Girls go for men who spend money.....

India
August 9, 2009 1:01pm CST
Why do the girls go for the man who spends money. Its a common sight that in most of the cases, girls go after a boy or man who spends money or a person who is rich. Why does that happen... Even though they shout for the social equality, they still don't prefer a guy who earns normally or spends in a normal way. They simply want a male who will spend more. I don't know if I have put the right words to express my opinion. Those who could understand my opinion or anguish... You are welcome to express your comments on this. Thank you.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
the girl now is like shopping. explore the rich people that desire can be fulfilled shopping. but not all girls like that. many girls who do not like shopping. as men have to choose carefully, a good girl.
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@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
Some girls acted like that but not most. I don't know why they acted like that but in my views is that. Those girls maybe raise with money and or haven't no money since they are born and now they want money even in the evil acts of purposes...that's also my views have a great day!
@shimanaja (495)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 09
Hi there.. Some girls go after boy or man who spends more money, mostly it just for fun only. I think for someone who has different principles, Must be like you. But this is the life girl, sometimes we have some fun, as long we can control it. You have the right to choose the best for you..:)
@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 09
Girls go for men who spend money or a person who is rich ? it is a shape from the nature of women who want to be valued
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Please don't assume that we all do. I've turned down at lease two guys who were more than on the wealthy side. They weren't jerks, they were extremely nice, but just not for me. I don't believe in excess, and I can't stand a man who's going to spend money like crazy, flashing it around like a trophy. A safe decent place to live, a man who's going to work (and I don't care if its flipping burgers, as long as he is willing to work and able!) who will treat me like a human being while realizing that neither of us are perfect beings is the kind of man that I desire, and the kind of man that I have. NO other type of man will do for me.
• India
9 Aug 09
Well, I din't say that all the girls are like that. I said most them are like that. I believe, even you have also come across girls who are like that.
• United States
9 Aug 09
Exactly. I mean, it's really nice to get wined and dined and all that, but women typically like a man who is stable and working. If you're not spending money because you're not working then forget about it. Even worse, if you're not working and expecting her to spend then money then don't even bother. It is a proven fact that women go towards the security and men go towards the reproduction. It's natural in most species. People will argue with me, but like it or not, it's true. It doesn't mean that people can't think about it and change their mind or train their mind differently because humans can, but it is human nature. Besides, spend a little bit of money and make her feel important. It doesn't have to be a flashy diamond or anything spectacular, but make it special.
• United States
10 Aug 09
Hello Meissatish! I am not one of those girls. I like to go for a guy with the biggest heart. Thank God, I finally found that person. Someone you can make a home with and someone that will be there thru thick and thin. I've never dated someone just because he had money. In my opinion money come and go. We make the money, the money don't make us. Money don't buy happiness. What's the point in having someone that spends money on you and treats you like garbage. Yes, I know what you are saying. However there are a lot of girls out there that don't go for that. Take care my friend and happy mylotting! :)
• India
10 Aug 09
Well Princess, don't take that personally. What I mean is many girls do that. All the best to you and your guy. You have dated the guys you told. Why did you date so many guys???? If money doesn't matter to you, then why did you date different guys? So money plays important role
@erikmama (12929)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I think this goes both ways and not just with women. I know men who look for women with money as well. I personally prefer to date a man who has money because a)i know I won't have to support him b) i like to be spoiled c)ive struggled enough
• India
10 Aug 09
Agreed, it goes in both ways. But there is a difference in the numbers. Man looking for woman, who will spend on him is less. Whereas, woman looking for man who will spend on her is more. You want to be spoiled? why? Shouldn't the guy have the same oppurtunity of being spoilt. If that's the case, then why do you women talk about equality. Now that you have struggled enough doesn't mean that you will simply sit and enjoy and your man is struggling to make you happy. It means that you want the guy to sweat and you will enjoy???
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I am happy with my husband. He holds down a steady job and that is the main thing that matters to me these days over spending.
• India
10 Aug 09
Good to know that miss. What I meant was, in most of the cases this happens. Please don't take this personally. I guess you might have come across some of your girl friends as well.
• China
10 Aug 09
girls opinion have changed and they even do not dating with those boys not afford to big cost for meals. flowers.and presents. seems the only thing they want to date is money. not the real boy .so more and more poor boys can't find a good girl friend until they have big fortune.
• India
10 Aug 09
Absolutely. This is the trend. To go on a date, we need to have good financial backup to feed her and to fulfill her needs and to find her in the arms of another guy, the next day. Because her has more money than me.
• Netherlands
9 Aug 09
hm well I don't necessary like frugal men but I don't go for guys just because they're "rich" it personally doesn't matter to me whether the guy is rich or not as long as he has a great personality. i mean of course it would be nice if the guy was rich but money certainly is not the first thing i look for. it probably is the last thing i will look for. although in marriages, some people tend to look for rich guys.
