What A Week It's Been For Me....

@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
October 13, 2009 2:29pm CST
As you already know, almost a week ago, I fell and really hurt myself. I banged up both elbows, my left knee and man! my foot! My knee has healed right nicely however my elbows are still trying to heal and my foot is still painful but not nearly as bad as it was. Then I talked to my mom Sunday night and it was VERY touchy to say the least! She asked me about what hubby meant by this and that in which I had to do my best to tell her the truth but damn! I was treading on nails! She explained her side which I do understand better and which I wish she had said something sooner so hubby and I both would've understood. Then she said something that really got to me and that is "When we moved down here I thought we'd spend more time together than we have and I feel like we're growing apart and I don't want that" I told her honestly that I felt it too. She said we needed to get together and do somethings while she's on this earth still and besides, we need to talk things out. I told her that I agreed 100%. I wanted to tell her that I was afraid to tell her exactly how I was feeling so she'd understand that and maybe go easy on me when I do tell her the truth but I didn't for obvious reasons. Then she asked me not to tell hubby what we talked about and I promised her that I wouldn't. When I got off the phone with her, I acted all smiley and happy like nothing was wrong so hubby wouldn't ask what was said. God that was hard!! Then I drank a half of bottle of wine and cried myself to sleep. Yesterday I was a walking zombie for I couldn't get the conversation off of my mind. I went to my eye appointment and found that I needed slightly stronger reading glasses. Mom had asked me to call her to let her know what the doctor said which I did. This time she was agitated in the worst of ways. She was quick with her answers and snappy too. I'm like, oh boy, back to her old self again so I hurried off the phone. For example, she has this cat that's a Russian Blue, beautiful but a real pain in the rear end. This cat will holler when she wants something and hates and I mean HATES other cats. She's VERY moody. Mom got her when she was already grown, something like 5 years old or so and now she's probably around 10-12 years old now and mom can't stand her. I told her years ago that I'd take her if I could but with Gracie being so dominate, I doubt Isis would be happy here. Now that Gracie has passed away, well, I didn't push the issue because of having so many cats as it is with all the strays adopting us. Well, yesterday mom said, I wish she'd go on and die, I really do! I was taken aback by that and told her she shouldn't say that and asked her if she'd like me to take her for I can and she said no, that if she doesn't start using the cat box again and not the floor or throw rug then she's going to put her to sleep. I told her that I'd take her before she did that and she said no she'd do it to me and bla bla bla. I mean, WOW! The cat is up in age so yes, she may be getting senile so cut her some slack but not my mom. I asked her "You're not going to hurt her, are you?" She said "NO! I'm not going to hurt her! You've never known me to hurt an animal before, have you?" "No mom I haven't" which is a lie but I won't contradict her for what's the use?! I mean, WOW!! What a B!TCH she can be!! Mom can be so nice and then be the worst b!tch you've even seen! I hate to say that but it's the truth! I haven't called her today but I will eventually because I just shampooed her large rug so it's ready for her to come and get or I'll take it up to her when I go. Although this has nothing to do with me, I'm still very much affected by it. One of our own has been killed. A policeman. He and his partner were after this man and both were shot, one was shot in the neck and chest and the other was shot in the head. The one who was shot in the neck and chest is home now resting. The other had died last night. There's so much news about him which has really made me so sad to hear for we all were praying for his recovery. He had been on the force for 27 years. The suspect was killed on the scene. I just feel for all the families especially the one's who died. My heart just goes out to them!! Today, hubby and I were going through our closets and I asked him to but my sweater boxes on the high shelf. Then I found a couple of sweaters that weren't in boxes so I asked him to bring down the top one in which he did. Unbeknown to him, the other box was coming down too and guess what happened! Can you? It came down and the corner of it hit me in the head!! Oh man!! That hurt like hell!! Those plastic storage boxes aren't light when filled to the brim! I shoved hubby out of my way and cussed a blue streak!! I knew it wasn't his fault but damn it all, I've had enough of being beaten up one way or another!! ENOUGH DAMN IT!! I SAID ENOUGH!! Sooooo how was your week? I certainly hope better than mine!!!!!!!!!
