During a bad phase everything you do just goes wrong
November 14, 2009 10:19pm CST
I know life is full of ups and downs and we should be ready to face both.But have you ever felt that when you are going through a bad phase,everything just turns up against you.I have definitely felt that.It seems as if whatever you do,its gonna be messed up.There is a gut feeling that nothing is going to be right. The problem becomes intense when such a trough continues for a longer time.I know the friends and all the well wishers of your try to be beside you and encourage you to boost your confidence.But the one who goes through it he/she only can understand the pain.No one else.Everything bit of advice seems fake and I just feel to stay alone during such a time. I am just going through such a phase in my life.Things are really going wrong with me and I dont know how to bring my life back to track.Anyways I should like to hear your views on this topic.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
15 Nov 09
Hi Crazybubu, You mentioned that you are undergoing a certain process in your life now where everything seemed to be going wrong...first you need to reflect on what is the real issue/concern, sort it out and prioritize. check on the things that you can still do something and live all those that you can't do anything except to accept the fact that it's there and you will do your best to live with it. ask yourself in your own simple way what you can do to get out from that situation quickly. life is too short for us to be drown in something not making us happy. let's enjoy life and do something to keep yourself happy by not depending on others for your happiness. there are so many reasons for us to be happy friend. Welcome to Mylot. Cheer up!
15 Nov 09
hey francis thanks for your concern.I really appreciate your valuable tips.I know I cant be such a sorrow stricken guy and should enjoy life,but you know what I have tried doing that.Everytime I make myself feel that its just part of life and since every night has a day,good times will appear soon.But no man,this doesn't seem possible.But anyways I am just better now and thanks to you for sharing your views.
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 09
crazybubu I think when any of us go through these bad sp ells they seem to come in batches, for me it was always in threes so when the third bad thing happened I just knew now all was going to go my way again.you have lots of company I am sure if that helps any. no dont look at your friends that way,look at them as a source of help.if you are down in the depths you need someone's firm hand to pull you up out of the quagmire onto level firm ground. sometimes a problem can be cut into several small pieces if two or three heads work it over, so dont cut out the very people who may be able to help you. You have the idea that nobody else has ever been where you are, and thats so wrong. let your friends try to help you. No man is an island. we all need help from each other.
16 Nov 09
yess hatley you are very true.....infact i have found that friends are the best things that could happen to someone.....they are always there to help you.....i am not discouraged by them,but its my problem i guess that i am not able to share my problems with them.....i feel like there is no use bothering them for my problems....i know such creepy thinking is not right,but i get them,what to do????
• United States
15 Nov 09
ya. when things are looking down i try not to let them. sometimes i don't know whether i should let them, or try to control things so i can still be happy. i wonder if this is a time of change. that we need to cry, because if we didn't feel any tears life would be so different. but you are not necessarily talking about crying, you are just saying that things start to mess up and nothing goes right. i wonder if we should let go at these times. and do what we do best, whatever that is! some gut feelings i used to have and they were bad. i try not to have those anymore. i just don't believe in them, even though they seemed like they were real. maybe this means i am disconnected. maybe i could go with one of those sharp emotional shots that tell you nothing is going to be like it was before!
16 Nov 09
yeah thats very true what u have said.......untill and unless there is something bad we can never understand the value of good.....and thats why it might be that we need to go through such bad phases.....i know we have to motivate ourselves during these times and look at the brighter side of life,but honestly speaking sometimes i can't......