I had loved her like anything............

India
November 4, 2009 11:33pm CST
I always thought tht when i will fall in love,i will love her vry much....And when i fall in love,i fall in love wth such a girl,tht was already loving someone else....I never told her tht i love her.....she was my gud frnd....I had supported her at evry situatn....means the guy she was loving was vry bad...He was treating her like a tissue paper....He has no value of her....Daily they quarrel and tht girl didnt say anythng...She daily tell evrythng to me wht is happening,i supported her vry much.....I was very hurted but i dont want to leave her alone in tht situatn.....He said ur smile is not gud....u shulnt wear jeans and t-shrt...u shuld not do this and tht.....Evrytime she quarrel and she feel like crying and she called me up and she crys on my shoulder....and as me and her were living in the same city....Once she wants to meet tht guy far from our city.....she said i ll go and the place and the route was not gud for girls.....So the guy knws me...so he said u come with her.....I said ok....I took her to tht place...They both sat and talk and in the eve.we both again sit in the bus for returning home..and she was so tired and she said i want to sleep in ur lap and she slept in my lap and my hand was on her back.....so she suddenly hold my hand and kissed my hand...i was surprised...I didnt say anythng... And this quarrel and all this goes on...So i told her tht why you hurting yourself if ur not happy wth him,leave him....She was afraid of him tht i cant do tht....and one day she tolds me tht she love me....and she forced me and she told me tht i knw u also me and aftr tht i said yes I love you....One day aftr a big problem her relatn breaks with her.... Aftr tht she was with me....I cared her before also and at tht time also as such a litlle child....Both at lunch and dinner and breakfast,i would msg her and tellher let us eat lunch and if she says no i would say then i will also not eat and so bcoz of me she eat....sometimes she do like this.... Aftr sometime she again start talking wth tht guy and she didnt told me and i knw her very much tht if she lies me also then i would knw tht she is lieing and i knw tht something is wrong and i get to knw tht she is talking wth her and ask her so she says yes and it was shocking but then also i didnt get angry on her and i told het i understand dear its not easy but u knw tht guy is just hurting you and she says yes and she again stop talking wth him....... And like this she has done for 4-5 times tht she started talking wth him and lieing me....It hurts me a lot but i jst tell her with love tht please understand,i cant see someone hurts you.... Means now she is free from all problem but she said i cant marry you coz of her parents and i understand her and i had accepted her..... I had loved her like anythng....I had cared her very much and i still love her and care her...She talks wth me today also and i told her whenever she needs me i will be with you.....
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11 responses
• India
5 Nov 09
From this we can understand that you are madly in love with her. What I feel is she is not as much as you are concerned....How her boyfriend is making use of her she is making use of you in the same way when ever she is in need. When ever wants a help to meet him, or when he leaves her and when he is back after few days again going back to him. Really she is not truly in love with u i feel. Just you only think of once if it's true why did she go back again to him and not agreeing for marriage with you..think off...don't spoil your life by thinking so much of her who doesn't care for u...I think you are a student you have a bright future....many girls are there better than her who might love you...go ahead concentrate on your studies and build a bright future it's in your hands....Good luck...sunny.........
• India
6 Nov 09
Hi, try to divert ur mind ofcourse we feel that it's not in our hands....stay back completely busy until you sleep keep some aim that u should achieve and try to concentrate on that. I can understand but sometimes it happens. If everything happens as we want then what's the life.....people even forget God...So as a friend I advice you to move forward...try to concentrate on your studies..it's much important that too for the one who doesn't have time for you why do you waste your time for her......You are not going to get it back once lost...Time is valuable....take care..divert your mind...keep asking suggestions this n that if i can will help you but come out of that false love....which is not yours....k..take care...good day..
• India
6 Nov 09
Thank you very much....Ya i will definitely ask for suggestion and thanks again...I will try my best to get out this mess...
• India
5 Nov 09
Thank you....I had thought abt this and you are totally right....but sometimes it is not in my hand...
• India
5 Nov 09
Hi Drsunny..hey are you doctor or dr is your initial...? So, sweet man...but remember one thing...she has you, when she gets emotionally week..but you will not have anyone to support you when your hurt.. man firstly you have to take care of yourself...and secondly go and getit sort it out..clear the things with your loved ones...ask her directly why she is behaving like that, is there something which has been hidding with you,tell her that you get hurt with this type behaviour...open yourself man or else you are the one going to be hurt very badly....remember situations like this, a girls can recover very fastly but a man cant... Take Care
• India
6 Nov 09
Hey Sunny Take Care of your self man.....Dont spoile your carrer...girls may come and go...man...but your carrire...you have to think of yourself man...i know its very difficult time for you..but still remember one thing girls can get out of this situations very easly...and we can't. You have lots of things to consider you, your parents, your future patner...whome ever is going to be....you cant let them suffer for you... Man calm down....concentrate on your studies...let this 8months get out....and as time goes everything will get set. Take Care
• India
6 Nov 09
Really thanks buddy......I will do coz i hve to build my carrier....Thanks...Take care too...
