Are you OK if your husband/wife Smokes?

@daliaj (5689)
India
July 20, 2009 3:56am CST
I can't take it. I am allergic to the smoke of cigars. I will get irritated if somebody stands next to me smokes in public places. Now, there is a law passed in my country saying 'Smoking in public places is a crime'. Moreover, I don't want people to get lung cancer. Can you take it if your life partner smokes? Do you smoke? Is that ok with your life partner? How often do you smoke? Don't you know that it is not good for health?
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@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
20 Jul 09
No, I am not a smoker, but my husband is, I get very irritated when I see him smoking as he is not keeping good health, moreover the smoke makes me feel sick. I have been asking him to stop but so far I see he has no idea. Now I have said that it is he who is going to bear the consequences and I am not going to care.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
20 Jul 09
That is as good way to look about it, but at the same time you can educate him about the after effects of smokig and finally take him out of this bad habit. There are certain centers which helps smokers to come out of it. I hope you can do it in the near future. All the best for you! Thanks for the resposne.
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@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
I don't like smokers, I prefer not to hang out with them. Second hand smoke is much worse so I try to keep away from smokers. If a person smokes, I would definitely not consider him to be a lifetime partner, I would not be interested in having any romantic connection whatsoever.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
20 Jul 09
It is good not to hang out with them because smokers sometimes tempt others to smoke. My friend Harish started smoking because of his friendship with smokers. My friend Selva stopped smoking, later he started it becauase he moved to a house where his room mates were smokers. Somtimes, we can't avoid or ignore somebody because they are smokers. I have a good friend who is a big smoker, but I can't help because he is very nice to me.
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@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
20 Jul 09
My life partner smokes but when I knew he was smoking so what am I going to do than to love him that way, I know it is not good either for his health or the wallet but like he says it is only money, we all spend it in one thing or the other thing. I used to smoke but stop.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
21 Jul 09
It is great to know that you used to smoke, but now stopped. I have seen that it is very difficult to stop smoking once you got into it. I apperciate you for stopping smoking. I think you can help your husband to stop smoking. You can take thim through the ways which you have gone through to stop smoking. Thanks for the response.
@sarafii74 (106)
• Australia
20 Jul 09
Me too, daliaj. I can not accept my husband smokes. Fortunately, my boyfriend doesn't smoke. That's good for him and for me, or even good for our future child.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
20 Jul 09
It is good for you. My husband also doesn't smoke. He doesn't like to be in places with a lot of smokes. It is good because now a days many people are getting cancer because they get to intake a lot of smoke and not because they are smokers. Thanks for the response. Have a good day.
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• Australia
29 Jul 09
That's so true! My father is a smoker, and most of the time I get a lot of smoke from him. He also realized that but he said he was too old to quit, and he also said he wanted me to find someone who was not a smoker to get married.
@prinzcy (5057)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 09
My partner doesn't smoke in front of me. I can't accept someone who would puff the smoke towards me. I can't stop him from smoking, I don't have that right. At least I tell him not to do it in front of me. I am sensitive to smoke. If he can't do at least that, he better be with someone else. Hopefully, this won't change if he become my life partner.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
20 Jul 09
It is great that atleast he is not smoking infront of you. It is a good sign becuase it says he can come out of it. Usually people who are addicted to smoke can't control when they feel to smoke. They feel to have a puff whenever they take a good meal or whenever it rains. I don't understand the feeling behind it. Thanks for the response.
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@Ammudoll (549)
• India
20 Jul 09
Even I get irritated with the smoking and the smell comes from them after smoking is horrible.Thank God my fiancee does not smoke and i am happy for that. I can kiss him whenever I want LOL . My colleague and he is my friend's boy friend he smokes and I hate when he comes near to me and passes from my desk. He smells yakk when he smokes.
@impaktita (966)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
my spouse and I both smoke and so does everyone is our household. i guess we do know its bad but its obviously a habbit we know we wont be able to just drop. we've gotten used to smoking when we wake up while drinking our coffee. smoking after eating a meal and even smoking while watching tv or surfing the internet.
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• India
20 Jul 09
when i got married to my husband he used to smoke i did not have any problem then so now too i dont have any problem with him smoking.. i too smoke but very rarely .. its only when im with my close friends and my husband..
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@aeadams (126)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
Me too, I hate smokers. It makes me cough and allergic. My husband smokes all the time and it irritates me. I just make him go out of the house if he really cant hold it. We both know that its bad for health but he just wont quit. I wonder if anyone here would share what benefits could he get from smoking?
