Do you love and marry a deaf person?

@Wismay (2038)
India
July 24, 2009 4:34am CST
Hi friends, Think that you find the person with all the good qualities but he/she is deaf. What do you do? You don't wan't to be with such a person as it will be drawback throughout the life? Do you think you need a lot of patience to get going with the person? What do you do? No, just for sympathy etc is not to be considered. And ya, one can hear 'digital hearing aid' and be normal but that is not to be considered. Even if 'hearing aid' is used there will be times one can't wear. So share your views! Happy Mylotting!
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16 responses
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
If i am going to marry a person, I go for love, not minding of his physical disability. Prior to getting married, I have enough time to make sure whether or not I would accept him for everything that he is, including his physical limitations. I know it would be hard, but if marriage will be based on genuine love and acceptance, then everything else will be easy.... Thank you!
@Wismay (2038)
• India
24 Jul 09
Yes, understanding and communication is the key for success in such situations
@voldrox (7205)
• India
24 Jul 09
hi i will marry a deaf women if i really love her, the toughest part is to find the right partner for life and if she is deaf, i would still want her and never make her feel like she is disabled... no, sympathy doesn't count when you are about to marry someone, no one does that, marriage is a very big issue and you don't want to play games with others lives by marrying someone just because you sympathize for someone... i think my family will realize our relationship even though at the starting it might be tough but i know my parents and they are very reasonable, they will let us get married...
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
3 Aug 09
thank you for the BR friend
@katsalot1 (1619)
24 Jul 09
If you love that person then it would make absolutely no difference that they were deaf. Also, when you are in a close relationship with someone, verbal communication isn't so important because you know each other so well. Apart from that, everybody has their own imperfections!
@Wismay (2038)
• India
24 Jul 09
Yes as you say everyone has imperfections but some are not so obvious so many people overlook them or can't recognize them!
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
24 Jul 09
I might love and marry a deaf person, but there are a lot of factors included in that. I will give importance to love and not for the deafness of the person. My parents might not want me to marry a deaf person. Then, it will become an issue. I don't want to do anything that makes my parents feel sad. So, I would like to say it depends on a lot of factors. But, I will never leave the person I love, ife he becomes deaf.
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@Wismay (2038)
• India
24 Jul 09
Yes it depends on situations especially about marriage as you said about parents but love is different it has no bindings
• China
24 Jul 09
I don't think that is the matter if you love she/he truely. Appearnace and age are not the problems, I think.
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@meapas (2435)
• India
24 Jul 09
Pure love is blind. You can't see anything not even the minute handicap, so why not?
@Wismay (2038)
• India
24 Jul 09
Yes love doesn't care anything that is why it is love!
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
If love is blind, love can also be deaf... ;-)
@yanzalong (5434)
• Indonesia
25 Jul 09
It all depends on the power of your love. Before you decided to love someone, you actually prioritize all her or his qualities. For example : inner or outer quality. Is why you love her/him his/her inner or outer qualities? If you love someone because of her being beautiful or handsome, you may look down on other drawbacks.
• China
25 Jul 09
i can't say yes or no since it havn't happend to me,but i guess i will get to mute day after day if i am marry him.
@simonelee (2721)
• China
25 Jul 09
I don't mind marrying a differently abled person. It is not a minus for me if he is deaf, what is important is that i feel his love and i love him. If his listening has taken away to him, I know that he is much better in other way and he will not be a burden to me.=D
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
If i love the person, then i will marry him/her sepite of his/her disability.That is how love woks for me.
• India
25 Jul 09
If love is blind, then whatz the matter if the person is deaf? It doesn't matter if deaf or blind. Pure lvoe alwayz stays..
@kprofgames (2906)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I guess I look at that as just a part of who a person is. If I liked and fell in love, then I don't see being deaf as a drawback here. Honestly, I have a daughter to communicates through sign language so I guess I see this differently the most people do. When you really think about it, everyone has something different about them at one point or another, so you just adapt out of love and respect and build a life with them. It's pretty simple, I think over thinking about it can make it more complicated than it is.
@Basil2004 (105)
25 Jul 09
I became good friends with a very nice, witty, intelligent and good looking deaf girl through the internet. She is Finnish, has a University degree and her written English is superb. I even learned to finger spell so that I could communicate with her via our webcams. Sign language is a much faster way to communicate but takes time to learn. Would I marry a deaf girl? I would marry her in a second!
• United States
25 Jul 09
There are a lot of ways to communicate with other people. If I love my partner who is handicapped about hearing, I still can communicate with him by sign language. As long as we love each other, I will stay by his side forever.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
24 Jul 09
i only believe the fate,if i love him,i select to marry him.maybe you think this thought is very nonsonce,but i found the love's life is very important,i remember i love the boy whose behaviour is very free and like to bet money,he waste his time to travel and do the wrong thing,let his family sad,his parents educated him for many times and never change his defaults,i love him deeply and suffer for what he have done,finally i decided to leave him.when i leave him for several days,he called the phone and said,he love me and change his errors for me,but i refuse him.i have miss him since i left him,i have never forget him,i think there is not this sorrow if i accept his love,the life dont need the sorrow,this need us to face some difficulty and overcome it,i believe that somebody can understand this love.
@Mac6999 (706)
• India
24 Jul 09
Well if you really love that person and think they have the qualities you are lookig for then I dont see any harm in getting married to a deaf person. Its not the deafness to be considered there other factors that make a good match. I must say it will be a challenge to communicate. Fortunately these days there are technologies that can help communicate.