I am 35 years old - is it too late for pregnancy

@Krupik (95)
Poland
July 30, 2009 8:28am CST
Ok - I need your help. Soon I will be 35. Do you think I can still have child? I am little depressed about it - soo... could you cheer my up a little? Or give me harsh but honest answer?
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11 responses
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hi there soon to be mom krupik! Good news is, you still are able to conceive BUT it gets too risky. It really depends if you don't have any illnesses and diseases. By the way, is your height appropriate to your weight? It is important so that you can monitor yourself. How bout going to your Obstetrician? i think they could help you with this blessing from God. Stay happy and think positive.
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
My health is not so good. I have lupus but THANKS GOD it is in very good remission. And I am not obese:)
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• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Lupus is an issue when getting pregnant. Try to visit your doctor as often as possible okay? good luck! Try to visit this site too i hope it can help you. http://www.babycenter.com.ph/preconception/beforeyoubegin/lupuswhattoknowexpert/
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
Yes, I know. However, I don't have any "bad" antibodies that can destroy pregnancy. I know like everything about this illness. Sometimes I think that this knowledge is not good. And... If everything will be lost - I can adopt. There are so many poor children lost in the world.
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@x_Jo_x (1042)
30 Jul 09
My mum had my little sister when she was 40. My little sister is fine, and was healthy. If you are healthy otherwise there is absolutly nothing wrong with later pregnancy. I know from my mum that the doctors give you plenty of tests on the baby. In older pregnancies there is increased chances of some illnesses or disabilitys but they test for those. I would say go for it Im sure you will be a fantastic mother, no matter what your age!
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
Thank you, Sweetie! I hope I will be! It is quite difficult task - to help little people become good people
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@x_Jo_x (1042)
30 Jul 09
Yep but very reawrding experience! I dont have any kids myself yet but i really want them some day! It would all be worth it! Just to go from holding them in your arms when they are all tiny and so perfect, to seeing them all grown up with children of their own. That must be such an amazing thing! I cant wait Good luck, hope all goes well for you!
@dlr297 (5118)
• United States
1 Aug 09
I had my 8th child when i was 35 years old. and i believe that you can have children at that age safely. My mom was 38 when she had her last one. and my oldest daughter is planning on one more and she will be 36 next month. So if it happens she will be 37 or 38 when she gives birth, depending when she starts trying.
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
2 Aug 09
Thank you for such inspiring story! And good luck to your daughter!
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
you are still far from menopausal stage..you can surely and certainly have a baby, menopausal stage usually takes place at the age of 50, but i have heard of a woman who gave birth to a baby at the age of 60+ (63 i guess)..you should not be depressed about that, and of course, don't forget to pray to god to gave you a child..
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
2 Aug 09
Oh, thank you!
@kenraku (241)
• Australia
30 Jul 09
If you really concern about having a baby, I suggest you to go to see a doctor more than asking for advice in myLot. It is not only the issue of your age, but also your body's condition. We all know that earlier is better, so if you decided to do so. Act quickly is your best choice. You can ask your doctor before making this serious decision. Wish you the best of luck. Happy myLotting=]
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
Oh - of course! I will visit like every doctor possible. I just wanted to know opinion of "real people". Real people - real women. Good spirits!
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
Hello Krupik, the very best thing you can do is go to an OBGYNE, the doctor needs to run simple tests so that you can stop thinking about why. Age have nothing to do with it, some female give birth at 35+ to 45+ and yet it is just ok. It depends on your health and as well as your husband's health. There are two things to consider here only, if you are ready to have kids, then just go see a doctor so that he or she can tell you what is best to do. I'm also in the same boat like you, not the age , but the desire to have kids. But i haven't seen a doctor yet, maybe soon if I am ready, i will take my hubby along with me. Cheer up, there is still hope for us. Happy Mylotting.
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
You must take him for sure! He will be part of this amazing process. To be honest - my hubby wants children even more than me:) He LOVES little people.
• United States
30 Jul 09
Alot of doctors recommend the cut off age to be 35. However i know MANY women who have gotten pregnant when they were 40-45 and they were all very healthy babies!!!! Good Luck to you!!! My best wishes.
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
You are so right! Nowadays it changes a lot.
@thea09 (18328)
• Greece
30 Jul 09
Hi kuprik, I was 36 when i had mine. My advice would be start taking folic acid immediately to reduce problems and if it doesn't happen quickly don't hang around, get it checked out straight away in case there is some problem which you can get sorted quickly. When it didn't happen for me straight away I wasn't wasting time and found out I had a tumour (benign) in my fallopian tube which was stopping it. I had it removed and immediately got pregant so don't hang around without checking it out if it takes a while to get pregnant. Best of luck to you.
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
Oh - thank you! It is like little light in dark place!
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
30 Jul 09
i had my last baby at 35 and i have a co-worker this is having her first and she is 35, so these days, it is not too late any longer. i would go for it if this is what you want to acheive.
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
Thank you! Yes, it is something very important for me. I must admit that I am very scared... it is so big task. But I want it!
@meapas (2435)
• India
30 Jul 09
Upto 38 absolutely no problems. But it can go without problems upto 40. There are safe deliveries even after 45. So cheer up you are still in the comfortable bracket.
@Krupik (95)
• Poland
30 Jul 09
Oh, thank you! It cheered me up so much!
@melycota (87)
• United States
31 Jul 09
35 is the new 25. And, if everybody in Hollywood can have kids is their 30s and 40s, why can't you?