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@doryvien (2293)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Hi, I don't smoke and I don't like its smell so as much as possible I stay away from anyone who smokes. Fortunately, my husband doesn't smoke too so I don't have that problem. Also, smoking is banned in my workplace, those who do have a designated area where they can smoke and they are not allowed to stay anywhere in the office except there. I must say I'm very lucky I don't need to endure smokers.
• United Arab Emirates
29 Jul 09
Hello! I hate smokers, lucky i am that my husband doesn't smoke. Unfortunately,i have lots of heavy smoker collegues that they tend to smoke even inside our fully airconditioned office. At first I managed to ignore them squeezing on some air freshner in my area to neutralize the atmosphere. But when I start conceiving, i make it a point with my superior that if I smell a smoke at anytime of the day I can leave the office and go home so as not to risk the health of my unborn baby. And so, he had talked to everybody to refrain from smoking inside the office. I don't really know when I get back to work after giving birth if i'll be having same problem with the smokers......
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
29 Jul 09
You must be a cherished employee to be able to "threaten" your boss like that LOL. But really, I believe all companies should enforce a non-smoking environment and just give the smokers a certain place where they can stay when they feel the need to smoke. There should be a shared responsibility in keeping the environment clean and protecting everyone's health.
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jul 09
Certainly! He is the big boss and I am his secretary, he needs my valued services all day. Besides we are a pharma company and because health matters to us he is opt to do something to ensure a safe and healthy environment inside the workplace. I have nothing against those smokers as long as they are on the smoking designated area which is just a ride in an elevator down the building.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
20 Jul 09
I am not a husband and I dont have a wife. But still i hate anyone smoking. Ths smell is nauseating. I dont smoke, i dont want others to smoke, i will not let anyone to smoke in my presence in public places.
• India
20 Jul 09
Smokers are like railway engines, always puffing out smoke
@daliaj (5689)
• India
21 Jul 09
That is a good comparison. I feel sorry for the people who are addicted to smoking. I have a good friend who is a smoker. I can't keep myself away from him only because of the fact that he is a smoker. He behaves very nicely to me and he helps me a lot with my work in office. I can't simply ignore him, but I hates smoking a lot. Thanks for the response.
• India
20 Jul 09
well if my partners smokes i vll leav him i hate smoking ,,,,,i will ask him either me or smoking lolzzzzzzzz.....it effects ur health badly so i preffer mmy patner not to smoke....
@daliaj (5689)
• India
21 Jul 09
It is nice to see a bold person who can say that he will leave his partner if he or she smokes. That is good for your health. It seems that you are very much concerned about your health. Yes, health is wealth and we should be very careful about that. Sometimes, I feel that I can't hate somebody only because the reason taht he is a smoker, but I hate smoking a lot. Thanks for the response.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
23 Jun 10
Hi, daliaj. No my husband does not smoke at all. Neither do I either. I don't think that I would enjoy him being a smoker. It is not good for ones health at all.
• United States
22 Jun 10
Can some one help me..my husband smokes..he has promised to quit for 20 years...my daughter cries when she catches him..he smells and he has been working out of twon for the last 6 months..we only see him on weekends so it is worst I get sick around the smell every monday I have a slight sinus infection and cough...I am a health nut/..he says i am amking it up ..can his second hand smoke be doing this to me ????I need to show proof so maybe he can think of my health insitead of his selfish bad habit..HELP
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
I always said to myself that I would never date anybody who smokes...but i dated a guy who smokes all the time, I guess I loved him too much that time that I forgot all about y 'no smoking around me' rules...
@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
29 Jul 09
No, I do not smoke. But my husband does in spite of repeated warnings from me. I cannot just stand the smell and I have tried hard to make him stop this habit. Well now I am really tired after all he knows what he is doing. But,he does not smoke in public.
@tutor19us (455)
• India
29 Jul 09
I personally do not have a problem with smokers as long as they are away from me and not blowing on my face. Hmm I have a problem if my spouse smokes. I do not smoke and I know the ill effects of smoking. :)
@busky5 (3166)
• Thailand
29 Jul 09
I don't like my closely people smoking.I will have a friend or husband smoking.I don't like smoking really.
@radx682 (327)
• India
24 Jul 09
Smoking is a strict "NO No" with me. We are really blessed to live as humans in this beautiful world. Spoiling our life by getting addicted to these deadly inventions easily proves that we don't care about our family.
@Elaine77 (315)
• China
21 Jul 09
I dont like my guy smokes, but when he goes out with his college or friends, they all big smokers, and I cant prevent them from smoking. so I dont care if he smoke anywhere except our house, I know smoke is bad for our health, but I cant prevent him smoking while all of his friends are smoking.