What is the difference between being open to new ideas and being a push-over???

Pondering the Light - I took this picture as I was reading a theology book written by the early Chinese muses. I looked up at the light, and all I saw was the fringes of light gleaming off of my fiance's head. I grabbed the camera to picture this before I missed the opportunity.
July 20, 2009 12:51am CST
When people say that it is cool to be open minded about something, I often wonder if they really mean open minded, or are they trying to hint on the fact that they do not like to be judged even though they know they are wrong themselves. I just want some outside thoughts on this because when I am way off the mark I want people to tell me. Plus, according to my own theology, we can only better ourselves through judgment of ourselves and the situations that we see every day. This means that judging others helps us to grow as individuals. Where do we draw the line?!?!? Should we re-phrase the way we say do not judge me??? or is this just a non-important nit-picking of words, and I have missed the main idea all along?
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@Telynor (1763)
• United States
7 Apr 16
I have what I like to think is an open mind. But I'm also a skeptic, and tend to use logic to dissect any new ideas that roll along.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Being open minded is really different from a push-over. When you're open-minded you welcome ideas even though they are different from you... it doesn't mean you need to change your idea but you won't be pushing your way to change other people's conception about a certain thing either. They are the ones who excel in learning coz they absorb the good input from others and trash the ones that are irrelevant and useless... A push-over on the other hand is the one who agrees with everyone else. He can't fight for the things that he wants. He has issues communication his ideas and just accepts whatever input others are giving him. It's a sad state in short.
@coolsid2007 (1030)
• India
20 Jul 09
I really think you have missed the main idea, I mean people open with new ideas know what they know, and do not accept new ideas just for the sake of coming to a conclusion. If a person finds out compared to his idea "a", idea "b" is correct then he will follow idea "b" instead of just stuck with his head in clouds. Open minded people are ready to discuss and confront and then also ready to accept if needed. On the contrary, push-overs really do not have any strong ideas of their own, they lack the confidence in themselves and their ideas. They can be easily convinced of them being wrong and will follow others.
• United States
21 Jul 09
Being open-minded is a simple way to say we're open to new ideas and opinions, and will weigh and consider them before deciding to agree or disagree. A few days ago, someone's post on this site left me doing some serious thinking about issues I thought I was pretty straight-out decided upon. I'm definitely considering the point of view he brought up, and it's impacting the way I thought before. That's how it woks. It doesn't matter how anyone judges us, at all.
• United States
21 Jul 09
I think you have missed the point just a little. I don't think it is right to judge other people, it's not my place in life to do that. I don't really think that judging people has anything to do with being open minded. Being open minded is being open to new things/ideas, but you don't HAVE to agree with them. I think that people should be openminded, or they are closing themselves off to wonderful things in life.
@Flikker (34)
• South Africa
20 Jul 09
An open minded person is one who is willing to change their mind if they are convinced by the soundest of the new idea. A push over on the other hand will adopt the new idea not due too internal belief, but rather external pressure (the opinion of another person).
@ifancy (63)
• China
20 Jul 09
in my opinion, one who is open minded means that he/she keeps open as to certain issue or product. he/she might not accept such idea or do that kind of thing but will not try to keep others from believing such idea or doing that kind of thing. maybe it is what we called liberty. besides, i don not think the only way to improve ourselves is through judgement of ourselves or others. we have to improve ourselves by learning from others, including their good points and noble action. we do have the liberty to make judgements on others, either good or bad, but i donnot think it is rational to try to keep them from their own habits. we donnot have the right to do that. if the habit interfered with the public or the law, department exists to carrying out that kind of thing.