Love gurus, alert!

October 31, 2009 9:31pm CST
This issue isn't really my problem, but a friend's. I already asked permission from her if I could post it here, and she said yes (just so everybody knows). I promised not to divulge any names or whatsoever. My friend, 22 years of age, is now in an 8-month-relationship with her boyfriend. Last night, we talked about what has been bothering her for weeks now. For some reason, she feels really confused. She loves the guy, no question about it. But, there are times when they go out when she looks at the guy and says to herself "Why am I here? I shouldn't be here". She told me many of her friends tell her she's not the settling type yet, considering her career: she's winning lots of contests nationally, top student in her class. As one of her long time friends said, "You? Settling down?? I don't think so". She's the sort of girl that's like the wind, you can't tie her down. This issue really hurts her. It's the typical "It's not you, it's me" type of drama. And she's been asking advice from me, to think I'm the one who has zero experience when it comes to relationships. So people, what should I tell her? Any advice out there?
2 responses
@bird123 (10526)
• United States
1 Nov 09
Hmmm?? This one is not going to make it. If it's true love, the chemistry is so high that you never ask why.
@kathcake (70)
1 Nov 09
If she's having doubts it's not really fair on him.. 22 isn't exactly young but if she wants to be a free spirit then why is she pushing herself into this relationship? Maybe she should take a step back,let him know that she's having doubts and see if he would agree to something that isn't so committed. Like seeing each other a few times a week rather then all the time if that's the case. Or maybe taking a break to see if she misses him or not.