Wedding Band Pet Peeve
By dramaqn
@dramaqn (1990)
United States
August 31, 2009 7:37am CST
Are you married? Been married? Engaged? Do you know the proper way to wear your wedding rings? I'm so sick of people wearing rings (that may or may not be married)the wrong way. To me it signifies that you probably aren't really married or your vows have no meaning. Many woman say they are married even though they are not, but feel common law is suffient and therefore wear a wedding set. And some, like myself, wear it to keep the nuts away. No matter why you do it, the point is to wear the rings the correct way, so at least it looks like you are married for real.
The correct way to wear your wedding set is wedding band then engagement ring. When you get married you take off the engagement ring so the wedding band goes on. The wedding band goes first because it's suppose to be closest to the heart. The engagement ring is to only signify that you are on the road to marriage and have been chosen and want no other(it's like you're on layaway). And the wedding band completes the unity(getting the layaway out) and that is more important than the engagement ring(layaway down payment).
So, the next time you are somewhere, even if at McDonald's, don't hesitate to tell someone they are wearing their wedding rings wrong. I do it all the time. And you'd be surprised how many people actually say thank you. Because sometimes women take the rings off to do household things and not thinking may put them on wrong. So, a little helpful tip is always greatly appreciated.
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@EnglishTeaDuck (862)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I never knew til recently that there was a 'right' way. However, now I do know, I really don't care...lol..
You said that you wear them to keep the nuts away? So are you not really married? It seems funny to me to talk about thinking someone is not truly married if you see them wearing it 'wrong' and yet you think its ok for someone who really isn't married to wear a wedding ring - to me THAT devalues the meaning of it.
I wear my engagement ring first, and then my wedding ring. Firstly because I didn't know anyway, secondly because the engagement ring was put on first, and then the wedding ring confirmed the deal - thats what it means to my husband and I so does it matter what someone who sees me in McDonalds thinks? - and thirdly because my engagement ring is a little bigger and I feel more secure that it will stay on with my slightly better fitting wedding ring on top.
I can assure you my vows have meaning, and I am really married. That is hugely offensive to me! How DARE someone tell me my vows have no meaning because of how I choose to wear MY rings?! And if you do see someone wearing them wrong, don't go up to them, mind your own business!
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Ok, I wasn't trying to offend you or anyone else, but not everyone realizies this. And I'm sure based on your response you are probably older and/or more mature than those who normally do this. I guess I should've specified that I see it more common in the young. And yes, I am not married. Been married twice and a third engagement that never made it to the alter. I wear mine because I often leave retirement of being an exotic dancer. And if the customers think I'm spoken for, they won't try to get something other than a dance. Like you having a valid reason for wearing your rings the way you do, I have a valid reason for wearing them period. And I don't question your value of your marriage, but the band is suppose to go closest to the heart. Which is another reason that particular finger is used. And I'm just a little outspoken, but can do it with tact. No one has yet taken it the wrong way when I've pointed this out to them. It's all in your approach.
Thank your for your response I greatly appreciate it. I hope to see many replies from you in my discussions in the near future.
@MissAmie (717)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I've known the ettiquite about what order to wear your wedding band and engagement ring since I was a child. I have a question for you, though. I have a diamond anniversary band. It's very beautiful and sparkly and I wear it behind my wedding band. So basically, it goes from outside to closest to the hand: Engagement ring, ruby and diamond wedding band, diamond anniversary band.
Am I wearing them the correct way? How would you wear them?
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
31 Aug 09
I just got an anniversary band, and was told by the jeweler to wear it on top of my engagement ring. So, wedding band, engagement, anniversary band.
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
31 Aug 09
Personally, I would wear it whatever I found was most comfortable.
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
31 Aug 09
I would never tell a stranger she was wearing her rings wrong. How she wants to wear them is up to her. I will stick my nose in if she locks her kids or dogs in the car, or butts in front of me in line, something like that. I won't tell someone at McDonalds they're wearing their rings wrong.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Well, some would and some wouldn't tell strangers about different things. Of course I'd never tell someone who looked like they were a snob. But, any type of kind gesture can be spoken of if you know how to speak to all types of people. It's purely a judgement call and personality issue. I thank you for your feedback. What pet peeves do you have?
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
31 Aug 09
I'm married and I guess I wear my rings the right way so you wouldn't be telling me about it. I didn't really know there was a right way for the order of which ring goes on first. I was bothered for awhile because my brother in law wore his wedding ring on his middle finger instead of his index finger. So it didn't look like he was married at all. I wouldn't go so far to tell someone that they had them on wrong unless it was someone I knew. If someone did that too me, I might be saying thanks to them, but thinking "what a nutjob" in my head lol.
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@dramaqn (1990)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Well let me just say, you'd probably be one of my best friends, because they often call me a nutjob..LOL. Thanks for the reply and detailed feedback. It's weird I know, but the beauty I love about Mylot, is that this is a great place to vent about my pet peeves.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
1 Sep 09
How interesting! I never knew that about wedding rings. I just knew that I liked how it looked with the engagement ring on top of the wedding ring, than with it being reversed. I have worn it the wrong way a few times before (with the wedding ring on top of the engagement ring) after taking them off and putting them back on, but after noticing my mistake I switch it back to the way it was as it just didn't look right the other way. LOL
Technically speaking, I should probably be wearing it the wrong way. But only because when my husband and I got married we used my engagement ring as my wedding ring. We didn't actually get the wedding band until a few months after we got married.
Happy mylotting!
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
2 Sep 09
Yep, it just had to be me of all people! 
LOL
Thanks dramaqn! 
LOL
Thanks dramaqn! @dramaqn (1990)
• United States
1 Sep 09
Wow, ok, you wouwld be the one throw a curve ball in my discussion...LOL Good to see a response from you, it's been awhile.
You know it's amazing, most days I can't think of anything to write about on here or anywhere, and then one day it'll just hit me when I'm driving or walking around Wal-Mart.
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@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
31 Aug 09
Boy! You aren't kidding about wearing them wrong. My ex-husband bought my rings (6 of them) and put them together all wrong. I am a simple girl. I want a tiny diamond engagement ring and a nice band for my wedding. He bout a band that was 1/2 inch wide crusted with diamonds (can you say tacky) and my engagement ring was 3 princess cut diamonds and they were way too big. He then got the other four. I have tiny hands so wearing 6 rings on one finger was ridiculous. So I put those away when he wasn't around and went to wal-mart and found a set that matched my personal style and still said that I was married. It worked so I didn't get hit on by an idiot ( THANK YOU CAPTAIN OBVIOUS) and I felt comfortable wearing them. He stayed out of town a bit and when we divorced they got put up so I didn't feel so guilty.
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