Are your parents partial?

@lcainiao (201)
China
August 8, 2009 3:33am CST
The following is a true story from a netizen: we are siblings and my sister is prettier than me. People will often say 'are you sisters, why don't you look like each other?' I was deeply depressed each time when I heard this. The only thing I feel confident is that I studied better than my younger sister. I failed the college entrance examination for the first time and my parents asked me to try it again the next year; when my younger sister took the exam last year and her score didn't pass the limit for the undergraduate, but she presisted not applying for the technical colledge, my parents finally relented and sent her to study abroad. I felt unfair. Many of my classmate had gone abroad when I didn't do well in the exam. I also longed to go, but my parents refused. When it was for my sister, then turned out to say yes. I once mentioned I would like somewhat to do postgraduate study abroad; they still disagreed, saying the younger sister will have to spend lots of money and it is infeasible to afford both of us. Parents' love is universal! There is no parents who don't love the children! Do you have the same trouble? Are your parents partial?
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@bing28 (3799)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
Isn't it the other way around? You're parents love you more that's why they don't want you to be away from them? They maybe want you to try again college entrance exam next year for you to stay. Anyway follow your parents first who knows the result would be much better for you, besides you'll be rewarded for whatever sacrifice and understanding you'll do
• United States
8 Aug 09
My sisters are the pretty ones in my family too. I'm the ugly duckling who will never grow into a swan. My parents try to tell me that I am pretty, but I know it's just to be nice. My mom loves my little sister the most, she is the perfect one. People would constantly ask if I were adopted cause "I'm not pretty like my mother and sisters"
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
It's always a sad thing when we hear stories of unfairness. I am the youngest and the only girl to a brood of 4 older brothers. People would always say like I'm a favorite child because of this. But in all honesty, I've never felt less or more loved than my elder brothers. My parents managed to show fairness and equal kind of loving to each of us of which I am most thankful for. I know this sound awkward but it might help if you try to talk to them about how you really feel..who knows maybe there's some reason behind all the partiality you feel.. just my two cents..
@mikeysmom (2094)
• United States
8 Aug 09
first let me say that i feel your pain. a parent should never show favortism towards one child. my father tends to do this with my younger sister and has helped her out alot and has never really helped me with anything. he also shows favortism towards her two youngest sons and has never really paid much attention, if any, to mine. i only have one child so i can lavish all kinds of attention on him and never have to worry about spreading the love around equally but when there is more than one parents have to be very mindful of not showing more love and attention to one child over another. have you ever told your parents how unfair they are being? perhaps you should to make yourself feel better.
@thokius (426)
• Austria
8 Aug 09
Yes. I also had the same problem. But it's a bit complicated to explain. I guess that most of the time parents like there younger children then there older. Unfair but that's how life is.
@treychi (122)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I don't know but I feel kinda sad. If that's a true story It is really alarming. If I am the person I don't know what I feel. It is like her parents were biased. That's my opinion. Maybe parents have their own reasons, but I think they need to tell it to their daughter. Their daughter was devastated. She feels terrible because of the comparison between her and her sister. The daughter needs an explanation. I actually don't care about it but it's kinda alarming. Good thing my mom and dad's not like that. Good day and happy mylotting~!
@Azaerus (821)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
Hi there lcainiao and welcome to mylot, Well I haven't experienced such maybe because I am currently living with my father now and my sister is living with my mother.Oh no my parents aren't separated it's just that my mother is a stroke patient and she can't stay here in our city because of the cold climate ,she had to go to somewhere else where she can cope up with the climate so my she had to go in a city somewhere else with my sister. Back to the topic,both my parents try to give both of us (my sister and me) everything we need,but when they can't give us what we need,we understand because life is really hard right now,we can't avoid having financial problems at times. I think that you are really smarter than your younger sister and for me don't feel jealous of her just because she's prettier and studies abroad.Instead prove your parents that eventhough you they didn't send you abroad you'll study hard and get a good job to be successful. You know,sometimes,life isn't just about the looks,outer beauty,education abroad or fame,it's all about success,how you gonna achieve it. Don't feel bad about things,work harder for you to prove that you are special and beautifully smart and successful. I'd say continue with your life with no jealousy.Life is truely unfair so it's up for people to make things fair. Hope this somehow made you feel better..:)