Having ex- as friend?

@msq516 (61)
China
October 27, 2009 12:02am CST
Do you think it is still possible for ex-boy friend or girl friend or ex-wife or husband to be friends? Do you feel comfortable when you find your partner is having such a friend. I don't like it.
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7 responses
@MJAL08 (275)
27 Oct 09
Its still possible but difficult because one way or another things will definitely be awkward. For example, could you possibly tell your ex/ friend, " Hey, i have a new boyfriend now. How about you?" Awkward, very awkward. I myself don't like it because both parties will only feel uncomfortable. Friends is ok but it will certainly be difficult.
@redhotpogo (4422)
• United States
27 Oct 09
no. ex's are ex's. They left your life, they shouldn't be involved in it anymore. I don't do the "lets just be friends" thing. It means I don't want to be with you, but if no one else is around then i'll come running to you. I don't have time for that.
@mesuaky (397)
• Singapore
27 Oct 09
i think it depends on the character of your ex, i tried this with my ex-boyfriend, we were friends for a year and more before we became a couple, and when we ended up breaking up, i tried to be civil and bring back the friendship we had, he was ok with that but in the end he use this friendship to continuesly take advantage of me. it hurt me even more than our break up and not i totally blocked him out of my life. i learned my lesson in a bad way, but i know this does not happen to all but one just need to be careful. it hurts and it feels like hell.
@marababe (2513)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I tried being friends with one of my exes but it just won't work. He started acting like a boyfriend and I just don't feel comfortable with it already. I think being friends after your romantic relationship ends depends on your relationship BEFORE you became a couple.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
27 Oct 09
I think it's possible for ex's to be just friends but it depends on the people involve. i guess i am friends with one of my ex's. i don't feel weird usually.. sometimes i think i still feel like i could touch them or try to kiss them but thats only when i've been drinking and just feel the urge to make out lol but i know a lot of people who stay friends after a relationship is over
@shadow41 (2356)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
Hello. I want to befriend my ex girlfriend but she doesn't want to be my friend. Haha. She said we can never be friends. Oh well maybe it's just good for me cause for sure my current girlfriend won't like it if I will still have ties with my ex. :p shadow41
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I have a friend who has been separated from her husband for almost 5 years. They have been friends all this time even if both have been committed to another person. Maybe because they have 2 kids that connects them. The good thing here is that their present relationship understand that they have to nurture the friendships and the kids had already accepted the fact. I am not really sure what will I do if i am involve in this kind of relationship. This is a good discussion.