I just can't say it.

@leahsmom (338)
United States
October 29, 2009 8:20am CST
I just can't tell anyone No. I can't seem to let the word No fly off my tongue I don't know what it is. I always buy things I don't want and do things I don't really want to do because I can't say no.
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@bird123 (10525)
• United States
31 Oct 09
Are you really helping your loved ones by always saying yes?? How can they stand on their own two feet without a few struggles. We don;t learn from the yesses in our lives. We learn from the no's. We learn how to do it ourselves or to go around the problem. You just need a little practice. The day after reading this will be your no day. Say no to everything and see what happens. You are going to find that they all still love you at the end of the day.If they notice the big change they might start taking better care of you. Of course saying no all the time is as bad as saying yes all the time. A day or two of no will do everyone some good. Make them all THINK!!
@jugsjugs (13045)
29 Oct 09
There are lots of things that i can not say no to as well as alot of people.If people say can you do something for me i will always do it even if i do not want to.There are lots of things that people want to use of mine and i let them,yet i do know i will never get them back.People always expect me to drive so i do it.All of these things i could say no to yet i still do them.
@vincyk (198)
• China
29 Oct 09
I think you must be a nice person and your friends loves you very much,right.Ha,i don't think do not say NO is a bad thing but some times if it concerns to the principles for yourself then you'd better not heistate to say NO louderly.In daily lives it's OK to be nice to everybody.
• United States
29 Oct 09
Been there..For me, being more socially oriented than personally oriented, the need to please was stronger than the need to be pleased..which led to a lot of horsshit..Perhaps its the same with you..And when I was fed up with being used and abused by the 'takers', I had to reassess what and who was truly important to me and narrow my 'YES'es to these things and people and learn how to 'NO' with confidence those things and people who were not..The simplest way to start is to NEVER answer without thinking. It may sound silly, but that pause gives you the chance to consider 'why' before you answer..As in 'WHY does this person want from me?'..'WHY do I want this thing?'..'WHY do I want to do this?'..And don't allow folks to drop the 'guilties' on you. Users will do that..Good luck..enjoy!
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
29 Oct 09
Don't worry...I used to have the same problem. One day, you'll wake up older, wiser, and too darn tired to say one more "yes" to one more request lol. Karen