2, more money for me because rent is free. lol. I don't want to be living in a crappy apartment with high rent when I know I can live comfortably in my parent's house. When I have my own family or before I'm 30 years old that is when I'm going to move out . :)
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• India
16 Jul 09
yahh u r right u one want to live nw free in ths agee. i thnk parents has to thnk abt them their emotions that they want to live free nw
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• India
16 Jul 09
This discussion has been responded by many. The question has raised by new generation who may not be aware of the fact that their own forefathers were live in joint family setup.That bondage was universal at that time. Still in many countries there are people who practice joint family system where three generation are live together in one family. But I take this question in a different manner i.e asking the youngsters whether they are still depending upon their parental income? In that case my advise is that they should raise themselves and earn more and should not be a burden to the family.
• India
16 Jul 09
I Feel Proud to say that i stay with my parents.Bcz they have given life for us.still we are there means they are with us.. LOVE ELDERS AND THEY LOVE U
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• Philippines
16 Jul 09
I don't think so. It might be because your parents needs you and you are the only one capable of taking care of them day in and day out.
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@amitnaik (471)
• India
16 Jul 09
Definitely its not a shame to be with your parents.According to me being independent is not good thing if you can't look after your parents in a proper manner.Separation is not so important as far as you add up to your family income by being with them.even the parents think that they should live with their children. Anyway very nice topic for a discussion! Have a nice day!
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• Philippines
16 Jul 09
In our country, it is not a shame to be still living at our parents house. We belong to a country that is family oriented. Usually we can only live on our own if we would get married. Some married couples up to now stay with their parents. It has never been a problem with all of us because that is how our culture is. It is good thing to be dependent, but we cannot force the issue if we cannot afford to own a home or rent a house since times at these times.
• India
16 Jul 09
No Way, I Am living with my Parents From when I am Born ..... After Marriage Even My Wife And kids Joined Us ..... It is Lovely To have so many people who Care ........ It is Indeed Great to Live With Your Parents ......... I Love It ..... Do Lot More And More On MyLot ........
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• China
16 Jul 09
I am 25 years old.Every time i go home and i always live with my parents.I also do not need to take care of my parents. What is important is what you want to do.Just do it following your heart. So i don't think it is a shame if I live with my parents.
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• India
16 Jul 09
guys ts only shameful if u live wid ur parents widout earning nething, dependable upon dem n r not capable 2 help ur parents otherwise ts perfectly fine....
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@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Hi! Well here in the Philippines, it is not expected of you to be living away from your family when you reach the age of 18 unlike in other places particularly the United States. I am way beyond 25 and I am here with my parents who are 75 and 81. I do not see anything wrong with being here. They are already in their golden years and I wish to be here to guide them. And besides, I am not married myself so I do not see myself being a nuisance to them.
@youless (85198)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Jul 09
I don't think so. Here we have a different culture. It is not a shame to live with parents. First, the house is quite expensive and it is not easy for every young person to afford a new house. Second, we pay attention to the family relationship. We shall take care of our parents when they grow old. So we live together happily. I love China
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• United Kingdom
16 Jul 09
I think that if you are living with your parents and they are in need, that's to say, if they are in need of care or something then it's very admirable to be staying with them and helping them out, otherwise I think that it's a good thing to move out and seek independence. I have been living alone since the age of fifteen. I have no regrets regarding this decision. I love my independence now and I would not change it for the world. You experience a great sense of freedom and you can do what you want when you want. On the other side of the coin, I suppose there's nothing wrong if someone chooses to remain living with their parents. As always, it's the individual's choice. If the parents are happy with this then I guess there isn't really a major problem. Andrew
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• Philippines
16 Jul 09
I know from some, that it isn't manly or mature to remain in your parents house when you reach 25. it actually depends on the situation of every person. and I don't want to embarrass myself here. but i still do live with my parents house. well, just me and my mom. i could have planned to live on my own..but unfortunately, expenses had gone way up high and buying a house or loaning is terrible idea. when i had a job i took care all of the bills, even give my elder brothers money. i don't believe that staying still on your parents house makes you less of a person. as for me, who would take care of mom if am not around.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 09
Good question... well you see, in asia those kids who don't live with their parents is considered a big deal. It is naturally assumed that when a baby is born the parents take care of it. and so when the kid grows up he/she must take care of their aging parents. those kids who put their parents in foster homes are considered the bad onces. I know in US people think adults who live alone are independent. But in asia it is not. Parent these days might not need huge support like the old days, but it is still a comforting thought that they have an able adult at home that can help them out in anything.
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