How much are you willing to give up for love?

Philippines
July 23, 2009 10:00pm CST
I know we basically ask this question when we are in a relationship. Are we willing to give up everything for the person we love? Or would you rather hold back something for yourself and not give it your all? If indeed you are willing to give up things for love, how much are you willing to give? I've been in a relationship where I felt like I have given it all I've got. I'm not sure I did the right thing, because in the process I felt like I lost myself.
9 responses
@bird123 (10632)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Should a person really have to give up anything for love??? To give your love something is wonderful to see the joy in their eyes. I love to do that. I am unwilling to let my love give up things she wants or things she wants to do or become. Isn't part of true love allowing freedom everyone deserves? You never have to worry. Set them free they come back to you.Allow them to be who they must!! Everyone is much happier.
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• Philippines
24 Jul 09
Good point! It really shouldn't be construed as giving up things for the one you love. I guess it should be more like sharing or compromising. I don't know if i make sense. Haha!
• United States
24 Jul 09
well i wouldn't give up much. because i could find love and lose it. so why give up alot if its not permanant. i can find love in alot of places. with different people. but if your talking about finding love with one person i would give up just a little to make it work. and if your talking about finding love with any one. i would give up half of everything i have because without any one to love you is a sad life to lead.
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• Philippines
24 Jul 09
A sad life, indeed, if you have no one to love and no one to love you. :) Thanks for the response! :)
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
hi there! i think when we are very much in love, we tend to do anything and is prone in doing anything even beyond what we can do...we feel like we were able to do anything and give up anything for the one we love...and when the relationship didn't work well...all we get is pain and regrets! so i think, its not bad to love...to give and do something to our love...but make sure to leave something for yourself...learn to love yourself first... me, i already gave up my career for the man i love. after marrying him, i stopped working coz he's work assignment is far from where i am working and i am required to stop working...i am going on the peak of my career then, but since i love and respect him i go with him...but just good that i don't regret it and i am happy with the outcome of our relationship...he's worth it...
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
right! i hope you you will be happy in your next relationship... have a nice day and thanks!
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
Thanks for the response! Yes, it's exactly what I went through. When i fell in love it just felt natural to give it my all. But then I just realized one day that I had lost myself. That's the downside. You're absolutely right. We should learn to love ourselves first. Otherwise, how can we love others. We cannot give what we don't have, right?
• United States
24 Jul 09
I think I would begin to give things but if I don't think it is going to work out i would just leave. I would never give up friendships or hurt anyone over a relationship. If they cant except what and who is in your life then they are not right for you because you still have to be you or you will be unhappy
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• Philippines
24 Jul 09
I agree. I guess if you are in a relationship and you find yourself not being true to who you are then there is something wrong. You need to examine the relationship and decide whether to stay or let go.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
25 Jul 09
no no no don't give him everything . To keep a relationship i think we have to be sincere, frank, trustful to each other but that donesn't mean you lose your whole self completely for him. You should also have your own things in your deep heart and it's not the right thing for you to give up anything including your own family ,your friends, your assets , your faith .
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Give a part of you but always make some reservations for yourself. Love is like a fire, it stays lighted for as long as there is something being burned but once there's nothing more to burn, the fire will die. Similarly, love is so intense when we are so interested in finding out about our partner, but when we already knew everything_ things becomes so routinize that even the phrase, "I love you" is just a normal line that you hear from each other. That is why, always keep something for yourself_ to keep his interest on you.
• United States
24 Jul 09
I believe that when you find true love you will not feel anything but satisfaction and happiness. It is something that you know and will be willing to risk anything for it. Love is worth everything and without it you are nobody.
• India
25 Jul 09
You tod, Love is worth everything and without it you are nobody. But dear, if you lose everything because of love, you yourself will be converted to nobody! Love is a dream, but you and your life is a reality. You cannot lose everything because of love. That will be utter foolish act. Correct me, if I am wrong!
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
i don't know if i can tell how much i am willing to give up for love unless i am being dared or challenged seriously. It's like i won't give up my internet addiction for my love but i would donate my kidney if needed ...in a heartbeat. See the difference? The most urgent and the most important things are the once easier to give up then stupid ones like internet addiction. So i guess it varies from situation to situation. Sometimes we would even give out life to extend our love's life. If you're talking about your virginity, well ladies fall in love so ladies give it away but it's not like you've lost everything.
@kryzell (921)
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Gave up a lot for the sake of love. But I always end up realizing that the person involved was not worth it. Lesson learned here... is always to leave something for yourself, or else you'll end up so wounded like me.
• United States
24 Jul 09
For my current situation I am willing to give up somethings to be with my hearts desire, but within reason. I wouldn't want to lose my own identity. My opinion is love is all about give and take. You have to give some, yet you should get something in return. Both parties should be willing to sacrifice somethings if it is a true relationship. Bottomline is I am willing to sacrifice within reason. I guess for most people it would depend on the person and how much you were in love with them.