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@babyangie27 (5177)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Sounds like one tough week and I will pray it gets better, My week has started off awful as usual. My daughter had s seizure yesterday while watching TV which for her is unusual to say the least. I think my trailer is causing her seizures,but it costs almost $16 for an at home mold kit that I can't buy. My husband tools got stolen so work is not well right now. I am having a panic attack everyday anymore due to worry and stress over my daughter's elevated seizure activity. So seems like this week is going to be another rough one for me too. Let's shoot for next week eh?
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Do you mind my asking how old is your daughter? Having mold in your home with a young child is VERY dangerous! You need to scrap, beg or borrow that money to get the kit you're talking about because if your daughter is young, it's extremely dangerous to their lungs!! Please read the articles I've found in hopes to get rid of the mold that is in your home. Also bleach water will kill the mold. Your daughter needs to stay with someone else till the mold is removed or she can die with very little exposure. http://www.certifiedmoldstrategies.com/children.htm http://www.cdc.gov/mold/faqs.htm#link1
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• United States
13 Oct 09
she is 6 and I have physically seen any mold,I am only going with my gut feeling that something isn't right. I did read the links provided and bookmarked them as well.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I'm only looking out for you and your daughter. Your daughter is WAY too young to be near mold even if you THINK you may have it. If I had $20. in my paypal right now, I'd send it to you for it's just THAT important.
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@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Ahh Cats, if it wasn't for bad luck you would have no luck at all. Gee whiz, you need a padded room to hide out in. I have been having a goos week so far. Things are going good with my "friend", having a good time getting to know each other. He is a real gentlemen, and teats me like a lady. He is crazy about me, thats a nice feeling, its nice to have someone. House apes are still where they belong, hehe. Going to be going to a big flea market this weekend with my mom, its about 3 hours away. That will be a nice day trip. I sure hope that life starts treating you better. Take cae hun.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
14 Oct 09
Sorry Polly, can't help to say good luck to you and your new 'friend', and hope things work out real well for the both of you.
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@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Thanks so much your sweet.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Hey there Polly!! So glad to hear things are going well with your new found friend!! That's awesome!! lol You go girl!! lol Now would you believe it if I told you that mom is in a better mood today? She is! I called her to let her know that I had shampooed the rug that I gave her and the renters made so disgustingly dirty and to find out if she had more information on the one guy about renting her place and mom was all chirpy and happy because she's home alone for a few hours. Dad went to a class on diabetes. (HUH?) Something about he had to go in order to keep his foot in the door. I imagine it's with the VA but not sure. I asked her if she'd like for me to come up and she said she didn't want me out in this cold weather that we're having and rain. Oh well. I didn't want to go up there today anyways. lol Am I bad or what? lol But I know I need to because her curtains need to be taken down and washed, especially her kitchen ones because they're almost black on the top and they're all white. She can't do it anymore so I'll get it when I can, plus to return her rug and down load some games that I bought for the computer for her to have something to do for she loves having games on the computer to play. But I'll get out there eventually. I'll just have to have combat helmet on just in case. lol
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Mary Beth, What is this secret about that your Mom wants kept from hubby? I got a little lost in your conversation. You said your Mom wants to spend more special time with. What is it that you can't be honest about? OK first of all, is your Mom Bipolar? Because her behavior, her ups and downs seem to indicate it. If I have asked you this before, please tell me, my mind tends to forget easily. Secondly, please don't let your Mom put you in a position of keeping secrets from this great hubby of yours. If you need to promise her then promise but don't play games with hubby. He has done so much for your family that he deserves the truth from you at all times. I read Oreo's responce and she is right. And I feel it is time for you to stop letting everyone use and abuse you. You and hubby deserve so much more. You deserve some happiness and fun in your life. Remember women are so much stronger emotionally than men. I'm sure as much as he loves you and does anything you want and need, he has his breaking point as well. Now, how's that hard head of yours? Please take care of yourself. I'll tell you about my week so far, another time. You've got enough on your plate. Give your hubby a big hug for me. Hugs to you sweetie. Leenie
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Hi leenie, I've left a rather long response to Oreo, please read it. I think mom just wants this all to die down is why she doesn't want me to tell hubby. Plus she's said she's seen a huge difference in him since his mom and step dad passed away and I told her that yes there has been a huge change because he hasn't had time to really grieve because of her and dad's situation. Not that it's her fault or dad's but with everything happening at the same time, he hasn't had time to grieve and for that reason alone, he's angry and very bitter. She understood and knows too that he has a lot of BIG projects he wants to get done but hasn't been able to because of them needing so much and he doesn't want me up there doing everything by myself. She wishes she could do the things herself and can but that it'll take her days to do them and I told her NO, you can't do these things anymore and we understand that and WANT to help or we wouldn't be there doing those things for them. She just can't accept that she can't do the things she used to be able to do. I've tried to remind of her the Serenity Prayer to accept what she can not change and the wisdom to know the difference and she agrees but doesn't want to accept it. I know now she's going to do, do it herself no matter how long it'll take her. Damn it all, it's not that we don't want to help, it's just that they don't show the appreciation like they should because actions speak louder than words. Anyway, read above and maybe it explains it better. If not, let me know, please?
