Do you have a short temper and often end up hurting people?
By Praveen
@cryhapytears (107)
India
September 8, 2009 6:13am CST
Whenver one looses cool, the person opposite becomes a victim. mostly, people with short temper end up hurting others and there is not point in realising it later wen the damage is already done. We have to always keep our cool and think twice before we say anything to someone. Most short tempered people are feared and people tend to stay away from them. Meditation helps a lot in controlling ur temper and keep ur calm. There are other ways too.. like counting numbers wen ur angry,a msg to ur head, etc...
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6 responses
@vandana7 (98859)
• India
8 Sep 09
Hey, what about provocation! I was a short tempered person, but not an unreasonable one. It invariably came up because of provocation. Of course, I hurt people, because they hurt me! Now, I am far more cooler and composed, away from such elements in my life. But I am not satisfied with the solution. I'd rather people have understood my end of it and behaved correctly. As things stand, another person will also have to go thru the same things that I went thru. That is not progress, is it? Being cool is possible when we are not being hurt. At least that is what I thought. Recently, one of my friends, whom I had helped much, used such lousy words for me, that I am unable to consider her to be my friend anymore. Of course we didnt shout at each other. It was her short temper that I was subjected to. But when I thought of myself in comparison, I found I was always angry because of some reason, and never unreasonable. So I guess, my temper was justified.
@cryhapytears (107)
• India
8 Sep 09
Hi Vandana..how r u? appreciate u sharing thots on this discn.. Abt the provocation- well, people enjoy seeing others getting worked up and upset. thats why they provoke u to c u your reaction..and wen u react u become the source for them to satisfy their psychic need to see people upset.. the best way to beat them is by keeping ur calm.. they'l try and give up.. hope this advise hepls.. but yea again there is a limit to everything..beyond a pt u have to giving it bk... but do it without loosing control over urself..
@vandana7 (98859)
• India
8 Sep 09
Wish I'd known u then. My father asked me to give back and since I didnt know how to I made a mess of it all. :) No issues. Somebody else did it to an extent - for me. :) But it doesnt feel that good. :( Everytime the people cant be coming to my rescue can they? That is why I asked. Thanks ur advise really helps. Next time I face the situation, I will try to remember ur words. Pray that I remember them. :)
@taztheone (1721)
• India
8 Sep 09
Luckily I don't have a short temper & prefer to stay cool until the limit is crossed. So people can hardly see me in a bad temper & I think it's always nice to stay cool & bad temper can cause big problems.
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@cryhapytears (107)
• India
8 Sep 09
totally agree with u on this... loosing ur cool will nevr help anyone, not even u. it can make things worse instead.. stayin cool always, tats a quality of a good leader too.. people look up to u wen they notice u have a calm head.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
8 Sep 09
now i am better at keeping my cool. before i used to have a very short temper and i would have to say sorry to people. i also have bipolar which dont help.
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
9 Sep 09
I've encounter a few short temper person in my life, and to tell you the truth, It wasn't a beautiful sight. I still remember the harsh words that the person told me even though it happens more than 20 years ago. But now that person has able to control his anger better and not used to angry like he used to. It happen because of many things, but I discovered many good things about that person, that are he love me so much but seem he unable to control his anger when I'm doing mistake. He want to fulfill all my wishes, but he do not know to do it pleasurably. People have weaknesses, learn about that people before you jump to your own conclusion.
@med889 (5941)
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8 Sep 09
I have a short temper sometimes it happens when I am usually watching a movie and someone is disturbing me, I can tell that person words which I later regret, or if someone has come in my room to take something without my permission then I can get really very angry, and this anger can last for more than one day.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 09
I snapped easily but I don't hurt others. If possible, I'll find a way to cool down and solve it without emotion attach. It's not good to act in anger, we might do or said something that we might regret.
Chocolate is a best therapy to distress. It's yummy too. If you can't eat (or don't want to eat chocolate) you can take a deep breath and try to relax.
