A Mother's Choice? Which Would You Choose?

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I was talking to my daughter and her partner the other day and I was saying how if my mother had to choose between me and her expensive jewelry that she would have a hard time doing so. I've also said this same thing about both my mom and my dad when it comes to money. Money is VERY important to my parents, in a not nice way sometimes though of course they love us and they do help us out but still, you know not to ask some things because the parents are going to say no. I mean my mother refuses to buy an almost $4 jar of the good pickles because they cost too much!! Please, how many pickles do you eat, why not have the good ones if you are going to eat them? Anyway, my mother loves her jewelry a lot. So the other day my mother was at our house and I decided to ask her the question, which ONE would you choose and you HAVE TO choose one - 1] Never to see your only daughter again (that's me BTW) OR 2] To grind your wedding and engagement rings up in the garbage disposal. That was the choice I gave her. And my mother sat there and went "hmmmmmm" and sat thinking about it! Then she says "that's a hard choice" Then after some more thinking she says "well of course I love my daughter more than jewelry." Too freaking late mom!! AND she never said she'd grind up her ring. Geez, if I was asked that question, it's a no-brainer to me, my daughter is the choice always! I don't have to think about it! Even if my choice was between something that meant the world to me and my daughter, my daughter is the choice! It's possible I might be rapid and unreasonable on the subject of how much I love my daughter and how important she is to me but I thought that's what being a parent was about!It's a good thing that I have had years of counseling. I can look at my mom and realize, wow, that is one messed up lady! And I do know that she loves me and the rest of the family as much as she is capable of loving anyone. But once in a while, you just want your mom to say, "oh yes, I would throw myself in front of a bus to save you dear because I love you so much!" Be careful what you ask your mother, you might not like the answer. So what would you choose if you HAD TO make ONE choice and that choice was between something that was very important to you and whether you would ever see your child (or adult child)again?