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• India
5 Nov 09
After 8 months i will be a doctor....I m in final year...Ya you are right...there is no one when i m hurted....I will try to open myself...Thanks
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@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
7 Nov 09
obviously this woman is giving you a lot of heartache. forget about her and move on. let her worry about her own problems. you said she isnt interested in marry you, so dont waste your time with her.
• India
13 Nov 09
Yep i will leave her...Thank you...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
Hello Drsunny, She's not confused i guess,she holds you like a spare tire,that,when the other one get's flat,she can have you as substitute. True love should not be taken for granted,i had once run from my supposedly wedding,becoz,i found the right guy/true love..so i choose to run away from my engagement(an arrange marriage) becoz simply i don't love the guy(my parents choice)and i can't bear to cheat him. So, less than a month before our wedding,i run away with the man i choose and whom i felt the real/true love. If she really loves you,she should make up her mind and won't hurt you by lieing. I admire your sincerity and devotion to her...i just hope you are doing the right thing.If she cheated and lied to you ...she can repeatedly do it even if you get married(i hope and i wish i am wrong) I am not judging her...but your stories shows her real character. Think aloud...never trust your heart..coz,"HEART IS THE MOST DECEITFUL OF ALL DECEIVERS"
• India
6 Nov 09
Sometime i also think abt this...Gud line.....Thanks
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
Hi DRsunny! How lucky is your loved one. But i would ask you something. Are you sure she loves you too? Dont you think she is just using you and taking advantage of your love and kindness? I dont mean anything with what i am saying but, if a am on her shoes, i will break up with my first boyfriend and divert my love to you. Because you are always there for her. You care for her more than her boyfriend do. So please think it over Drsunny, do you really feel that she loves you too?
• India
5 Nov 09
I dont knw sometime i feel tht she loves me...Sometime i thnk whtu said why she cant thnk like this...as you said u will break up and come to me...Its like tht she knws i m always there for her..so my value is nothing for her..
• India
6 Nov 09
Hope it may be round the corner..Thanks...Hve a grt day
• Philippines
6 Nov 09
He he, may be you sould stay a way from her for a while. Examine your true feelings and analyze the whole situation. Maybe that girl will also realize how important you are to her when she wont see you for a while. Look around, your soulmate may just be around the corner. Good Luck!
@Savedeath (255)
• China
6 Nov 09
hi,your story touch me very much,i don't know what is the real love but i'm sure you are just insisting on the way,my friend,hope finally you can find it
• India
6 Nov 09
Thanks...Hope for the Best:-)
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
5 Nov 09
hello there! dont waste your time and money to a going-nowhere-relationship. it's a pity on your part and you dont deserve to be treated the way she's treating you. you can still find a better woman than her and i know she's just nearby. i wish you all the luck!
• India
5 Nov 09
Ya ur are very true.....i knw tht but whenever thnk tht i should leave her and i thnk if she needs me wht she will do if she has a problem....And tht`s stop me...Thank you
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 09
wow .. talking about love is fun but sometimes can also be painful ... you must happy, friend, because the levels of love it can be decreased but it was which became interesting from a love
• India
5 Nov 09
Hmm interesting.....:-)
• United States
5 Nov 09
Obviously I do not know the people involve, so take what you like and ignore the rest. But it sounds like this girl uses you when it suits her, and you don't need to be second best to this guy who she keeps going back to. As long as she keeps messing you around, I think it would be better for you to say you will not be involved at all until this guy is out of the picture, and unless she can make her mind up about you. She doesn't sound ready for any sort of relationship to me, and you are wasting your own opportunities waiting for her. I hope it all works out for you.
• India
5 Nov 09
Hmm She is very confused...she cant take any decision...Thanks
• India
5 Nov 09
my friend has the same problem....he was in ur situation... what he did is he scolded her like anything ...then they broke up and that gal went with another guy... this is really a problematic situation ...one idea is that if that guy avoid this girl then surely she will fall back to u ... how that guy will avoid this gal is in ur hand do some tricks ... if u really think he is bad u can manage this girl do any thing for ur love....all the best
• India
5 Nov 09
She has broke up wth tht before 2 months...Thanks
• Indonesia
5 Nov 09
Wow sounds like you got a rough road ahead of you my friend, better be strong and pour your heart out, but it would be best if you look for comfort in some other woman's embrace, i once love this woman and one time she ask for some time to wrap things up with her academic thing, and the next few weeks later i came to her and she was married with somebody else.