Domestic violence!!!

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
July 31, 2009 2:08am CST
It is crossing all social classes, genders, racial lines, and age groups.Wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, Kids, parents. Who do you think that is guilty for domestic violence? Humans or society? In general woman are abused, but i ask myself...not woman are guilty because just let theirs had down, and wait to be beaten or soul abused. There is no excuse for domestic violence,but why people don t say Stop? What do you think that people can make to eradicate this violence? People must to do something, or society? But who is "society"????
9 responses
@momiecat (997)
• United States
31 Jul 09
In my opinion, domestic violence does not have an easy solution. In general, most of the time, domestic violence is perpetrated by the male in the relationship. Females can get very angry and verbally fight but usually they have less physical strength than the males and the males tend to be more physical in their violence. Asking how to stop it is like asking the sun not to shine. It will always been around. Educating our young children in school about domestic violence may be one way to help "awareness" of its aberrancy. Educating woman, in general, in school, church or groups is also a way to help. Knowledge is powerful. Woman especially must know the danger signs before they get into a relationship. They need to get out at the first sign of violence before the relationship has gone on too far. Crimes for domestic violence have to be punished so that the perpetrator gets the message that it is not okay to abuse or inflict pain on others. Our "society" as a whole is a violent society and we condone a lot of abuse. Those who are being abused have to know that they have the power to stop it, along with help from the law and from people like psychologists who can help the abused to cope with the unfortunate situation that they find themselves in.
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
31 Jul 09
Hi, i am sure that only peoples can stop violence, but you know...all time humans will say...is not my bussines, if he or she is abused, maybe she or he deserve, and must to deal with this. Are peoples cowards? i am sure that they are. And maybe education in family can save something, if we learn our kids how they must to live...and if we give an example...i mean never stay in a abusive relation..this is the best way to teach kids what is right and what is not
@momiecat (997)
• United States
31 Jul 09
It is true that not a lot of people want to get involved. It takes courage to stand up to an abusive person. You never know what is compelling someone to be violent. You should never say that the victim deserved it, no matter what "she" said. No one deserves to be harmed by another person. By not doing anything, though, we do give the power to those who do not have the conscience to not abuse. By giving them the "power" this prolongs and perpetuates the abusive situation.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
31 Jul 09
This can t happened to me...this words make us so vulnerable and when we faced with hard situation we remember that we are just humans in life, nothing more
@superaren (209)
• China
1 Aug 09
Thanks for your comment.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
1 Aug 09
Hi, welcome, but i am sure that you have a opinion too
@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 09
The society contain US as human! First, the stress level of our current world is getting some of these people getting violence. Second, woman need to have the courage at least to walk out from the house if she was beaten even once! Third, we the one around those getting violence abuse should be alert. If we find someone being abuse, we should be able to report it to the Authority.. BTW, heard of man being violence abuse too?
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
31 Jul 09
Hi, i heard about man who was killed, because woman don t support any more, and make this gesture when they was disperate...
• India
31 Jul 09
i think women needs to come in front ,& say stop all this . We are society . we should have the courage to stand against violence.
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
31 Jul 09
you are very right, i am angry when i hear stupid woman who say...he beat me, but i stay with him because we have kids and kids need a father....this is what stupid mothers make. What can learn a kid in a abusive family? Boys will take theirs father example, and will beat theirs future wife too, and girls will say...if my mother stay in a abusive relation mean that this is the truth about a family; WOMAN ARE GUILTY FOR THIS; 100%
@devmitra (274)
• India
31 Jul 09
Hi Icesmile.Domestic violence is so very much prevalent today in almost every developed and developing nation.Though,the violence takes toll on even the male gender,it is basically the females,who are victimised in most of the cases.I feel angry,hurt and sad at these acts of certain male chauvinists.We cannot blame any one between humans and society,as we humans make a society and society works on what we humans consider.No,my dear,don't hold the women to be guilty.No one loves to be beaten up.When a lady finds that there is no way out,she chooses sufferring on her part to cling on to the thread of relationships.I know its not right to endure wrong,but it happens,only when she is left with no option,or if she is not bold enough. Those who commit such acts of brutality need to understand first.Peopls don't say stop,beacause just saying doesn't help.Law has to act in the strictest way towards such assaulters.No forgiveness should be meant to them.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
31 Jul 09
HI, I HAVE A GOOD FRIEND WHO STAY IN A ABUSIVE FAMILY...MAYBE ARE 10 YEARS; SHE IS SO SILLY, DON T SEE THAT IS A ANIMALS LIFE...EVEN ANIMALS RESPECT EACH OTHER BETTER. in my opinion, when woman will say STOP man will just go, with the head on down.
• United States
1 Aug 09
Hello again! Most victims of domestic violence are convinced by their abusers that they caused it and they deserve it. They live in fear, trying to do better and to be better, in order to stop causing their abuser to hurt them. They are too debased to think rationally, and too frightened to take action. Abusers generally find victims who are vulnerable to their manipulations or, in the case of abusive parents, they raise their children to be victims. I am thrilled to know that many, many people support the fight against domestic violence, as I do. I guess you can tell I was an abused child...
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
31 Jul 09
You forgot to say, generations. Alas and woe, this has been going on for generations so its pretty much inherent in many of us. In my country there are laws and campaigns in place to help slow this sickening travesty to the human soul and in many cases it works. I, personally, don't think it will ever stop. Those who commit these acts, men and women alike, simply go underground. But as long as we teach our children to speak out against violence of any kind, there is hope. We must teach our children not to be afraid to speak out.
• China
31 Jul 09
Practice non-saints who had no~~
@tutor19us (455)
• India
31 Jul 09
Society is made up of people. But again society as a whole is powerless. You know why. People have a herd mentality. They will do or say what others are doing or saying. They would not even bother why someone said or did what they did. Similarly, if someones sees a woman/man being abused they would just mind their business. Tell me how many times have you tried to raise your voice against abuse?