Can a grown child be too close to their parents or family?
By mac6304
@mac6304 (76)
United States
November 10, 2009 11:49am CST
I love my parents but I don't want to live with them nor do they want to live with me. We are respectful of each other and understand that some times things are personal, private business between me and my husband and no one else.
On the other side, my husbands family thinks that it is their God given right to know every detail about our life, comment on everything they know to us and other family members. And if they can't find out something true, then they make up their own version of the truth (which is usually wrong and critical of us). Thankfully, my husband is not like that and he does not play into their game.
Does anyone else have this problem and how do you handle it? We are to the point that we have very little to do with them and they don't understand why. We have basically had to just give up trying to change the situation because they will not change. They have lost there relationship with my husband and almost lost all contact with our child because of their nonsense. We refuse to raise him in that kind of environment and they have been told it is their choice to change or lose out.
3 responses
@rg0205 (2636)
• Hong Kong
10 Nov 09
The words "too close" sort of creeps me out.
I think when children grow into adults, they are entitled to a private life. Actually, I think even before we grow into adults, we are allowed to have our own secrets and not tell our parents everything that goes on in our lives.
I don't have this problem, luckily. My father is indifferent and my mother respects my decisions and is confident enough that I can do well on my own.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Nov 09
Both my brother and myself are very close to our mother and in both of our marriages it has never been a huge issue to deal with. My husband loves my mother almost as if she was his own and he has never had an issue with me sharing what is going on in our lives with her. In fact, she is involved very much in our lives. We still have some things that we only share with each other, but my mother is my best friend. She was in the delivery room when both of my children were born and she has helped us out in our times of trouble.