• India
9 Aug 09
Good opinion. You are right, that for marriages the parents tend to look for richer guys. Its even the wish of the bride as well. Its very rare that the girl only looks for a guy with good personality. It seems even you have a second opinion. :)
@tintukm (1084)
• India
1 Sep 09
Girls have become very demanding,from small to big and to extra ordinary,the money that comes in the way is being the tougher task for a common budgeted person i.e a boy/man to meet the wishes.Without the exquisite luxury girls nowadays do not have any value for boys.there will be exceptional cases but its kept on decreasing. Rich boys have an upper hand over ,many normal people,in this matter.Hasn't love got anything to do when love can't be replaced for only money.
• United States
28 Aug 09
It's not true that all women go for guys who blow their paychecks on them. When I first met him my boyfriend was working, then he lost his job and only just recently started bringing home an income. I paid the bills for a while and now he's bringing home a check, so it helps alot. I like it that he buys me things here and there, but that's not the reason that I keep him around. It's because I love him!
• United States
15 Aug 09
I know there are some women out there who do this, but I also know there are many who do not. I never cared about money. I mean, yes, I hate to be broke, but it's not money that makes happiness. I don't understand how people can stay with someone they don't love just for the sake of money.
@jassi1 (171)
• India
12 Aug 09
well this a good matter but actually behind thid attitude of girls i think there is some inferiority or they are looking for their future security even me too think so that if a person is not so rich atleat he should earn that much of money which can fullfill your monthly needds and u know one of friend was used to say madam if a person is not earning atleast 15000 bugs he doesnt have the right to marry because he is unable to make u happy he cant give u money to go beauty parlour every month what i think about her is she is very practical even me too nothing bad u only want to secure future because i think 5o persent problem occurs due to money i am experienced i was married for 5 and a half year after that my passed away now i have the responsibility of a child because he was an everage earning person he didnt left even 500 bugs for me so now i am earning for our daily needs so this just your security
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Just trying to think from the other perspective... If I was a girl, and I wanted to marry someone and have a family, I would likely be looking for someone who I thought could support the family best. I don't actually see anything wrong with that, and I'm a poor guy. If I was a girl, I'd never give a second thought towards a guy like myself. However, I have seen another side to this. A friend from high school and then college, had a girl friend that used him like a bank. She was all into him as long as he kept paying for things. As soon as he stopped, she left him for someone else. She even told me "at least I have a boyfriend who is willing to spend money on me", which blew me away at the tons of money my friend spent on her prior. She ended up marrying a lawyer or something. My friend is a university professor now, so it's not like he's poor. So she seemed a bit nutty to me. But I can see the other side as well.
@haiershen (1084)
• China
11 Aug 09
i do not agree with you.yes, when a men and a women go out, at some times the man pay for the bills, why not though this is a man of gentlemanly express,some men has a geat self-esteem,they don't want the woman to pay bills.as matter of fact,if girls go for men and should be pay for everything by themself, the result is obviously that the men may not give them satify.and the relationship will be broken down. good luck and have a nice day!
• China
11 Aug 09
Now in Matter society it's common phenomenon that the girl go for the man who is rich or man who spends more money as a result of everythings to be done needs money in today economic society.,the girls ,So, would like to buy something she like or spend money to enjoy service that theay go for the man who is rich or tha man who spends money.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I understand you very well. Im thinking that the girls that do that are vain. Most likely they are the kind that a normal guy should stay away from. They are not worthy of a normal guy. Those abnormal guys will always be paying for everything with those kind of girls. Have faith because not all girls are like that. You will find someone better than that.
@Archie0 (4669)
10 Aug 09
I dont think each and every girl runs behind the money and chooses her husband or a boyfriend, very few are there who just needs a man's money and is blind when it comes to his true love.And money is needed as a basic concern not only by a woman but by everyone.And not only a girl but a man too runs behind a woman for a thing, and thats her beauty otherwise there are more percent of men who have a wife or a girlfriend but are mostly found hunting new women or chasing other girls around.which makes feel low and angry.
• United States
10 Aug 09
You're right. MOST do. But that's just the exaggeration of an old-fashioned girl who was brought up with an attitude that men make the money and take care of the family while the woman stays home. He is the one who takes her out to dinner and movie and the one who opens his wallet to pay. Back in the days, families did not allow their daughters to "pay" for the dates. And if the guy couldn't do it, then he just wasn't good enough for their daughter. I for one am not a "gold-digger" and am in a relationship for the love. I have been in this relationship for 13 years and I've never been the high-maintenance type. It just isn't me. But I do know people, men and women both, who expect their partners to provide gifts to them, and if they can't, it's on to the next one who can give them what they ask for, when they ask for it. Kendria