When an adult interferes with your child's happiness...

@zoey7879 (3092)
Quincy, Illinois
September 12, 2009 9:05pm CST
I'm so irritated right now. Once again, my grown neighbor who is 22-24 years old, has been picking on my child by spreading rumors to all the kids that she sees my 8 year old daughter play with by saying my daughter has lice when she indeed doesn't. My daughter is fairly shy, and has never said a mean thing to or about anyone and has difficulty making friends. I live in an apartment complex and can't afford to move. This is the second time that this particular woman has done this to my daughter. There's also been another 27 year old woman who accused of stealing something from her own daughter (which was actually a Christmas gift my daughter had received from her grandmother). The 27 year old told my daughter she was going to call the cops and have her arrested when she was playing outside. Unreal! The 27 year old doesn't live here in the complex, but the landlord won't bar her from the property. Talking to neither one of these bullies is fruitless. But what exactly do you do when adults are ruining the social growth of a child with their rumors and bullying techniques when they're not doing anything illegal? This crap just p!sses me off :(
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@jenlex79 (256)
• United States
13 Sep 09
Some people have nothing better to do in their lives so they choose to pick on innocent children. What a sad life that person must have. If I were you I would see if there is something that can be done about that neighbor. I know that bullying is illegal on the internet ever since it took the life of a teenage girl.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 09
zoey you are her mom and you must protect her so get in their fces and tell them to back off or you will call the police for harassment of your little girl,that might make them stop and if it doesnt stop sic your hubby on them sometimes it takes a male 'presence.
• Pamplona, Spain
13 Sep 09
Hiya Hatley, Agree with you all together Hatley here the Police surely must protect this child from such a harrassing person. Before there was no such protection for a child surely there has to be for someone of this age. Agree also that a male presence will probably stop them in their tracks and rightly so. So let the Police "harrass" that Person instead. Facing up to a bully is not an easy thing to do. Guess that where I lived has taught me something. I really hope it ends right now all this injustice.
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• United States
13 Sep 09
Supposedly bullies are bullies because, nine times out of ten, they have very low self-esteem. How low must your esteem be to bully a child whose instincts tell them to respect you because you are an adult? Yikes.
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• China
14 Sep 09
If they do such things again, I think you can call cops and accuse them of ruining others' fame. Such bad guys to hurt a little girl! They should be punished!
• Pamplona, Spain
13 Sep 09
Hi zoey, Sounds like your neighbour is not such a grown up person well I donĀ“t want to say childlike either rather a big bully with a super inflated ego has she not got nothing better to do all day than to pick on children. Why does she not pick on someone her own size? Bullies know all about them too my school was plagued with them. What a shame children cannot play anymore the way we did. A child is not allowed to shout, cry ect. I believe we are going backwards in progress a child will always be a child no matter what planet we live on. Now we are not allowed to talk to a child this is unbelievable to an extent. Where I used to live across the road there was a person for want of a better word living with her two kids who are not better than she. She has dedicated her time and she works full time has a job too but she spends her time making everyones life in that street a real misery except for me I look her straight in the eye and defy her and she is unable to look at me because she knows what ground she is treading on. But with the rest of them she plays holy hell. I opened the door while I was there to a group of teenagers who were trying to get their ball back of our garden and I just said thats ok you can get it back. You cannot believe the expression on their faces they looked at me gone out gobsmacked. I think they thought I was going to make a big thing of it. Sorry to talk in this tense but when it comes to someone bullying a child I just cannot believe that a government will have someone arrested just for that it is just not believable. Have we taken leave of our senses. I hope this situation goes no further and people recover their sense of propriety.
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@MrKennedy (1978)
13 Sep 09
Adults bullying a child? What is our world coming to? Seriously, how deranged and insecure must these people be to even consider ridiculing little children? You mentioned that talking to these people is useless, which makes things much more difficult to resolve. If I were in your situation, I would play cunning pranks on them. Allow them to suspect you, yet never prove you guilty. Of course, this probably won't solve matters, but it could at least put a smile on both you and your daughter's faces.
@vandana7 (99118)
• India
13 Sep 09
Well, ask that friend to buy u a bottle of lice medication if she finds a single one in ur daughter's head. I am missing my mom all the more after reading ur thoughts zoey. I wish she had been around - all these battles became truly mine since the age of 5 and a half. :( So I can safely say - u can challenge that person and since such medication doesnt cost anything ask her - show me one and I will give u the honor of buying a bottle of lice medication for my child. She wont tell u there is one, even if there is one! ha ha. And the 27 year old! When ur daughter outgrows that toy. Pack it neatly and offer it as gift to the 27 year old. Adding - Ask and thou shalt receive. That would hurt enough I suppose.