What is the most important thing in a relationship?

@EARLZHAN (938)
Philippines
September 28, 2009 1:26am CST
What is the most important thing in a relationship? How do you maintain a good and harmonious relationship with your partner, with your family, with your firends and most of all wit GOD? All of us our own point of view. And for me the most important thing in a relationship is TRUST and all the other things like LOVE follows after it. How about you what is your point of view?
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@feodda (579)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Important thing is Trust and Respect, that goes with Love and Let God be the center of your Relationship.
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yes making God as a center of a relationship is a very good thing. Once you put God first everything will be ok.
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@Archie0 (4672)
28 Sep 09
Probably trust, and knowing each other as well as understanding each other. If you can't trust then their really isn't a bond. If you don't know each other or understand each other then once again their isn't a bond and you really don't know that person deep inside.
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@med889 (5958)
28 Sep 09
Understanding and maturity are the two ingredients which will take a relationship very far and this is compulsory for me though to have someone in my life who is very understanding and mature. Trust and love follows accordingly.
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Oh..thank you now I learned something new. I know I'm not matured enough and I still have to learn on how to make a good relationship lasts.
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
i think the most important thing in any relationship is knowing one's self: knowing one's strengths and weaknesses and taking all of these traits into play. it is with this knowledge that we learn to know what and how to stand up for what we believe in and back out at the proper time. it is this knowledge that should be in the minds of others so we each can support one another and make this world a better place to live in: with trust and respect for others.
@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
hi earl, for me GOD... put GOD in the center of your relationship and HE will do the rest.. without GOD both of you are nothing, just lift up to HIM and for sure HE will take charge for everything.. next is trust and understanding... i have tried it, and it really works.. maybe you should also try it and see for yourself.. hugs and kisses, janebeth.
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Whooah.. thanks again janebeth.. hehe.. Yes your right actually I just didn't put God in the center of the relationship I put Him first on everything..
@janebeth (2034)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
oh yes GOD is the center of everything, but in a relationship it's very useful and convincing..
@Maggiepie (7821)
• United States
29 Sep 09
[b]The things that motivate love & trust, that is, truthful, frequent communication & mutual sacrifice of one's needs to the other, are the things which are at the base of every successful relationship. I've learned this from a lifetime of experience & observation. Take or leave as you wish. Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
@Maggiepie (7821)
• United States
29 Sep 09
[b]Oops...meant to add: a good sense of humor. Maggiepie "WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"[/b]
@kid221 (151)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
for me, the most important thing in a relationship is that you love each other. Because LOVE CONQUERS ALL! But love is noxious, it can ruin your world.. so if your in a relationship, love her/him seriously and sincerely but leave some for yourself. Be ready to face problems and heartaches because it's all part of the package. most of all, i agree that trust is an important thing in a relationship because there will be no problems if you are trusting each other. ^_^
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
Yeah you have a point. But do you think you you can love a person or your partner if you don't trust him? So I think Trust comes first before love..Any way thanks for sharing your opinion about it.
• Malaysia
29 Sep 09
I think 'communication' is the most important thing and the KEY to everything, followed by the other qualities. If you have a fight or disagreement with your partner, it is best to communicate rather than to let it sour in time that could jeopardize the relationship. If you have problems with your family and friends, communicate. Talk to them and be honest. Don't bottle up your dissatisfaction otherwise you will live in anger or pain. If you believe in God, but only communicate with God when times are hard, you will eventually lose your faith....
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
yeah your right and you have a very good point. We often tend to remain silent every time we had a misunderstanding with our partner. But it's just makes the situation worst.
@milkcow (99)
• China
28 Sep 09
Understanding and forgiveness, mistakes get made and if you can forgive each other and understand each others' shortcomings, that's a pretty good start.
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
i like your comments... its simple yet meaningful.... i just wish to forgive is so easy,and to accept too...
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Hi, Earlzhan I think what is important in a relationship is the genuine feeling of care. Enough that one wants to make the relationship work and enough that one would also do more than his responsibilities in the relationship. In other words, the desire to work hard to hold on to the relationship. Take care!
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
YEah you're right.. We really want to make things perfect when it comes to relationship and all we have to do is to have care to each other.
