How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids will Talk

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids - A parenting bible
@kaka135 (13418)
Malaysia
October 6, 2009 2:25pm CST
Book name: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids will TalkI recently finished reading this book, which was written by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, back in year 1980. Even when I was half way reading the book, I kept recommending this book to my colleagues and friends, because I think it's really good and helpful for parents. I really like the skills and methods it taught us in the book, how to deal with the kids. It's really important to respect the kids and understand their feeling. I suppose everyone likes to be respected, and most adults think "kids are kids, they are too young to understand", which I think is not the way. Sometimes I think my 7 month old baby does understand me too, don't underestimate them. Actually the skills learned from the book can also be applied to other relationship, such as parents, lovers, colleagues or friends. Those are some interpersonal skills which emphasize on respect and understanding. The book was written in a simple and easy to understand manner, it consists of many examples so it makes us easier to understand and keeps practicing in our daily lives, and we can slowly make them a habit. I always think before we want to educate others, we should firstly educate ourselves. If we have made ourselves a better person, we can always influence the people around us. It'll bring happiness to ourselves and others too.
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
6 Oct 09
Hi Kaka. The book sounds great, and yes, I would think it could apply to many of our communications, with kids and all others. Kids know and understand much more than many give them credit for, and we set a good example for them by taking their thoughts and needs seriously, and treating them with the respect we wish them to show others! Thank you for the recommendation! Karen
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@kaka135 (13418)
• Malaysia
6 Oct 09
Hi there, thanks for your response. Hope you'll like the book, and it'll benefit all of us. If the kids are brought up well, and our world will be really beautiful and peaceful, isn't it? ^_^
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• United States
7 Oct 09
So true. Our most formative years are those first few we spend at home with whomever is raising us. It can set the tone for how we behave and see things for a lifetime, though there are exceptions. But example is the best way to teach, and love the best formula! Karen
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@kaka135 (13418)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 09
Yeah, setting a good example is important. How do we convince our kids to do the good things if we don't do it? Also, sometimes we just don't need to tell them, they'll learn from observing how their parents are doing.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
7 Oct 09
sounds interesting. I have never read the book but I do know that if you talk to and interact with kids simply as people because that is what they are that it works. They are kids and they do need guidance and discipline. Still they are people and their feelings and thoughts are valid.
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@kaka135 (13418)
• Malaysia
7 Oct 09
Hi there, thanks for your comments. I really think it's a good book, though some of us already know some of the ways to deal with kids, there are examples given, and we can always practice, and make them into our habits.
• India
28 Oct 09
Hello my friend kaka135 Ji, You have brought out a wonderful discussion, where everyone of us would learn. Learning of any kind is ever un-ending process. Children can grasp 56 languages at a time. They can differentiate. At pesent, as and when I go to bring my Grand daughter from the Creeche, at least one small boy always come to me, as I rubbed my palm over his face one day, next day i gave one chocklette piece. I also equally look for him. Children are most senstive. Let's always listen to children first and then only listen to others. This is time, when one can inject some of good habits for life long. You may be surprised, after our marriage and before becoming first time mother, we had promised each other not to utter any slang language in front of children, so our youngest daughter is 34 yrs and mother of 3 yrs old child, I always tell, what you said at your ending para. " If we have made ourselves a better person, we can always influence the people around us. It'll bring happiness to ourselves and others too." Wish you a very happy parenting. May God bless You and have a great time.
@SACHIN2708 (1638)
• India
7 Oct 09
Well its good that this book teaches us how to talk ,how to behave with kids and you say so i will try to read this book but according to me that we should understand their feelings and emotion and give some freedom so kids can express their thought and all problem and we should always with them and give good future to them
@suzzy3 (8401)
7 Oct 09
How right you are talking to kids in a way they can understand stops so many misunderstanding.I always make a point of listening to my grandchildren as I listened to their parents.Make the repeat things if you cannot catch what they say.You hear some parents screaming at their kids threatening all sorts of punishment things they will never carry out.Sit them down and talk to them ,take your time.If they are naughty explain why.Give good reasons for the majority of the time will bring its bonus's with a basis of a good solid relationship with understanding on both sides.