How Do You Express Your Anger?

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@rajupaul (975)
India
August 24, 2009 7:44am CST
Dear loter how do you express your anger when you will face the situation like me A group mate repeatedly failed to turn in his/her portion for a term paper which is due in two days. When you finally ask him/her for it, he/she comes up with another excuse. You will do 1.smile and say, “Oh, that’s okay!” and do her part yourself 2. be diplomatic about it, but state the consequences of her actions, and plan accordingly.3.See red and have an on-the-spot bull session with her.
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@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
24 Aug 09
For me, I dont like to being late... if the paper due in 2 days and he/she hasn't done anything, I will have to say something to them. You can just give them more time cuz you are already did. Not try the best he/she can, they have to do it and the date line is in 2 days. done or not done will think about it later.
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
Smileonstar You are very much sincere and well disciplined. The both thing are required in life. Above all it is your decision. friend
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• United States
24 Aug 09
well, it is their decision to turn in the paper or not. They control how their lives gonna be. If they don't want take responsibility on their own at all, you don't have to do anything, or getting mad. You just tried to help them.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
24 Aug 09
Hello Raju. What an unfair thing for one person to do to another. I would go with number two. You can be polite, but firm, and yes, state the consequences. Unfortunately, you do have to be prepared to do the work for both of you if it comes down to that so your own grades/marks do not suffer. I hope your friend comes around and acts responsibly! Karen
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
Karen Do you feel it is not justified. May be. Rest you are right. I am getting cool down after meting with you.
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• United States
26 Aug 09
You being upset is surely justified. But anger just gives us tension and headaches. I do hope he comes around! That is what would be best of all. Talk to him without the heat of anger, but do use firmness and let us know how this works out with the project that is due. Regards, Karen
@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
24 Aug 09
i used to blow up and yell and throw things. i used to break things too. but now i express why someone made me upset to them. and if they want to or dont want to say sorry it's up to them
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
That is not good my friend. But think something special...........
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• United States
24 Aug 09
how i used, now i am like tell them and its whatever
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• South Africa
25 Aug 09
The simplest way for me is to keep quiet and cease talking to any person and would rather play music ans it soothes my sole in a positive way. I hate scratching my head and breaking things and even kicking whatever that is in my way, no. If the matter involves a minor, I discipline the him or her accordingly. But to tell the truth I consider anger as a certain form of insanity and it should be avoided at all cost.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
25 Aug 09
Ok.. good.
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• Philippines
25 Aug 09
for me i express it by makin myself a big silence
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
25 Aug 09
You must be silent good....you can maintain your BP and stay healthy
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@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
I used to be wild when it comes to expressing anger. I say it out loud. I think it is better than just keeping it inside. But somehow, when I have become mature, I was able to handle pretty well anger. I count 1-10 before I say something. I think it helped at lot because I will not regret things that I could have said when I am mad.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
25 Aug 09
Yes friend You are actually doing right thingh. In vaidic Yug(ancient time) people used to do same you have adopted the right path. ,
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
25 Aug 09
I express my anger by not talking to anyone. If I am silent and answer my husband's questions only by yes or no, he will undertand that something went wrong with me. If I am at my work place, I even switch off my cell phone so that nobody can talk to me. I also eat a lot when I am angry and show my anger to the food items by crushing chicken legs.
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
25 Aug 09
daliaj Once you angry you try this, look to ward upside and remind your god or start count from . This will help you.backside
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• Pamplona, Spain
24 Aug 09
Hi rajupaul, Usually very patient and in a situation like that I would have been patient to a point all depends if you personally would be getting into trouble for what the other one has not done. I would be a bit mad or quite a bit mad about it I don´t really know as I used to give everyone else the answers in exams most of the time anyway. This afternoon I had a bit of a hard time trying to keep my patience and explain to my Son that he needed to put the Jeans on so I could see the proper length with the Shoes he would be wearing and also to stand up straight quite some doing I can tell you. However I expplained it again to him third time lucky he was listening and agreed on the length of the Jeans was just right. Thank goodness my patience was fraying by the minute. However I ended up getting the right length and feeling pleased at the result. Will I get angry if he changes his mind? No, I´ll just leave the Jeans there for a couple of weeks and start undoing them then lol.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
25 Aug 09
Dear friend lovinangelsinstead Very patient and in a situation like this you keep your anger normal and cool. Burst after completion of work or handle very diplomatic way.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
24 Aug 09
Hi raju, No, there is no excuse. If the alloted job is not completed within the stipulated time I would bang him/her. And usually I express my anger with hard words and banging objects whatsoever is before me.
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
25 Aug 09
Rajib Actually friendship and professionalism are different. I too agree you. But same time BP should not be raised.
