Why are children conceived out of wedlock not treated the same way as children conceived when wedded

Nigeria
July 17, 2009 2:52pm CST
Some parent give birth to children out of wedlock and when most of them get married they refuse to treat this children the same way they treat those conceived when they are fully wedded.They show them less concern,which is not good.Why do they behave this way?
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@Elixiress (3893)
23 Aug 09
I have never heard of this happening. What evidence do you have that this actually happens? I was born out of wedlock and so was my sister, and I do not think that either of us are treated any different to our friends who were born within wedlock.
• United States
23 Jul 09
ok I think this is a great question! I belive that my son whom is my ex's son I will always love him differently... but not less. I mean my son i wanted him for so long and when i got him it did not matter if i had to raise him totally alone. I wanted him. I have prayed about his life and him being able to a chive the things he desires well before i even thought to have him. the reason i think i will love him differently is because while me and his father i no longer together... he is strong like his dad, he is handsome like his father and all the best part of his father that i love he shows even at 6 months old. If i ever have other children it will be different because I don't if they will be with my sons father. so i may love then differently from my son. not more or less. i thing that when a child is loved less... that the adult are trying to prove somthing to there spouse... that is not fair to the child. If this is happening to someone you know I am sorry.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
19 Jul 09
I have never heard of this before. I have when it comes to stepchildren not out of wedlock children. My two girls were born out of wedlock from the same man and if I was to have had anymore they would not have been treated different just because I was now married. That is totally ridiculous!
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
17 Jul 09
I honestly can't say why someone would do this. Maybe they feel that the second child was more "legitimate" or something and they're ashamed they had the first one out of wedlock? It's hard for me to give an explanation because I've never encountered a family like that. Almost 90% of the families around here had at least their first child out of wedlock but they don't treat their other children any differently than their first. Lucky for me, my mother had both my sister and I out of wedlock, even though we're 16 years apart, so no worries there. ^_^