Looks can be very misleading....

Hi tutul Oh yes I have been fooled. Several years back my ex daughter law started talking to this guy on the internet. He photo made him appear to be a rough and tough kind of guy. I warned her of him because of the way that he looked. She didn't listen and now today they are married and have a baby too. He is nothing like his pic at all. He is a gentle and boyish type guy. Otherwords a very good man. I learned from that, looks are not everything at all. Good discussion and have a great day. Keep smiling.

Sure, some of the nicest people I know look like the would mean or menacing, but once you get to know they you can see they have very large hearts and are actually very, very nice. Of course you could also look at someone who looks like they would be very sweet but they are actually a very mean and deceptive person. It is not good to judge someone's personality by their appearance.

I'd tend to disagree. Of course I am going by first impressions but I can usually tell what a person is like by looking at them. I am not just talking about their face but by their whole package and demeanor. I tend to study people and can make a fairly accurate assessment on what they are like. Most people do not study the whole package though and just look at the face of being attractive or unattractive, and of course the body if it is fit or unfit. It is sort of like in the old Sherlock Holmes books where he would look at a person and not just small things about them and could say what they were doing by a lot of clues that most people were not aware of. Assessing people is more an art than science of course and takes a lifetime of experience. Have you ever seen the Jay Leno show where this guy picks out people on the street and says about four or five things about them which sound totally out of left field but he is about 95% accurate despite looking at these people that he has never seen before.

Hi tutul! I can't agree with you more that it can be very deceptive to judge a person by his look. One's character has little to do with his appearance. Few days ago, I saw a discussion in mylot saying that a handsome guy or a beautiful girl would make one feel well. Maybe most of us would be attractive and pleasant at seeing beautiful things, but there is also saying of "beautiful as flowers and evil as snakes", so we should calm down, otherwise you may be fooled by appearance.

yes, indeed looks can be misleading at times because a person may or may not judge you by the way that you look, people must learn not to judge ahead the person just because he looks different but must feel the sincerity within the person being looked at.

It is an obvious saying that Apperance shows manner" e.g Show me your friend and I will tell the type of person you are. Inaddition, expensive(attractive, beautiful) clothing doesnt speaks for influential figures. People deals deligently with you in proportion to your looks.

I believe that is very true indeed and I have met people and then as I have got to know them they have been different to what I initially thought. There was a girl at the university that I went to and she looked a real mess. Her hair looked like it hadn't been combed for five years. She had a piercing in her nose. The had tatty clothes on. She was really a very kind person and ever so intelligent. We have all heard the saying "Never Judge a book by its Cover". My first driving instructor told me about his nephew. He described his appearance and it was so worrying looking that if he waited for friend in town the police often turned up thinking he was about to burgle a house or rob a shop. A man with a beard can look dangerous sometimes and always it makes him look older than he really is. Customs staff at airports have a difficult job to find out which travelers are importing illegal items. They will see all kinds of people of every different description. Some people feel guilty when passing through customs even though they are innocent. People can't choose their looks but some try to enhance their appearance. Some ladies look really innocent and they are not at all. Some men look men look scary but they are really gentle giants. I try to notice a persons personality and interests more than their looks.

I agree with you...looks can be very misleading. But sometimes looks show us what that person's lifestyle. How they live and what kind of personality they had.Getting close to them is the only way to know them better...other than thier looks...

This is precisely why there's the saying: "Dont judge the book by its cover". Many people are quick to judge the appearance of another person. Yes, looks can be very misleading. Sometimes the way people carry themselves is not how they are on the inside. I have some friends who look like street punks but they happen to be very intelligent and kind people. You just never know. I think we've all been deceived by looks at one point or another.

Looks as you point out is not a mirror unto themselves for a number of people.Most of us are very good actors in real life and can give out whatever signals we want to give to the person in front of us.We put on so many masks that the real self is well hidden. Sometimes this goes to far and we try to hide our real personality from ourselves as well. This happens a lot with movie stars who are so busy playing a star that they tend to forget what kind of a human being they really are.

Looks can be very misleading and we should not lay too emphasis on it. Perhaps looks is one of the standards needed for first actions. But when we are getting familiar with others, it means nothing. In fact, as the nature of human beings, our looks change all the time. Perhaps you are very beautiful, but then as you get older you will change obviously. It is wrong to treat looks as a key standard to evaluate the value of people. When people are getting more mature, then they will pay no attention to looks.