"I am sorry, please forgive me, i lie to you because"...you will forgive or not?

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
July 30, 2009 12:56am CST
How much this words mean to you, if somebody will come and say that he make a mistake, and lie to you...for a reason or other...you will understand and forgive, with promise that next time you will not forgive because he lie to you again. You will forgive a half of lie just because he say "i am sorry?" Do you think that can exist reasons for a lie? Or always you say the truth no matter what? T o say ..i am sorry...mean that you really sorry, or just want to foul somebody just because you know that she or he have a good soul?
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@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
Hi icesmile, People always lie one time or another. That is how we manage our life now. And there is a lot of lie around. And the most lying person on earth is our own politician. They online do what they said if there is election coming and expecting us to vote him/her again. Parents always lie to their child. They do it to stop their child from crying or make a tantrum. They also make a lot of promise that sometimes they never fulfill it. Friends also make lie at one time or another. They do it for various reason. Sometimes they do it to safe their own life or reputation. And sometimes they do it for us. To answer your question, do I forgive them? Most of the time I do. But it is also depend on the reason why they have to lie to me. And is it a repeated lie or what. If this person always lie and just give a nonsense reason for doing that, I wouldn't forgive him/her. Happy mylotting and have a nice day.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
30 Jul 09
My God, now when i read your answer i know how much lie we have around us...can t be true, all our life is based so many lies. I will think in this...so many lies, you right. This world is a big lie, or we can control what we want believe or not?
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@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
Just look around and you will realize it. We also tend to lie for the reason we only knew. Sometimes we have to do it. But most of the time we do it for the sake of reputation.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
30 Jul 09
What about people who say that they never lie? They lie when they say that they never lie?I am sure that all peoples lie, more or less, no body is perfect, but how we deal with perfectionists?
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@jalucia (1435)
• United States
30 Jul 09
We are all told to tell the truth, no matter what. Be an honest person. But, sometimes the truth can do damage if exposed. If left unexposed it might not do as much damage. My philosophy is tell the truth or don't say anything, at all. I don't like liars. But, I am an understanding individual and I know that there are times when people feel it nescessary to fib. I would probably put myself in that person's shoes and ask myself what I would have done. I would try not to hold that person to a higher standard than the one I hold myself too. If I can understand why the person told the lie, and empathize with them, I'm more likely to forgive them. But, I would discuss a better way of handling the situation with them. If I can't relate to this person's behavior it would be harder for me to get over the lie. And, if a person tells stupid little meaningless lies, they are just a habitual liar. I hope not to run into these types of people. Also, stay away from the person who is constantly asking you to forgive them for a lie. Just because they confess doesn't excuse their repitive behavior. They are truthfully dishonest.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
30 Jul 09
Yes...this is my point too, if i must to lie, i prefear don t talk, i keep for myself , and i try don t hurt somebody. I don t believe in white lies too.
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Exactly, I prefer not to hurt peoples feelings even if it means that I must remain silent.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
30 Jul 09
But you know how much silence mean sometimes, is a good answer too...
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
hello ice, its not the words which is the reason that another forgives. but it is the sincerity in those words. sometimes, a tear and a hug is enough to forgive someone. happy mylotting. ann
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
30 Jul 09
A tear and a hug, well is touching, but is hard when can t do this, and can t accept that no body is perfect.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
30 Jul 09
It's a good deed to forgive. So, yes you may forgive him, though it's not easy to forget. However it also means you've to be more careful of him/her as he's a "snake" - very sneaky, and very dangerous to be close with. It's best that you trust him/her less though you could still be a friend.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
30 Jul 09
I hate snakes, and i am afraid, so...i must protect, this is sure.
• China
1 Aug 09
Well, for me, I would acturely forgive her/him, for it is not that easy for a man to admit his fault to you he've made to you, and you should accept his courage and the guts.
@radx682 (327)
• India
31 Jul 09
If the person who is asking sorry is very close to me...I will first feel angry because he / she is so close and how can they do to me...But I ll forgive him / her finally. I have a friend who only speaks the truth...I sometime speak lies..not to her but generally..If by any chance, I lied to her..I almost die... fearing to face her...People who speak the truth are close to God or God fearing..I feel very shameful to face them if I have done some mistake... I have learnt a lot from her..especially how to stick to the truth and belive me it feels great...
@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
No, I don't take lies.. if a person lie to me, and said sorry, I will not forgive him / her. Simply because I never know this person who lie is lying on the sorry part. I hate people lying to me, and it's worst if I found it out myself. I would rather he / she be truthful, and tell me the whole story, as then I be one judge if it's right or wrong..
• United States
30 Jul 09
I don't know, I think it depends on the situation. If it's a situation where I'm the one that found out someone close to me lied to me, then I'll have to see if they were wanting to protect me from the truth and that's why they lied or if they lied to cover up a mistake and to blind me from knowing about it. If it's the latter than I rather that they just told me what happened and the truth rather than lie. I can't forgive someone that would do that. However, if it's someone that wanted to protect me and lied because of it then I would be more understanding. Overall, I just want the people I love to be truthful to me and not lie to me at all. But I do understand sometimes why people lie in order to protect those they love.
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hmmmm if that is sounding to be convincing to me, hhehe! well, it depends i guess. Not all people would say yes or buy that. But if in case that you two have talked heart to heart in that certain manner, then you will have to decide and always make it a point to put an end to that discussion by not letting him reminded of his mistake. If someone asked for forgiveness, grant it. If he sinned against you, do set a limit or consequences so that it will never be an alibi again to say sorry, over and over and over again. Learn from your mistakes and I am sure that same, I lied to you "script" will never happen again. If someone says sorry, tell them that they have to mean it, and never do it ever again. Happy Mylotting.
@meapas (2434)
• India
30 Jul 09
To err is human, to forgive is divine. When some one is really sorry, why not forgive?
@andresimp (818)
• India
30 Jul 09
no, i will not ask sorry just for a compromise, unless i did a mistake i would not come up and say sorry. same thing applies to others. if they fool me once, i will forgive, but i cannot forgive 'n' number of times. sorry is not just a word for compromise, it means that you are guilty for your mistake and asking for forgiveness. it means a lot to me.