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@tintukm (1084)
• India
24 Aug 09
Anger in my view must never be expressed but we since we are living creatures,we are far behind in controlling it.Anger fills us with rage and depression,thus it comes out which annoys everyone out there who experiences it.When ever such incidents happen,the angry person grinds his teeth,makes huge noise,starts running like wild and does all sorts of disturbing acts,I have always been calm when in public even if anger passes my limit,yet I am a passive guy at public ,because people mostly don't take your opinions when spoken angrily off. Anger is always the not so good things to have.Am I right.
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• United States
24 Aug 09
I have the same personality. I won't express my anger easily. Even though I am angry, I simply make it silence. Or I won't talk to anyone at all. Then they would know I am angry.
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@DCLehnsherr (1042)
24 Aug 09
My response would depend entirely on the mood I was in at the time. If I was really stressed because the paper was going to be really important; the excuses were utterly naff and/or an insult to my intelligent; and it was around lunch time, then I would probably explode and take option 3, the on the spot bull-session. I don't explode often but if the circumstances are right then I will just go off on one and show someone my 'dark side!'. Having done so I would then leave the situation to calm down. I don't tend to stay mad for long though so would wonder back in and be diplomatic after everyone has had a few minutes to recover from the shock lol If I was already calm, everything was under control, and I knew that this person would be the only one to suffer from their laziness then I would just make a big point of noting that everyone else did all the work so we will get the high marks, and leave the person to wallow in their terrible grades when they come through! In the two days I would also allocate the tasks to everyone else to ensure our grades were the best as possible too. Good luck with the project, Dranz
@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
Dranz Actually anger is the biggest enemy to individual.The person who can win he is the real challenger and a great person to get the all success. Bye the you point of view I appreciate.
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• Nigeria
24 Aug 09
I wont smile at all. I would go for no 2. I hate slackness and being taken for granted. Frienship apart and business apart. That's my phylosophy.
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
Dear loter Your philosophy is right but sometime you have to go beyond your book.
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• United States
24 Aug 09
I try to stay calm when I am getting upset or mad. For me I see life this way I cannot always get mad about everything life is full of ups and downs and for me I guess all how we deal with it makes and world of difference. Anyway I hope I answered this right and take care happy mylotting
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
momtrying2makeit You can keep your cool head but not every time. This could not be possible.
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@smart44 (511)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
I will just ask her why do you accept that you can help me do that term paper, and tell him or her if she can do it or not tell you frankly and I will be the one to work for else, instead of getting anrgry asked her or him to help you to finish the said term paper.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
Thanks buddy.............. It is your choice.
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• Malaysia
24 Aug 09
hi raj i will tell him that i will submit the paper without his participation and not include his name in it ... cheers
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
sanjana Thank you . You chose your answer..............
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@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
I won't talk to them or won't mind them first till they come to realize am fed up and when they approach me to xplain their sides again, I'll do the second one.
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@xchyler (258)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
hi rajupaul... In my part being a wife and a mother of 3 kids all boys... I always express my anger through shouting it makes me feel relieve ,,,,
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@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
24 Aug 09
I don't know, if I am in a situation extremely angry, I might went outside alone, and screaming outloud. I won't try to make a big scene or whatever. I simply went out alone, and express that anger on my own. No need to involve innocent people here.
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@sehlers (166)
• United States
24 Aug 09
I'd start with the second one. Explain your reasons for being angry and what the consequences will be if they don't do their part, both for that person and for the group. Just doing the work for them won't do anyone any good, and I wouldn't start out with blowing up at them either and that's a waste of time. I would also alert the teacher and ask for recommendations from him/her. They see this kind of situation fairly frequently, I'm sure. But.... if that person doesn't get the work done right away when you talk to them, or if they blow off your concerns, then yes, tell them that you're really angry and have a good yell.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
24 Aug 09
Hi my friend, nice to meet your discussion.. Facing the people so, I think you need to make a written agreement with them, about a particular project. In the agreement included an article about the duties, obligations and their responsibilities. Also on sanctions, if there is a violation.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
24 Aug 09
Hi friend I was expecting you. Nice to take participation on this discussion. We are facing this type of problem in our daily life. Thats why I asked this question. No only that some time we used to face to take decision what to do what not.Nice. Have nice day.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
25 Aug 09
Person you encounter consists of various characters. Needed so that the interaction of art. This is only a theory, practice is not easy. I included a quick temper. But I think it can hurt me.
@rajupaul (975)
• India
25 Aug 09
Sorry friend I don't meant to hurt. I apologize for my words which hurt you.Believe me it is an honest apology. Have a nice day.
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