12 Year Old Dies in Childbirth

United States
September 15, 2009 12:28am CST
A 12 year old girl, who was forced into a marriage with a 24 year old man died after 3 days in labor. This young girl is the victum as most young girls from poor families in Yemeni. Forced to drop out of school and marry older men for hefty dowries. When is this going to end? The Yemeni parliament wants to set the legal age to marry at 17 to help protect these child brides, but the out cry that it goes against sharia or islamic law - that is ridiculous!! Since when is protecting the CHILDREN against ANY religion? I know this has been toss over here so many times, but these stories that keep coming up makes me want to just scream. Do you think that the children will ever be protected? I see these child brides as nothing more than being sold to pedofiles. http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/09/14/yemen.childbirth.death/index.html
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• India
15 Sep 09
‘Since when is protecting the CHILDREN against ANY religion’…since the time Islam gave religious sanctity to child marriages. I don’t want this response to sound like another round of Muslim bashing but this is the bitter truth which a deeply patriarchal Muslim society is loathe to accept. Since Mohammad himself married his favourite wife Aisha when she was 6 and he was 50+ and consummated the marriage when Aisha was 9, child brides are accepted in Islam. No matter the fact that Mohammad did that in the medieval ages when most probably child marriages were the norm…Muslims all over the world look toward Mohammad as the ultimate example to be followed for all times for all conduct and for all spheres of a person’s life. Whatever Mohammad did in his time, has to be followed even in today’s time simply coz he was Allah’s chosen one and therefore the best of examples to follow.
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• United States
23 Feb 10
I don't think it is bashing at all. Some people have told me - justifying it really - that it is the difference in cultures. I don't believe that. Don't people ever evolve into common sense???
@Bloggership (1118)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 09
Well, if mentioning about islamic law, didn't the islamic law tells that it was still legal in the of the religions?.. In my country, there is an +50 years old man marrying 12 years old girl because he believes there is no rules in islamic forbidding to marrying 12 years old girl... I'm insulting moeslims peoples... But something must right...
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• Indonesia
15 Sep 09
Corrections : I'm not insulting moeslims peoples...
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@aprilsue00 (1992)
• United States
15 Sep 09
This is ridiculous. What about his childs parents? Did they do anything to stop this? I know I would never allow my daughter to get married that young. I do not care how much money someone offers her or me. It is not worth it. At twelve years old you are still a child and should not be expected to get married or hsve children of our own.
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• United States
16 Sep 09
From what the news peice said her parents sold her to this man to be a bride. They call it a dowery, but I still fell it's selling a human being. In these poorer regions it is still common to have doweries and selling a child. Breaks your heart doesn't it.
• India
15 Sep 09
I really can't believe that these kinds of child marriages are still happening in Yemen.India also used to have these problems of child marriages but now they are almost eradicated but what you said is almost barbaric.. The government should take serious actions to eradicate these kind of activities people who follow these should be seriously punished and the government should employ some schemes to encourage the parents not to marry their daughter upto certain age.. I really can't believe what happened to that poor gal.Its an age of childhood enjoyment and its so sad that she had such a fate...
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• United States
16 Sep 09
I agree and I'm glad that India has changed it's way of thinking. I can only hope with more of the public knowing about this that their parliment will take action. No child should be forced into a relationship with an older man. I think the parents need to be punished as much as this man does.
@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
15 Sep 09
Back in the old days at the age of 12 they allowed the woman to marry. Now this practice is no longer exist here because getting pregnant at the young age is always high risk. This practice must erradicates the young girls are always the victim and parents should also be blamed about it. It seems that they are selling their kids and they are not concern about what going to happen to them. Yemen government should have law about the right age when to marry.
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@imsilver (1669)
• Canada
15 Sep 09
Once again, I'm SO very glad to be Canadian. Despite seeing stories like this on a regular basis; there are some days when I find it hard to wrap my brain around the idea that there are still plenty of people who live without rights and without freedoms that I take for granted because it's just always been like like that.
