Are your kid spoiled?

China
September 18, 2009 11:19pm CST
My son is living with my parent in another city, it's quite far away, I go back to see him ony once in a month. Along with his growing up, I find his temper is getting worse, once he want anything, we have to give it to him right away, or he wil keep crying loudly until he gets it. My son is spoiled! We find it's hard to educate him what is wrong now, as he is only 11 months old. Mylotters, I am wondering if your kid is taking care by your parents also? Do you think grandparent are usually spoil their grandchild? How to do with a spoiled little boy? Thanks for your advice.
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• Philippines
19 Sep 09
Is that right? Your son is only 11 months old? Well I think, he's still a baby and he didn't know what's happening around him.. Just wait till he grew up just a year or two, then you will be able to noticed if he is a spoiled kid.. But yes, grandparents usually spoiling their grandsons and daughters. Especially when he/she was the first grandson.. Maybe because they missed so much of having and taking care of babies. But in your case, your child needs more of your attention.. So, I think you should be together now. Why don't you talk to your mom to live to your apartment for a couple of months so that you can also have the time to spend with your son..
• China
19 Sep 09
Hello, Crisanta, thanks for your response. Yes, maybe you are right, he is still a baby, and it might be getting better after one to two years. Yes, my parent are going to bring my son to stay with us for several months from next monday. And I hope to keep my son with us even after my parent going back. We are thinking of hiring a baby-sitter, but somehow feel uneased to let others talking care of my little son. Did you take care of your kid by yourself?
• Philippines
19 Sep 09
During 2 months when I delivered my baby, I'm the one who takes care of him. But then I needed to go to work, so my mother-in-law was only the one who's available to take care of him, but that's only when I'm working. When I go home, I'm still hands on to my baby.. Yes, your decision is right, it's also a good idea to hire a baby sitter.. But how about your husband, is he also working? Though, in that age yes, kids are beginning to be spoiled.. So just make sure you're giving him enough attention. And I'm sure he'll grow as a smart boy..
• China
19 Sep 09
It's so lucky that you can have your mother in law taking care of your kid while you are working. The place we are working are quite far away from both of my parents and my parents in law, they are not able to stay with us for a long period... Yes, my husband is working, but his job is not so stable, I am also thinking of do some small business and take care of my son in near future. Have a nice day!
@dmrone (746)
• United States
19 Sep 09
Hi! I am a parent with children still at home, and also grandchildren. Grandparents tend to do things differently with their grandchildren, than they did with their children. I try to help my daughter take care of her son, be her mother, and his grandmother. All of my children are spoiled to some extent, and so are my granchildren. I try not to interfere with my daughter correcting her son, and i try to help her by correcting him also when it is something that could cause him or others harm. It is different for grandparents and they do like to spoil their grandchildren. Grandparents usually can see where they made mistakes with their children and try to overcompensate with their grandchildren. Grandparents aren't perfect, just as parents aren't either. We just do the best we can and go from there.
@dmrone (746)
• United States
21 Sep 09
Hi karen! Yes it is hard to raise children, but if it is the choice we made, then we are in it for the long haul. The grandchildren are a bonus so to speak. Grandparents can see so much of their children in the grandchild and it is a beautiful thing. The grandchild is a person from the child that is loved to no ends. Any one can say that things are one wrong or incorrectly, but they are looking from the outside, they are not having to walk in their shoes. It is easy to judge when we don't know what they are going through. Just do the best and be proud of what you have done.
• China
20 Sep 09
Hello, Dmrone, thanks for your reponse. Yes, no one is perfect, we are just doing our best to help our kid to grow up healthy and happily. It's a hard job that taking care of little kid, without love we can not be so patient and succeed to raise them up. Have a nice day and happy mylotting to you.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 09
for a 11 month old baby we can't say he is spoiled by that age...babies are very moody and quite losing temper by that stage it's only my opinion...but it is true grandparents spoiled their grandchild...my daughter is quite spoiled with her grandparents especially her lola :)
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
20 Sep 09
I am not a mother myself but I have been taking care of a 5-year-old kid. I believed that I had spoiled her. She get tantrums every now and then. She seems to have learned that she can easily get away with things for I easily succumb to all her wants. That is something I have to get at. How could I discipline her in a nice way? I hope I will be firm on this. I hope you too will find a way for you 11 month old son.
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
19 Sep 09
Well Im grandparent and Yeah I guess in away I do spoil them..But you know what. Someone on the outside can always see a different way to raise a child. What I mean by that is it may look like spoiling to you but to us it is just giving some extra attention.. I hope that you get be with your son. This age is very important in his life.. Have a nice weekend..
• China
20 Sep 09
Hello, Rosepedal, thanks for your advice. Yes, I agree with you. And I am trying every means hope I can get to be with him soon. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.