I'm falling inlove with a pregnant woman.

@jojorv (201)
Philippines
July 23, 2009 11:00am CST
She's pregnant, and i'm not the father of that child. She's has no plans of marrying the man who got her pregnant because of personal differences. I'm one of her friends and she comes to me everytime she needs someone to share her pains and problems of her pregnancy. Because of our closeness I'm beginning to fall for her. Should I pursue my feelings for her?
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9 responses
• United States
23 Jul 09
If you do, you better mean it. There aren't many women who are as vulnerable as single pregnant women. And you better realize that if you start a romantic relationship with her, you have to accept that baby with her, its part of the deal. You can't just have her. I married a man who claimed to love my kids as his own, and shortly after the marriage, he showed his true colors and wanted nothing to do with my kids, but he kept pestering me to have one with him. I am so glad that I didn't, and am not with him anymore. But it has made me very untrusting of men who say they love my kids.
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
yes, my intentions are very sincere. i want to take care of her and her baby. tnx
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 09
Go for it provided that both of you have considered the repercussions of having a baby whose father is not you but another man. Yes, you could marry this girl but is it really love or merely infatuation or sympathy? Think of the possible complications. Are both of you ready to face them? If both of you are absolutely ready and prepared, then go for it. :) Hey, good luck and keep us updated.
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
thanks kev, i'll keep you posted.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Pursue your feelings only if you feel you are ready to get married and then raise another man's child. Take a close look at what happened to the relationship with this child's father. Be sure that your relationship could never go there. If it can you may be left holding the bag after you commit yourself. Marriage is a huge commitment but raising a child is even more so and can truly test a weak marriage. Say nothing until you are absolutely positive that you can move on with her and that she loves you.
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
thanks for the advice.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
25 Jul 09
You are becoming a very close friend of the pregnant lady. I suggest you don't make a move on your feelings just yet. Pregnancy is an emotional time and the lady might not b ready for another relationship yet. If you and her did get together you would have to discuss the father's likely reaction. I think your friend needs your support and when the time is right you could give her a gentle hint about your feelings. Good luck.
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 09
You should pursue your feelings for her if you think things may work out, or that maybe she feels the same way. But if not it's a complete No-go area. You will need to accept that she may still see the child's father, for example, when the father picks up the child etc. as well as accepting the child itself. Dont risk the friendship if you think it's going to turn sour.
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
yes i agree with you, i might risk the friendship if i will pursue with my feelings. but i'm confident because my intention is clean and i am willing to take that risk. tnx.
@xuxphy (23)
• China
25 Jul 09
If you are rearlly sincere, just do it.
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
yep. very sincere.
@youless (112124)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Jul 09
I must say that you are a very nice man. If you love her, I think you should let her know. It is also good for her and her baby. It is not easy for a pregnant to live alone. It is also tough for her to take care of her baby in the future. If she and her baby will have a husband and dad, how nice it will be!
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Hi there! If there's no one who will cause a problem if you will have a relationship with her, then pursue her. If you think that your family will accept her though she's carrying the other guy's child I don't think you have a reason not to have her. Or maybe you are thinking about what other people would say? What's important is your feelings for her. But do you think she feels the same way too?
• India
23 Jul 09
my advice is do whatever she want . if married her means you will not do anything . try to join her with husband . If really like her means surely you not marry her and decided to join her with husband