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Oh by the way, even if she were diagnosed with being bipolar, she'd never take any medicine for it. She hates taking medicine. Once I finally got her to take zoloft for her depression and it caused her to have diarrhea for the first week then it went away. She has very little to no control over her bodily functions so it's very bothersome to have to constantly clean up after herself time and time again but in two weeks, she was feeling so much better but then she quit taking zoloft because she wanted to fight the depression the rest of the way and she did good there for a while but fell into it again after her stroke and her new doctor prescribed her zoloft and she took it and the same thing happened, she got diarrhea again for a week but after two weeks, she was doing great then she stopped taking them and fought it herself but this time she didn't do so well because it was after her stroke but she refused to take it anymore and now she won't even consider taking it again. So you see, if she were diagnosed to be bipolar, she would not take her medicine.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Well Sweetie, You have your hands full and I totally understand where you are coming from. Your poor hubby needs some time for himself but he's a good man and understands that you need his help. You both need some time to yourselves but when you have parents who depend on you for help, then your time isn't your own. As far as your Mom goes, she is just going to have to accept that your relationship with your brother is just that, yours. This is one thing you have to deal with your way. I also understand how your Mom feels about not accepting her limitations, but sooner or later I hope she is able to bring herself out of her denial. I was in denial about my limitations for a long time and was depressed about not being able to do the things I used to do. My limitations keep building. Now it seems that I have something called Sarcoidosis, which is an inflamation of an organ. In my case the lungs. It's a very complicated disease. But I'm very happy it's not cancer. You have a very stubborn Mom. Our whole family is very stubborn. I do hope she eventually decides to take the antideppressent again. All in all, your decisions to help or ignore is completely up to you. I understand your decision to be there for your Mom. If it were me I'd do the same. Keep on doing what you need to do. But take care of your foot. Leenie
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 09
oh I guess really all things considered myweek was pretty good,no major catastrophes and my son came to see me, and my best friend both emailed me and came to vist too 'so its not been too bad a week for being stuck in a'retirement home and treated like a lady of leisure. am just not used to being waited on, thats all. twoey I do hope your next week goes so much better,you have 'had so much to deal with and I know your mom means well but she does get to you at times, my mom did that too, and so often she still treated me like a kid,not a grown woman with a grown son. but I do miss her. loved her to pieces too.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I love my mom too and always will but gee me moses! She grates on my nerves so badly! It seems I can't do anything right and then the next moment it's "I really appreciate everything you've done and know I'll never be able to repay you" to being a nasty moody person that I don't want to be around. I mean, I appreciate the fact that she appreciates everything we do although her actions speak differently, I know she wants to be able to do it herself but she can't and she needs to learn to accept that and be happy that she has someone that will do it for her because hubby and I don't have any kids at all and wonder all the time what's going to come of us when we get her age. We do not want to be put on a pedestal, that's not at all what we're asking but for her to be happy and accept the things as they are and not what she wants them to be. Life would be much happier for all of us who are around her.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Well, although I didn't have too bad of a week, thank yoiu for the hopes of an even better week LOL And thanks catsanddogs for showing me the discussion [b]!!Happy Halloween!! ~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Oct 09
LMBO!! It's all good Hatley!! It's all good!! Hugs!!
