Are your kids polite?

United States
September 11, 2009 12:31pm CST
My older 3 started learning and using their manners at a very young age. They've rarely needed reminders about their manners, and I've actually gotten loads of compliments at how polite they are. It's surprising because I never really tried very hard to teach them, they just sort of picked up on it. Now my 3 year old is another story!! He's been quite bossy lately. Instead of asking for something, he more or less demands it. I correct him of course, and remind him to say please and thank you. He's not really picking up on it well. I know it will take some time. Do your kids use their manners, or are they rude or bossy?
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 09
There's always the maverick in the family. Children are just so different from each other. He is still very young and he will learn in time. My Grand twins were three when they left and had and possibly still have to be remided gently all of the time to say please and thank you. He will be o.k. Just as well mnnered as the others in time. Sounds like yo are doing a wondeful job with your children.
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 09
You've jogged my memory. I remembered that my eldest was very bossy and the best thing that happened to him was for me to give him a brother. On reflection, because I had had 3 miscarriages before him, he was just so precious and probably was, initially, spoilt rotten!
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@gemini_rose (16194)
18 Oct 09
One thing I have always been pretty strict on is manners, from the moment they can understand I have taught them please and thank you and politeness. This is because I was brought up to be the same. My eldest is now 18 and over the years I have had so many compliments over how well mannered and polite he is which makes it all worthwhile. My other two boys are the same, sometimes they have to be reminded but not often. My daughter however can be very demanding and very bossy at times and when we are out sometimes I have to prompt her but if she does not use manners she doesn't get what she wants!
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
14 Sep 09
For the most part they are pretty polite. My 4 year old is the most stubborn kid I have ever seen but when it is out with other people she tends to do pretty good, but at home she forgets often. I didn't really stress it too much with them either, they just learned because they heard us saying to them all the time. My son is so cute, he is 2 now and he says please and thank you and even you're welcome sometimes. He was mooching food off my brother in law's girlfriend and every bite she gave him he said thank you. It was so cute.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
13 Sep 09
I don't have kids but I am around them alot. My now 8 year old sister can be very bossy to me. She demands that I do this or that for her and my mom says I spoil her. My mom won't do the stuff my sister ask like get her water or fix her a snack. Or bring her food to her..of she is watching tv. I always end up doing it and told my mom that I would do it if I had a child of my own the same way. I figure it is our duty to take care of the younger ones..but mom thinks of it as spoiling. I think she is wanting little sis to grow up to fast. I know I did when I was that age..my parents were way stricter with me and my siblings back then..but I do spoil her and don't think nothing of her telling me to get her something then asking for it. I know I should start trying to correct the bad road I am leading her down..
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• Germany
12 Sep 09
Hi, katsmeow. My child is still small to be polite. :-) He is only 6.5 months. In my family, we rarely say "please" or " thank you" to each other. My parents also never say that. So that i always it's normal to be like that until i met my ex-boyfriend. He is a vietnamese. He always request me to say "please" and "thank you". But what i thought it is just so weird to do so. I felt uncomfortable or unnatural by acting that way. I never thought of this is impolite as it is normal in my family. Sure i will say " please" or "thank you" to my friends, and those i am not familiar of. But to my family, this never happen, and in our mind, we feel close by this way. When i have a baby, i read alot of parenting books. And i realize that if we want our child to have good manners and attitudes. Then we have to do it ourselves first. They learn from us. So...i am trying my best to change my old habit and want to educate my child to be a person in good manners.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
12 Sep 09
hhahahhaha oh my. . my kids are polite when i remind them. Like you i teach them and make them say please and thank you when they get stuff/ask for stuff.. It mostly depends on their moods.. if it something my 3 year old REALLY wants.. oh.. dear.. i've never heard so many please please please please mommy's before in my life! haha. but if she's in a fowl mood, she just says I WANT, or NO instead of no thank you.. then i correct her and dont give her what she wants till she asks the right way.
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@UK_Shree (3604)
11 Sep 09
I think that's lovely. I do not actually have kids of my own yet, but I'd like to think one day when I do have children that they will be well-mannered. I know you said you don't think you did much to make them so polite but I do think that children learn from what they see and grow up around, so you must have had a positive influence on them I'm sure.
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@shaggin (37733)
• United States
7 Feb 11
My kids have good manners but my son will be rude sometimes. Hes three. Today we were at the store and the guy who was stocking the shelves in the aisle we were in was doing his job. My son turns around and says to him "You stop following me." I told him to stop being bossy and rthat the guy was not following him. The guy laughed about it and asked my son if he wanted to have his job. Then suddendly my son got quiet since I dont think he expected the guy to speak to him.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 09
Mine use their manners with other people, but at home not so much. The twins especially can be pretty bossy. "Mom, get me a cup." They always get told to say please though.