He needs a PenPal

penpal - Poster saying..Penpal wanted
United States
September 27, 2009 1:35pm CST
Hello friends here at mylot. I have started many discussion that was asking for some advice to my personal problems. I now a favor to ask of my friends here on mylot if you can do so. I have a son that had got himself into some trouble. He got mixed up with the wrong kind of people. He then find himself into the chain of drugs. About 15 months ago it all came to an end. He was arrested and sentenced to serve sometime in jail. He spent 8 months in Florida and then sent back to Kentucky where he was sentenced to an drug rehab program. He is almost to his completion of the program but still has another county that he has to attend and get his sentence there. During all of this time he had a girlfriend who also was in the same mess. She got on bond this past May. She was writing him everday and going to see him every week. Then it started getting farther and farther away on visits and letters. Well I just found out why. She has a new boyfriend out here. She didn't even tell me or my son. He has found out and is totally lost. He gets no more mail or visits from her. I try my best to take up the slack but it is not the same. I know this might sound out the norm, but would someone like to be his penpal. Inmates getting mail is like us out here winning the lottery. They get so excited to have mail. Could you please to do this for him and me? Share your thoughts..
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9 responses
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Hello my wonderful friend AWWWWW, you are so great, I think someone younger would be perfect, I hate to write when it comes to a pen/paper I would do it but he would be waiting then you will say kitty no letters, and I will feel bad, I have someone that sent me a letter and I did not respond after reading this I feel really bad, so I will write him and send it off tomorrow, I was mad because he did something really stupid like driving drunk, and this was not the first time I hope you get many responses my friend, I will keep my eye out,I knew that girlfriend was not good for him. Good luck my friend.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Hello my friend No worries, everything will be o.k, you are such a sweet person maybe this is what he needs to get himself together, I hope someone agrees to be his pin pal that would be really nice, I know its really hard when you have a love one with an addiction, I know someone that had this problem, someone I loved alot, I prayed for him to do jail time because I did not know how to help him, he did 2 years and that was 18 years ago, he has been clean ever sense, so have no fear my friend, change is possible. I am here if and when you need me, smoochesss
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hello Kitty...It is Monday morning right now and I hope that today will be a better day for me. I know that when he went into the jail as bad as it may sound I knew it was the best. I didn't want to get that phone call that every parent dreads. Thank you for letting me know that I do have a friend in you. Have a good day..Smooches back at you..
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hello my wonderful friend I know exactly what you mean, and for the same reason I asked god to take care of my loved one, he did and that was the best thing that ever happened to him, our relationship did not work out we were young and life was to hard for two young people to deal with, but we are still friends till this day, I believe it has alot to do with him believing my prayers helped him and he is really grateful for that, he is such a wonderful hard working man, I knew there was something special about him which is why I was not able to turn my back on him, he was my first love I have not met anyone like him since, I loved him with my whole heart and when we broke up I was devastated, but I eventually got over it, after 2 years of tears and not being able to see the bright side of anything not even the sun. You are such a great mom my friend, I know things will work out for the best. You always make me smile everytime I get a notification from you, I smile and hurry to read what ever it is you have to say to me, I thank you for that, sometimes its little things people do that makes a big difference to others. You have a great day as well my friend, and don't feel down, this is the beginning of good things to come, smile my friend. Thank you so much. oh you have one of my friends here I responded to her post, she is young and very intelligent I would hope you pass the information on to her, she will be great for him to write.
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
27 Sep 09
This happens to so many young and old alike. I'm sorry to hear that your son got mixed up in this type of mess. I think it's probably good that the girl is out of his life. Even though she did visit and write to him. He does not need to be around anyone from the bad days he was stuck in. I'd love to write to him if I could write letters. I'm not able to because I shake to badly. I wish him well and getting involved in a program while in jail will help him a lot. He needs to get on a work release program. This will take up much of his time and help in his release too. Also maybe he can volunteer to speak to other young perople. Or be involved in the scared straight program. ANything that will take time from his days. Good luck to him.
• United States
27 Sep 09
If he has access to a computer, I can write to him.
• United States
27 Sep 09
I see. I'm sorry that I can not help.
• United States
28 Sep 09
Take is okay my friend. Just your thoughts mean a lot to me. Once again I do thank you and appreciate your thoughts. Have a great day..
• United States
27 Sep 09
You know, I see that human kind picks up the slack for where other humans have betrayed, and that is a very cool virtue! I was actually a little surprised to see that people would-only because we don't know him and you are right-as you stated that is a little out of the norm. You know what you could do too, from this very forum, collect people's thoughts and then print them out for him to read-so he has some interesting topics to read, especially one about himself! I am not comfortable with writing someone I don't know, so I am sorry about that. I have had problems in the past with people so I will just leave at that-but seriously, I think he may throughly enjoy reading the debates we have hear on mylot!
