Love at first sight...real? Or does true love take more time and knowledge.

United States
August 5, 2009 8:53pm CST
Hello all. I know some people believe in "love at first sight" and insist that it did not fail them. What about you? Do you believe that love at first sight can truly exist? Or do you have to know and spend time with someone for real love to develop. I appreciate all inputs:) Karen
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@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
11 Aug 09
Hi Karen! I think it takes time to understand the other fellow and those who claim that it was love at first sight may not be telling the correct position. They might have fallen for someone at the first sight, however, till the get to know the other fellow seriously, they do not move ahead blindly, this is what I believe. I do not have any experience of falling in love at first sight.
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• United States
11 Aug 09
Hi Deepak...I have no such experience either. I think those who feel they've fallen in love at first sight have actually experienced infatuation or deep physical attraction rather than love. Some get the two mixed up. Love takes time and knowledge of the other. :) Karen
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
11 Aug 09
You are very right Karen, those who claim that they fell in love at the first site, may be experiencing a kind of infatuation or strong physical attraction towards each other. 'Real love' is something very serious.
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• United States
12 Aug 09
Yes, real love is the most serious and the most beautiful thing to experience, whether giving or receiving it, in this life.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
Hi there! I don't really believe in love at first sight. I don't think it's possible for me to just fall in love with a total stranger. To me love is something deep and it needs time to develop into true love. I think most people have mistakenly thought that it's love at first sight. It just an infatuation and I think more of a a physical attraction. Ciao!
• United States
6 Aug 09
Hello Iskayz. Like you, I do not believe one can fall into true love just on sight, especially upon first site. Sincere love usually takes time and contact to develop. The other feeling is more, indeed, apt to be related to infatuation or old-fashioned lust. I appreciate your sharing you point of view. Karen
• United States
7 Aug 09
I have read that studies show infatuation to dissipate in a matter of a year or so, whereas real love can and often does last a lifetime. While infatuation "feels" exciting, I would rather have a passion that turns into the lasting love.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
Hi robert and peace! Yes love at first sight is more of lust I think and they usually last for just a moment or so or after having contact with the person. In most cases, there is no feelings of love involved. Happy posting you two!
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@lovedude (4454)
• India
6 Aug 09
well I don't believe in love at first site.. of course you like the person but love is the feeling not the attraction which can be generated just in one meeting.. it gradually increases..
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• United States
6 Aug 09
Hello Lovedude. I agree. One can feel an instant attraction or perhaps "like" one in a relatively short amount of time, but most of us do tend to feel that the truest kind of love happens with time and knowledge of another person. Thank you for your input here. Karen
@Archie0 (4669)
10 Aug 09
I don't think there is such a thing as love at first sight. There is such a thing as "infatuation at first sight". You can't truly love someone without knowing them. There is such a thing as lust at first sight, but that's totally different. It's more extreme than just thinking someone is cute and thinking you're in love with them.
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• United States
10 Aug 09
Hello ArchiO...I agree completely. What might seem like "love" at first sight is much more physical than emotional. The truest kind of love take knowledge, contact, and a lot of other things to grow and last. Karen
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
5 Oct 09
Well, you can connect with someone immediately and if any kind of a relationship grows it can be said to be love at first sight, but there are different kinds of love one can have for another person.
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• United States
6 Oct 09
Hi Canellita. I agree, there is often "connection at first sight," and sometimes love follows...sometimes not. But the key word here is "follows." I doubt that many actually experience the truest form of love at first sight, but only think of it as such once love does come. Thank you for responding. Karen
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
7 Oct 09
I still think it's a matter of degree. I think that people can take one look at someone and say "I am going to be with that person" but once they get to know the other person even just a little bit something can change. Then there are other people who see a person across a crowded room and get all nervous and start dropping things. They may even avoid talking to the person who is affecting them for whatever reason or other. I think it is possible to see someone and start daydreaming about them and get all giddy like a school girl and so forth but love is such a subjective thing initially and of course there are different kinds of love. If a person could not speak and had a crush on someone and daydreamed about them would they fall in love without having spoken to the other person?
@mayka123 (10756)
• India
4 Sep 09
There may be an attraction or liking towards a person when you first meet them but I would not call that love. Love would then develop as you get to know the person more. We have to spend more time with a person and get to know the person better to really love him/ her.
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• United States
4 Sep 09
Hello Mayka. The way you describe the process of love developing sounds much as many of us feel. While we all heard of "oh, it was love at first sight," like you, I feel that is attraction rather than love. True love, even for those "attracted at first sight" does take time and contact to develop. Thank you for sharing your opinion. Karen
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
10 Aug 09
I don't believe in love at first site. Of course we may find a person very attractive and compatible even at the first sight itself.It is like a dream coming true. The person may be similar to whatever you have imagined of your future partner. To some people fortunately it works. But for many it won't work. Even when we choose the partner after after doing a great research we fail sometimes, hahahaha.
• United States
10 Aug 09
Hi Vijay, yes, I agree. Attraction can be very present on first sight, but love takes its time, always. And even then, there are no absolute guarantees that it won't change with the years, even as the people originally in love change. Karen
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
6 Aug 09
i think it is more lust at first site and maybe you can hit it off and find that you have a lot of things in common, but love takes time to grow and develop and needs a base of more than just lust.
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• United States
7 Aug 09
Hello Cher. A very wise summation. I feel, too, that the truest most lasting form of love between two people does take time and nurturing to grow. Lust can fade quickly. Of course, in the best relationships, lust may tone itself down, but never disappear, just as true love remains steady, too. Karen