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
14 Oct 09
My week has been okay. I had my daughter home for school holidays for the last two weeks and she went back to school on Tuesday. I miss her but it is nice to catch up on my work in peace without having to worry about entertaining my child! I am worried for your mum’s kitty; are you sure she won’t put it to sleep? She sounds like she’s having a few mood swings; stress can do that unless she is always like that... It would be hard not to know what to expect every time you speak to he...My husband had terrible mood swings which were puzzling all of us until he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and now after years of trials with different medication we finally have the illness under some kind of control. You have got to stop hurting yourself Cats! Please take care...I hope your mum’s mood settles down...
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I can only imagine how you feel about your daughter going back to school. lol Kids do get bored ever so often and expect mom to entertain them in which mom's get nothing else done. I can only imagine how much you need to get done and have and how it's made you feel "oh so good" lol Mom thinks it possible that she doesn't like the litter she's using this time around and is going back to the normal brand she usually uses to see if she stops doing her business everywhere else. It's been raining an awful lot again so the other cats are back inside so maybe that could be it? Who knows but I hope it's something rather simple like the litter. No I don't think mom will put her down UNLESS it's something to do with her health and she'd suffer. Mom blows a lot of hot air so I tend to ignore her comments when she gets this way but I do feel sorry for the cat because she deserves to be treated better than how mom treats her. Would you believe it if I told you that mom is in a better mood today? She is! I called her to let her know that I had shampooed the rug that I gave her and the renters made so disgustingly dirty and to find out if she had more information on the one guy about renting her place and mom was all chirpy and happy because she's home alone for a few hours. Dad went to a class on diabetes. (HUH?) Something about he had to go in order to keep his foot in the door. I imagine it's with the VA but not sure. I asked her if she'd like for me to come up and she said she didn't want me out in this cold weather that we're having and rain. Oh well. I didn't want to go up there today anyways. lol Am I bad or what? lol But I know I need to because her curtains need to be taken down and washed, especially her kitchen ones because they're almost black on the top and they're all white. She can't do it anymore so I'll get it when I can, plus to return her rug and down load some games that I bought for the computer for her to have something to do for she loves having games on the computer to play. But I'll get out there eventually. I'll just have to have combat helmet on just in case. lol
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
15 Oct 09
It's good that your mum is in a better mood today, hope it stays that way (LOL) You are so good to her, I hope my daughter will come and do nice things for me when I get old and gray...Have a good day Cats!
@GardenGerty (99221)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I hope being able to vent here helps. If the cat your mom has is ever outside, hang out a bit and steal her. I venture to say that she (subconsciously) wants to see your response to an animal that is old and annoying to see how you feel about her. I had a cat that started messing on things when my first husband was ill, and he told me to put her to sleep. I had to tell him I did not kill things for being sick. (meaning him, too). After he passed the cat got back to normal. She got funky again when I was engaged, and Bob was living in the house, but we were not sleeping together. Again, her behavior corrected when Bob and I got married. It could be ISIS is feeling some stress because of your mom's ill health.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I'm thinking of taking the cat regardless of how she feels because every cat deserves to be loved no matter what. Mom thinks it possible that she doesn't like the litter she's using this time around and is going back to the normal brand she usually uses to see if she stops doing her business everywhere else. She's been with my parents for quite a few years so stress from what? She should be used to how she's treated but there again, it's been raining an awful lot again so the other cats are back inside so maybe that could be it? Who knows but I hope it's something rather simple like the litter. Would you believe it if I told you that mom is in a better mood today? She is! I called her to let her know that I had shampooed the rug that I gave her and the renters made so disgustingly dirty and to find out if she had more information on the one guy about renting her place and mom was all chirpy and happy because she's home alone for a few hours. Dad went to a class on diabetes. (HUH?) Something about he had to go in order to keep his foot in the door. I imagine it's with the VA but not sure. I asked her if she'd like for me to come up and she said she didn't want me out in this cold weather that we're having and rain. Oh well. I didn't want to go up there today anyways. lol Am I bad or what? lol But I know I need to because her curtains need to be taken down and washed, especially her kitchen ones because they're almost black on the top and they're all white. She can't do it anymore so I'll get it when I can, plus to return her rug and down load some games that I bought for the computer for her to have something to do for she loves having games on the computer to play. But I'll get out there eventually. I'll just have to have combat helmet on just in case. lol
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@GardenGerty (99221)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Stress because she knows that your mom is ill.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
14 Oct 09
Oh my! I hope your upcoming weekend and subsequent weeks will be better than what you have had. Normally, when a week goes awry for me, I would look for things to fill in my time. To ward off my boredom, my frustration and just ride or walk. It helps. I can even just spend 1 day not talking much to people. It helps me to rejuvenate and I could start the next day with a more clearer mind. Sometimes the solution is by not talking to people for a few hours. Just be by yourself and do your own things. Hope this helps and do take care yeah..