@shajerrl (311)
• China
28 Sep 09
Trust and honest should be the most important thing in a good relationship, Honest should be the top priority to maintian a good and harmonius relationship with the guys around you, i believe most of the guys don't want to receive a lie even white lie from her/his best friend, this should cause a great hurt to your relations, and my second thought is trust, if you love sb, please give her/him enough trust...
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Yes you also have a point,, thanks for sharing your opinion about this topic I really appreciate it.
@submerryn (1304)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 09
Earlzhan, If you ask me, I'd say that compatibility is the MOST important in a relationship. You need to be good friends with your other. Without the strong basis of friendship, the relationship will be a struggle. "I love you, you love me" will only lasts you through the honeymoon period, afterwhich, the friendship that you have sustained will keep your relationship surviving....
@EARLZHAN (938)
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Whew.. yes saying I love you doesn't makes relationship last its the matter of how you care for each other.
@vicky30 (4778)
• India
1 Jan 10
My first relationship goes to God then it will go to my near and dear ones.For me Understanding is the important thing in the relationship.If there is love even though there is a fight it will get over very soon.It will help us realize each others weakness and move on in life.There are even other factors which are important which we should not ignore like you said trust and love.
• United States
3 Oct 09
I think the most important thing is understanding.Without it , everything can die. Love, friendship,trust,everything.To understand a person ,you must listen, really listen.for some that is hard.
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
The most important thing in a relatioship is to keep your love for each other alive. Do something special for no reason to express your affection. End each day as it began with a hug, a kiss and verbal expressions of love. Applying these points will help you keep love and romance alive in your relationship.
@jenzai (390)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
I do agree that trust is important, with out it one cannot truly love. Having a god relationship is a case to case basis it's with in two people who are mature enough to be humble and be willing to compromise.
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
30 Sep 09
It is really hard. I feel like right now my life is just spinning before my very eyes. I know it is because I need to get closer to God. I was very close at one time and then everything started happening. Instead of getting closer and praying about it I guess I got bitter and cold inside which is not good on my other relationships right now. Why is it so hard to do the right things in life when you know what they are? I think trust and respect are priorities in every relationship. You have them two things and the love will follow.
• Italy
30 Sep 09
I firmly believe that trust is basic key to any relationship, if i have complete trust on ppllz around me then nothing can disturb our relationships. When i am talking about trust and honesty that means mutual trust from both sides, one sided trust is going to do nothing.
• United States
30 Sep 09
o i agree trust is it if you have trust you have everything i was married to a truck driver and i trusted him with my everything because he was the type that lost his first married over cheating and it wasn't just him it was both of them so that tells you it was not meant to be but we had 15 good years together and that is because we trusted each other and we respected each other and had consideration for each other we had 3 fights in 15 years because we knew how to go into the bedroom and talk things out and that what it takes .my parernts have been married for 60 years sept-30-09 and they will tell you the samething and remember love grow's everyday that you our together but i lost the love of my life sept-25-08
@indybaty (373)
• Panama
29 Sep 09
Hi Earlzhan. As you say, there are different opinions for everyone as to what is the most important thing in a relationship, some say trust, others say respect, all of them are very good assest to have and indeed are very important, but as you said, there are many people out there that have their own notion of what is important, sometimes even the wrong notions, depending on their given situation they follow, if they are in their early years, if they are at the end of their life, wether they walk the path of God or in earthly ways, in the basis its important to have love, respect, commitment and maturity to continue, yet during life´s transition if we dont have perseverence, we lose ourselves and our other sentimental person along the way. So to me, the most important thing in a relationship, is not to neglect your partner. Couples that have respected, loved, cherished one another have easily torned apart just by that factor. When 2 people begin a relationship, whatever is established as the base of their relationship its fresh, but has time goes by, and troubles, the troubles of everydayliving overwhelm and become the center of your life instead of your partner´s, thats when trouble begins. Because we allow shallow things in our lives to overrule slowly and without knowing, we end up with resentment and stay apart. The commitment within the relationship of always being with your partner, the samll reminders of love and respect, to grow and learn of one another, will always be true. Never neglect.
@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
29 Sep 09
The most important thing in my relationship is reliability and stability. I can't imagine my life without my husband, my daughter, and my granson. Friends I don't have many of, I have acquaintances and I don't trust them absolutely. My trust and faith in friends has been broken on many levels. God has never given me anything but guilt and fear of hell fire and brimstone. Not much of relationship there either. Praying results in zilch. God and I are at odds right now.