quantity or quality
By TREASURE9899
@TREASURE9899 (31)
Brunei Darussalam
July 27, 2009 10:23am CST
Hi..
I have Two children coming 10 and 11 years. I was married at the age of 20,means that I have been getting married for almost 13 years this coming 08Aug..During my early marriage, my husband and I planned to have like 3 girl and 3 boy. Because we like big family,though our earning could not afford not even to have a child. But after my 2nd daugther born, I could felt the heat of economic crisis, time spending. Thus, I aimed to have 2 girls only. I can't be hipocrite by agreeing being young mother was such an excitement, but the truth was.. I was not ready for the challenges.
Until today, I still feel the pain, not on the delivery side, but it was more to raising them at the very very best decision and tougher situation. So, I took prevention to avoid pregnancy because I don't believe in Quantity. Eventhough I am Asian women, Quality of life to be provide is the MUST HAVE things.
What would you choose?
9 responses
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
28 Jul 09
When me and my wife first met, both of us already have kids from our own previous relationships. And so when we came to live together, we never planned about the kids of our own.
But after two years, we talked about having kids but only to just two, a boy and a girl. After ten years, we are already settled to two. We always think of the possible financial difficulties, having large family.
Some mis-calculations or maybe caused by some unwelcomed situations, another baby is born. And it came in time that global crisis starts.
I lost one of my jobs, and so it goes, I now suffer difficulties in budgetting.
Of course I am not blaming any one for what is happening to my family.
At least, we came to the end, no worries, for we agreed to have her ligated.
But if I the king, I will rule for the QUALITY of life for my kingdom.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Having many children at this time is not really a wise thing to do. Let us just be practical. Parenthood does not end after you have given birth. So many things are still to be done after that, just like school. If you would have a big family, the time that you will spend with each child would be limited. How can you give quality time to your kids if you have much load on your hand. You also owe it to yourself to take some time off. For me, I would rather just have a small family, a family that I could manage well.
@jujuby (62)
• India
28 Jul 09
As all indian woman i also prefer to have a micro family,which can be led happily,Quantity of kids can be more but what quality of things we could provide them?Education Food Privacy so on..so i think it is better to plan according to our capacity of affordability.
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
28 Jul 09
For me two is enough . It's sure that it takes time and money to raise children . If too many children and without enough money the quality of life won't be guranteed . Actually we are only allowed to have one child and it's a pity. i think if allowed i would like to have two .
@stephwrites (275)
• United States
28 Jul 09
treasure, I will be married 14 years on 08aug! I have five children and only two of them were planned. Thank goodness we are done now! I do agree, if I had the choice, that I would have had less children. But that does not mean that I love those I have any less. We are struggling too, especially since the oldest one just finished high school and should be leaving soon. If he takes more responsibility for himself it will help us but we just do the best we can with what we have! God bless, Steph
@madamenihao (117)
• China
28 Jul 09
I agree with you...I plan to have one baby only.But my husband would like 1 girl and 1 boy....
The quality is more important than the quantity...
@ckhair13 (185)
• United States
27 Jul 09
We have one daugher who is 13 months old...she was born right when the economic crisis was just starting to get really bad...so for right now she is all we can afford...so we honestly can't see us having more children at least for awhile! We love her dearly & wouldn't change her for the world, but she is a lot of work & diapers, food etc is not cheap! Today I even notice the price of the diapers I always buy went up 15 cents! I just bought the same ones a week ago Friday! I can't imagine having another one right now! We really wouldn't be able to afford it...at least we realize these things cuz I have a friend who just keeps having more & more kids, every time I turn around she's pregnant & then she says they are broke...gee can't imagine why?
@OpinionatedLady (5966)
• United States
27 Jul 09
We too have stopped having kids do to economical difficulties. We had planned on having 3 kids then adopting a few more. We have the three and our finances have taken a nose dive so for now kids are on hold. Quality of life is very important, if we cannot feed or cloth our kids we have no right to bring more into the world. When we are back on our feet that will be a diffrent story. We are alike in this even though we live on diffrent sides of the earth.
@crossover3 (29)
• China
27 Jul 09
Beyond all doubt, my answer is QUALITY.
Once you give birth to a child, you have the responsibility to raise him or her up, to offer him or her the best education, and to teach him or her to be a person who is good to the society.
This process takes time and enery, as well as money.
If you cannot handle to much at one time. It's more advisable to concentrate on your two child.
And a family of four is also big enough.
ps: I'm only a 20-year-old boy, don't have much experience on that. So my advice may not be right. I will be satisfied if my words can offer some help to you.