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Thanks zed, I do take some time out to myself when I need to but like the saying goes, "You can't run from your mind." Which is very true, because no matter where you go, your problems follow you. Nothing changes once I emerge from my "alone time" so I do what I can when I can and that's all I can do. You take care of yourself too!! And thanks!!
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
15 Oct 09
I remind myself each time too; to take each day as it is, so I'm less stressful. You take care as well, have an awesome day and weekend ahead.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I'm sorry u have had such a bad week. I am not going to talk to u about your mother. She's a hopeless case & until u see that there is nothing anyone can say or do to stop it but yourself. i am sorry to hear of the shooting.how sad for everyone concerned. I sure hope the other one gets o.k. sorry about the box falling on you, i know that did hurt but u know hubby wouldn't have let that happen intentionally. Hope things get better.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Would you believe it if I told you that mom is in a better mood today? She is! I called her to let her know that I had shampooed the rug that I gave her and the renters made so disgustingly dirty and to find out if she had more information on the one guy about renting her place and mom was all chirpy and happy because she's home alone for a few hours. Dad went to a class on diabetes. (HUH?) Something about he had to go in order to keep his foot in the door. I imagine it's with the VA but not sure. I asked her if she'd like for me to come up and she said she didn't want me out in this cold weather that we're having and rain. Oh well. I didn't want to go up there today anyways. lol Am I bad or what? lol But I know I need to because her curtains need to be taken down and washed, especially her kitchen ones because they're almost black on the top and they're all white. She can't do it anymore so I'll get it when I can, plus to return her rug and down load some games that I bought for the computer for her to have something to do for she loves having games on the computer to play. But I'll get out there eventually. I'll just have to have combat helmet on just in case. lol Thanks Jo. HUGS!!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
15 Oct 09
Enjoy her good mood while it lasts. U may need more than a helmet the next time, like full body armour, lol. U are too good for your own good. Hope u have a great night & a peaceful one. Hope u are feeling better. Take care of yourself.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
14 Oct 09
It sounds like you are really taking a beating. I would be afraid to do anything until you get past this bit of luck. It is a good thing you aren't all bruised up, without scratches, someone would think you have been abused. I am sorry Mom is so moody, although I think that is probably part of the damage from the stroke. Hopefully things straighten out for you soon.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Yeah it does, doesn't it? It's been a week today since I hurt my foot but it still hurts and I can't walk normal yet but it's getting there, ever so sloooowly. As for mom, she's been like this since I can remember. I would understand if it were the stroke but no, she's been like this since way way way back.
@Craicha (801)
13 Oct 09
starts of d week yet dnt know at d weekend but ds time will its fine..:)
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
I'm sorry Craicha, I didn't understand what you mean. No pun intended but are you trying to learn english?
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Wow...you really have had a rough week. I get those every now and then, thankfully not that often. Could you imagine if every week was like that? You know, I was reading about your mom and her cat and it made me think of my Mom and her cat situation. She has one cat that is hers and strays seem to flock to her yard. Well, she started catching them in cages and having the animal control come and get them. I tried to talk her out of it, after all if the cats are outside then their not hurting anyone and neighbors all feed them but she just told me it was better this way. Then she tells me that one of the neighbors laces bowls of milk with antifreeze to kill the cats...I was shocked and asked her if she turned it in...she said nope. I couldn't live with knowing that. Maybe it's something ppl go through as they get older or something...I don't know. Anyways, I hope you have a better week!! [b]!!Happy Halloween!! ~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Wow twoey, that's really sad! Your mom should've turned that dirt bag in in a second! I know I would've!! No doubt about it! At least your mom thought it was best for she was thinking of a more humane way of dealing with the cats AND this low life but she should've turned him in. Being what it is, water under the bridge now, all we can do is pray for all those lost souls which I do every day. Happy Halloween to you too!! and BTW, mom is in a much better mood today.... TODAY....