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@sblossom (2170)
15 Sep 09
I listened the news and felt shocked too. it's really sad. I think the law in the country has problem, also the man who married the girl also has problem. How can he marry a girl who is 12 years old? it's a dark side of the world. now i want to know what we can do to avoid similar things not happen again. now i also realized what the right of woman and children mean. before when i read the slogo of protecting children and women i had no idea, because i did not see any problem with children and women in my life, now i did see. i wish i can do something to help the group who are in disadvantage position on earth.
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 09
oh my! This is unbelievable ! I never heard of any child in my country here get marry and 12 years old and give birth to their baby. The girl is so pity and I think the govermnet should have set the law for minimum marry age to at least 18 years old.
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• Singapore
16 Mar 10
hello Kprofgames, 12yrs old girl married, so bad. really very horrible n sad. But this is also done in india in some rural (village)areas. Over there still girls r married in small age to old person. This is done only because of drowries system, poor people in rural area married there small girl to old man just they won't have to give drowry. For them girl is like a burden , as soon as a girl is born. They get worried of her marriage. This system is still going on. yes it should b stop. Government had made law tht girl should b married after 18yrs. but still it's going on. don't know when it will stop. But it should b stop.
@ronnyb (6125)
• Jamaica
11 Dec 09
Wow this is indeed a sad story .This should never have happened and for money ,what about the parents of the child ,parnets of the groom .I would like to think that even the mother of the groom should have condemned the marriage.Now they have lost two children because of carelessness and failure to protect our children.I hope that this oevrsight is corrected
30 Sep 09
for sure woman in that age giving will most likely die from many complications. her uterus is not yet ready to bear a child. whoever forced her is insane. why not wait for her to mature.
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
oh my!poor child!at that age she should be studying and playing with friends.she should be enjoying her youth.I don't like how these supposed-to-be religious laws come before human rights.I read that in certain Muslim countries,older males can marry young girls as young as 10 because according to their book,Mohammed wed a 9 year old child named Aicha.
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
tsk tsk that is sooo sad! I mean if they are going to force her to marriage, can't they at least wait until she is a bit older before the husband makes her pregnant? I think a 12-year olds body is not yet fully developed enough to bear a child. I agree with you, I don't think that it is against any religion to protect the rights of the children. We have to protect these children because they are the most helpless in the society
• Boston, Massachusetts
16 Sep 09
hi kprofgames, i feel so bad about this news. thanks for sharing this tragic story with us. i am an advocate of the convention of the rights of children and adolescent reproductive health. this case is really something to be taken seriously by your government. i don't know if your country is one of the signatories of the convention on the rights of children (CRC) because if your one of them then should should not be happening to your children there. this is really alarming and this calls for an immediate response/action from your government. children like her must be enjoying life, playing, going to school, enjoying her teen life but what happened to her? goodness, this is really unacceptable!
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
poor girl. i can't imagine a married life at that age and what more being pregnant? her life was gone to waste very early.
@junmae (1592)
• Philippines
16 Sep 09
Poor little girl it seems that she they just wasted her life. 12 years old still young to get married and build up a family, most of all getting pregnant at that age is very risky. Here in our country you cant get married unless your 18 and above. I hope the child like her can also be protected by the law because she can still make her life more valuable.
• United States
15 Sep 09
I am really disappointed with how any person can look at an innocent child and feel any lustful attraction. It really burdens my heart and I'm sure many others who have children. There are third world countries that see this and other perversions against the youth, etc, as acceptable due to the reasoning that they need to survive. I think that these "solutions" do not provide long term stability. The solution to financial and social issues would be to educate the youth. If the world invests in the future, we could solve all these unfortunate outcomes.
@olivemom (21)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Wow. Stories like these break my heart. These kids,girls especially, do not have the same rights as a human being as most of us do. We at times take that for granted. I hope the Parliament does whatever it takes or passes any laws they have to in order to protect these children.
• United States
15 Sep 09
Wow! So young! At the age of 12 I was still playing with dolls... Its amazing how different things are in different countries.
@Ithink (6030)
• United States
15 Sep 09
This is just sick, I see it as a legalized pedophile operation. How can anyone even think a child that young is ready to have a child in anyway or form?! It makes my stomach crawl to think that there are people, that will sell their child. These people are sick and I hope that this does stop and the government will finally do something about it.