miserable at school
October 14, 2009 2:03am CST
My second son is in the last year of junior high school. He has had an awful time, was bullied ALL through elementary school and basically lost confidence when he entered JHS. He is so miserable and as much as I try I can't seem to get through to him. We are in Japan where homeschooling is not accepted and I wouldn't be able to teach him in any case. Has anybody else been through this, he is a smart enough kid but he just can't get a handle on the pressure of the testing he has to go through. Any thoughts!!
14 Oct 09
Yeah that sounds tough. I had a real hard time in highschool, but it was in Australia not Japan,lol. The only thing i can recommend is get him to start a diary so he can unload some of the pressure. Also just being there and offering help when he needs it is good too. Offer to test him the night before tests. If he is well practiced then he should be able to worry less about the exam. As far as bullying goes, i found the best way to handle it is to laugh at their jokes and figure out how to make them back. if he's getting into fights its probabally best to sit down and get him to explain what happens. This way you can advise him what the best point to walk away would be. Let us know how he goes.
14 Oct 09
Thanks for your remarks. The bullying has stopped, the kids in the last year of JHS are too tired from studying to bully much. But the emotional turmoil from years of being bullied have left deep scars. I think I am just fed up of having two different kids...in the morning he is totally miserable, won't speak or eat breakfast when he comes home he is a different person, joking and laughing with everybody!!!