Perfection can be so ugly
By kaseyrenee
@kaseyrenee (40)
United States
November 12, 2009 10:20pm CST
I met one of the most amazing people i have ever met. I loved him and let him go. We spent every second possible with each other and i thought that it was the real deal. I thought that i had found my one and only. He was everything i could have ever wanted and more. He would sing to me in his parents Cafe after hours. He wrote songs for me and was just so talented and had the voice of a god. From head to toe he was just beautiful and he knew all the right things to say at the right times. We would lay outside and stare at the stars and i swear i have never seen them twinkle as they did back then. We were so passionate and crazy about one another. One day is all it took to shatter our perfect relationship. So I am wondering am I the only person who has had this happen? how do you deal with it when its over? what is the point of a relationship being so amazing if it is going to crash and burn?
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11 responses
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I'm not trying to be mean, but if it only took one day to destroy, I am left wondering if it was truly a relationship. Or a great infatuation that ran it's course?
An infatuation can be all those perfect things you talk about but if it can't withstand one day of turmoil it was never relationship. Relationship implies working through tough..I don't mean if he killed your dog or is abusive, but real relationships aren't built on perfect, I've been married over 20 years and trust me, real relationships are built on the ugly..you get your hands dirty in a relationship..what makes it a good one is the other guy is wading through the ugly with you..getting just as dirty.
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@CaptHowdy410 (82)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I couldn't have said it better. A real relationship is companionship Not singing to you in a restaurant. Sure those things I could imagine are nice, but they aren't what hold a relationship together. One thing I've noticed is that the beautiful people don't really try in a relationship because they hold themselves so high on their own little pedestal. They think that anyone they decide to be with is replaceable. It's the average people who try the hardest. The best thing you can do is realize that if all it took was one day...one argument..one whatever it was that caused him to leave you.. Then he wasn't as perfect as you thought he was. Realize that you are better than that, that you deserve..better than that.
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@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings, like I said I wasn't trying to be mean. I based my answer on the information given and my opinion. Evidently whatever happened had to be horrible for you and I didn't mean to make you feel like I was minimizing your pain. I'm sorry you got hurt. I truly hope you find the guy you can get "dirty" with.
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@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
There was a BIG part of the story that i left out so i am sorry that you got the wrong picture. I really do not know what else to say other than thank you for your response
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
13 Nov 09
You have left us readers in a quandary by saying that it took just a day for that perfect relationship of yours to crumble. It sure means that there was a lot of pretense else why should something as perfect as you say should disappear. Just as well I could say as, if you chose each other for better or for worse things would have turned uglier. Praise the Lord that it happened at the nick of time.
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@allknowing (130064)
• India
14 Nov 09
Those who trust in God are never let down but He does send us tribulations which we are expected to handle with His presence in our life.
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@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I will say that i left the bad part out of the story because i can not force myself to say it aloud. It was a very heart breaking and hurtful goodbye and i am sure that things will get better with time. We had talked about going to the alter but like you said Praise God that i was not stupid enough to ruin my life by doing so. Thank you for your response and i hope to hear from you soon. Take care -kaseyrenee
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@oasis_9 (831)
• Philippines
13 Nov 09
The important thing is you were able to share special moments together and just think everything happens for a reason. So probably this happened for a reason why you break up, maybe you both can learn from this and just end up together again in the near future.
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@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I do not wish to get back in a relationship with him i just miss him being around. Now we do not talk anymore and i wish that would change. He was my best friend and we just had an amazing connection and its horrible that we are no longer part of each others lives. I know and believe that everything happens for a reason i am just wondering when i am going to figure this one out. Thank you for your kind words. Means a lot to me. keep in touch -kaseyrenee
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@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
14 Nov 09
in my experience i have those times that i thought i have already what i am looking for. but i think you are lucky in your relationship cause he made you so happy each time you are with him. i don't know what do you mean it just ended in just a day. how that happened still baffles me. anyways, i believe there is always somebody good enough out there for us. maybe that person has been there all along. you just need to be open to people around you.
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@maezee (41997)
• United States
13 Nov 09
I think it's more about the journey than the ending. You had fun, had a good time, and have good memories to look back on (from what I'm reading). I think that's all that matters. Everything eventually comes to an end - and so you just need to enjoy it while it lasts, if you ask me. And keep in mind there's no such thing as a "perfect relationship" - having a "perfect" anything is unattainable. It hurts when it's over, but I think you need to appreciate it for what it was and stay optimistic. People come in and out of our lives each and every day, and it's something that you just need to learn how to move on, let go, and continue to enjoy your life.
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@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
Thank You for responding to my post. I think that you are correct but there was more to the story but I just could not swallow my pride and put it for all to see. Although we did have good times, I don't think I have ever had my heart broken so badly.
Anyways the times were fun and i do not want to take any of it back. He is a great person i just wish we could have ended up being friends, just like we promised we would.
Once again thank you for your response and i hope to become friends and keep in touch. -kaseyrenee
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@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 09
Nothing is forever, dear, only God is. Human will be human, and everybody has their weaknesses or ugly sides. It just takes time and the right circumstance. Before you see his weakness, of course he's perfect. But once it reveals itself, then maybe it's too ugly for you too handle. I had that kind of relationship before, and it took me 6 months to recover, by praying a lot, and confessing to myself how foolish I've been to believe and to give myself totally heart and soul like that. Don't regret the good memories. Just keep it in one of your memory cells. This is how people get mature and wiser.
@kaseyrenee (40)
• United States
14 Nov 09
I am sorry to hear that you had to go through it too. I know how hard it is to let go of someone so dear to you. Thank you for your kind words you have no idea how much it helps me. Wiser, yes ma'am that i am. I learned and loved and regret none of the past just simple life lessons. I am not in a great relationship and have a beautiful baby girl and will be planning my wedding soon. Once again thank you so much for your response. Take care and keep in touch- Kaseyrenee
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Mar 10
Well, sometimes you can think things you are enduring at the time that the person you are with is really the one, and this is who you are meant to be with, and then things happen and you find out it was only a dream. Maybe this was just a life experience showing you what to expect when the real thing comes along. Just remember no matter what, this is not the end of the world. There is definately more Fish in the sea. And if it is still meant to be it could be resolved again as well.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
14 Nov 09
kaseyrenee,
If it's another love lost due to external environment - then this love you speak of is no doubt questionable.
Love is a constant - not a variable.
Take care and have a nice day.
@Criss_121 (19)
• Canada
14 Nov 09
the reason a relationship may crash or burn is if the motivation from the begening is not centered on yourself or to love someone.
Then there is the part you know the person and decide if you're going to like this person.
And finaly once you like it you have to make it work and do the efforts to keep it strong, it's like sports you don't train you get fat same thing with a relationship you don't do anything it get sketch. :P
The point of a relationship is to experience the most beautiful thing on earth.
@mavieserrano728 (670)
• Philippines
13 Mar 10
Awww that's sad. What happened? Why did the relationship end if you don't mind? You should not have any regrets at all nit unless you were the one who ended the relationship. It's hard to move on but I believe that time will heal a broken and wounded heart. Just keep yourself occupied and avoid instances that will remind you of him. In due time, you will meet someone better than what you used to have. Just continue to be happy and spend time with your friends. Keep yourself busy, it works!
