when he starts to mature

@AyE_88 (13)
Philippines
November 6, 2009 1:02pm CST
Im a single mom and I am taking care and working for my son. He was one year old and very charming. As a mother I always think of his future and makes sure that it would not be like mine. A long story but requires strength survive. What Im worrying about is the time that he becomes mature and will have his own decisions. What if I can never control him from doing wrong things?? What should a mother do to have his child follow the right path?? If your in my case? What should I do?
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7 responses
• India
8 Nov 09
Take life in small doses and worry about your son's immediate future and do not try to think what will happen in the long run.You cannot control anybody's life totally so give up that idea. Just try to incorporate all the good values into your son at his impressionable age and hope for the best. He will turn out well I am sure.Good luck!
@maximax8 (27048)
8 Nov 09
You seem to be the best job that you can taking care of your young son. I think you are feeding him, bathing him, clothing him and playing games with him. Lots of toys and some picture books can give in some early learning. You could talk to your son to help develop his language. Toddlers of 2 to 3 and a half will be learning and testing boundaries. Being slightly firm and very kind will help you. It is best to always have a reason like "no because an iron is very hot". A positive tone of voice can help and whispering could get your son to hang on to what you are saying. Good luck.
@doormouse (4619)
7 Nov 09
just do your best and it'll be fine,i try to steer my kids in the right direction,it does'nt always work,but that's part of parenthood
@Hazelrose (2186)
• Philippines
7 Nov 09
Hi AyE_88, As a mother of six,I am so concern for the future of my children.What i always do is to pray always,asking guidance to our Almighty God.We can not do it our self but offer them to our God To guide him always.Thanks and Good Luck!
@mariposaman (2968)
• Canada
7 Nov 09
The only time you really have control and the ability to instill monitors self control and values is when they are young, by the time they are six the groundwork is pretty well laid out. I realize it is unpopular to say there's what I firmly believe a loving father in the family is best, unfortunately that is not always possible, so that makes your job twice as hard. I fear for all the boys that are being brought up fatherless and end up joining gangs to get the things they are missing in the family. Not really what you wanted to hear I know, and I realize this is an unpopular opinion.
@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
6 Nov 09
As parents all we can do is do our best raising our children and hope for the best. We need to make sure to instill good moralas in our children and always let them know they are loved and teach them right from wrong, and be good examples our selves to them. We give them love and we give them the tools to be good successful people but once they get to a certain age it is up to them how they are going to turn out, but I think as long as we do the best we can raising them and teaching them right from wrong most kids will turn out good. Very few kids who have really dedicated parents end up bad. It is usually those that have parents that have not been diligent and loving in their care for them, there are a rare few that turn out bad no matter what, but most good parents will raise good kids.
• France
6 Nov 09
It sounds like you are doing what you should be doing in order to raise a good person, and that is being a good person yourself. He will look up to you and want to be like you no matter what your behavior, so choose wisely. You must understand that no one can be controlled and the harder you try the harder it will be for him to not rebel against you. Let go of the worry and concentrate on being a good example for him.