breakups: GUYS

@shhheila (1847)
Philippines
August 30, 2009 6:40am CST
Do guys really feel hurt after breakups? i always see that the girls are always the one affected and being too emotional in breakups. so do guys feel the same??? just asking. have a nice day to all!
6 responses
@UK_Shree (3604)
30 Aug 09
Yes I would think that guys do get upset too, but they show it a lot less. I suppose maybe because society has made us think that men should not be too emotional whereas it is okay for a woman to be. Also, I think sometimes the fact that women show so much emotion just makes a man feel like they don't need to!
• Indonesia
31 Aug 09
Great that is what im talking about, the society is the keywird to explained it
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
6 Sep 09
With relationships and not just playing, I think the guys hurt for a longer period of time than the girls.
@Sanziana (88)
• Romania
31 Aug 09
Yes, guys can feel it too, but they are certainly not as emotional as we are. However, you can not speak in the name of all of them, it isn't a general rule. I saw a few cases in which a guy was suffering very much for his ex-girlfriend while she was having fun already with another boy. Not too good for her image, but who cared? She was happy to break up with him, as far as I can know, she even was the one who cheated him for a long period of time. And I am sure that she's not the only one doing so :) As a conclusion: women can also be cruel sometimes. It depends on the type of your character, on education, or it's simply about your personal beliefs. I once met a girl, she was only 15 years old, and damn!, she wasn't too innocent. After a short period I've heard pretty nasty things about her, opinions that weren't too respectful or good. You see, people are different. In order to know how somebody feels, how he or she will react to specific situations, it's expected to know that somebody. And even when you think you know him/her very well you can be wrong.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
of course! girls tend to look emotional because they are very much expressive unlike boys who tend to hide their feelings because they believed that boys don't cry. boys tend to be weaker when it comes to love because they're not into lessening the pain but just to ruin themselves in order to forget for a while the girl that captured their hearts...
• United States
31 Aug 09
Well back in the beginning of my boyfriends and my relationship, we were both young and in the middle of highschool.. and I first left him because he rarely ever showed that he cared. I mean, his actions were good, he would hold me and kiss me but the moment we weren't intimate he would pull away and shut down. Which led me to believe he didn't care at all. Even when I broke up with him (stupidly to be with some other highschool kid that showed affections) I wanted SO badly for him to show some sign that he was hurt and that he cared. But he revealed nothing. Which, to be honest, hurt more then anything. But then I saw him about a week later.. and he looked horrible. He was thinner, he hadn't been eating.. he had been drinking ALOT.. as well as crying I think. That was the first time I realized that his emotions were alot stronger for me then I ever even dreamed they were. And actually most guys have a harder time getting over girls then we girls think. While they may not show the hurt openly, they probably end up doing what my boyfriend did or they turn to sleeping with different women to ease the pain but it doesn't stop the hurt. So yes they feel hurt and probably more hurt then girls because most of the time it takes guys alot longer to get back into relationships then it takes girls, but they just show being hurt in a much different way.
• Indonesia
30 Aug 09
Yes, of course the guy feel hurt, but maybe it is not as much as the girl, because mostly but not all man using their logic rather than their emotion. So when a relationship over, they might think "well it is over now, so what should i do next" rather than regretting whats already over. And don't forget their pride,just like the cure said 'boys don't cry" [though boys do cry a lot too:D], that makes them to distract their own heart from the breakup matter. Hanging out with their friend, find some activities, laughing and anything that can make their face up from tears and sadness Sadly the girl consider boys is such a accursed human being ever exist that have no heart just because they can not be emotional. Actually they share the same pain just like the girl does, but the difference is, "Boy must bear their tears with pain, and girl bear their pain with tears":D