• United States
28 Sep 09
I appreciate your thoughts. I never thought about printing out this forums. I like that ideal and I will do so. I totally agree that he would enjoy this. That is okay that you cannot write. I do understand. I guess it just a plea on my son. He is good and I have seen so much difference in him since he has been in this program. Thank you and you have a nice day..
• United States
28 Sep 09
Well, the ideas that go along with many things and he can have a sense of question and answer, entertainment, etc. And with htis particular forum, he can read about himself-a collection of thoughts in regards to him-that he can see others aren't so cold. And that way he sees compassions from ones like me-who cannot write-but still would like hime to know that he is still being thought of!
@MsTickle (25007)
• Australia
2 Oct 09
That's awful. I feel sorry for your son. He must be feeling lost and lonely...unfortunately, young people can be a bit fickle before they are ready to settle down. I think a pen pal is a great idea, I hope he gets lots of mail and manages to form some new friendships with the right sort of people.
• United States
2 Oct 09
Hi MsTickle How are you today? I appreciate your concerns and thoughts. I know that he has become a man now. He words and thoughts are really different than what they have been in the 8 years. The one thing that he tells me is that the police didn't arrest him they rescued him. He will be fine and I feel that he will get those new friends, the right friends. Thanks again and have a nice day.
• United States
29 Sep 09
Rose: Been there, done that! My heartfelt compassion for you and of course my thoughts are with your son, in hopes that this punishment will have set him on the right path when he comes back into society. Life is hard, and some young folks just don't have the exact "know how" on what to avoid in life...these people should not be judged. Do you have other relatives in your family that could be sending him cards, or writing him letters? The old saying "It takes a Village to Raise a Child" should be revisited by everyone. All families, including relatives should be willing to take a part in a child's life. Maybe by getting cards and letters from them, will show him that he is still loved by others and not just his Mom.
• United States
30 Sep 09
Hi Sweetchariot You words are so touching to me and your thoughts are so greatful. I have a sister and a brother that are able to write him,but it seems that I have been pleading with them for months now to do so. They are very willing but it just they never take the time to do so. Yes he has changed for the good. I can see and hear this from him. He is the son that I once knew and dearly love him. I think you again for your thoughts and wish you a wonderful day. Keep smiling..
@jeiay41 (675)
• United States
27 Sep 09
Your idea sounds interesting but would not fit me well to that spot. Firstly i don't know who i'm writing for, second i never write a snail mail to someone, and third not possible if you want a mail story cause my life is much worse than a prison man. For you son getting into trouble, he mess his life he need endure all the consequence he need to face. May God speed your son suffering.
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hi jejay I first want to say thank you for your comments. I do understand that writing letters to someone they don't know is a long shot. I just felt the need to try. He has a big heart and really a good man. He just got messed up with the wrong people. I will have to give him credit that he is putting 100% into this program. Once again thank you and you have a wonderful day.
@Hatley (161860)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Sep 09
hi rosepedal you sound like such a great mom, and I hope you get a lot of young mylotters here who will help by sending him some nice pen pal letters. I am too old, it'would be like his grandmother or gr grandmother writing to him.he needs to hear from mylot people his own age.Maybe even find a romance among all our great younge mylotters. God Bless you both and may you get a lot of help from us mylotters.
• United States
28 Sep 09
Hi Hatley...I first want to thank you for your response. I appreciate your kind words and thoughts. He really is a great guy. He will be 29 years next month and has become a man while learning in his program. I do think you again. Have a wonderful day.
@Archie0 (4671)
27 Sep 09
Hello rosepetal, well that is really sad to see that your son is into so much troubles.But if we writing going to give him any kind of peace then surely we all are here to help him.But the fact is i think he needs his personal people to support him at this monet of time, and i think no one can do this better than you.He has been into bad company may be somewhere you are at a fault too, tell him and express how much you love him, get him back home soon and try to heal him with affection its the only thing he needs right now than anything, the girl who left has done a good thing, because it showed up what she really was, it is better to come out of the wrong things all at once and your son is actually doing that god is with him, and you can assure him this.God bless
@Trensue (5255)
• United States
27 Sep 09
I write to many in similar circumstances. It is nothing like getting mail from a girlfriend - it is like hearing about an old grandma's life in the mountains. If your son would like mail you can certainly count me in. Do you need to know more about me before you trust me as someone you would want to send mail? ask away.
• United States
27 Sep 09
Ahhh Trensue..that is very nice. As far as a grandma he would really enjoy that. When he was sober he loved the older generation. He like hearing their stories and about their life. I will PM you with the details. Once again thanks a bunch...