my cousin is having a baby whit his cousin.

United States
November 17, 2009 10:37am CST
my little cousin just trun 18 and gave us a big suprise that she was pregnet when we ask her hoo the father was it shoock us she was having a baby whit her mom sister son AKA her cousin. is this OK?
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• Philippines
17 Nov 09
we all know that this kind of situation is not allowed in the ice of the people and also in the eyes of our family and friends. But i think in the eyes of god there is no big deal for him as long as you are a human being is this society.In your case if they love each other then why dont we let them continue of what they fell....I know some friends of mine have the same situation like yours...And i support them because they show each a respect also to another...so they just accept of what they have done....
• United States
17 Nov 09
You can't be serious!?! I understand that in some situations people are adopted or some situation pops up where they don't know that they are related...but if you know, it is wrong! The kids could have all types of problems! Can you imagine what those kids will have to deal with when they get older? If anyone knows that their parents are cousins, they will be teased to no end! I can not believe with the possible affects on the child and all the DNA issues that you support such a thing.
@kjess77 (41)
• United States
19 Nov 09
Well the question at this point should really be "What are they going to do now". Most people in our society (and it sounds like you included) do not find it socially acceptable to have a child with their first cousin. The most important thing to consider is that many babies that are born of cousins share too many genetic similarities and thus end up with more medical issues. This is why marrying your cousin is illegal in many states. But since the baby is already on it's way, the parents need to focus all of their love and attention on teaching the child that they are loved and not a mistake. Family and friends should try to accept what has already happened, and find ways to help the family through this time and to come to acceptance.
• Indonesia
18 Nov 09
I think about it is not a problem. But according to medical science, it has a lot of potential disease that will arise. Especially disease caused by genetic abnormalities. So should be avoided to have children of relatives who are still close, like siblings or cousins. In order for your descendants can avoid genetic health problems.
• United States
17 Nov 09
Ok or not it is a fact of her life now. She needs to do everything possible to make sure that the baby is born into a health, happy, safe situation. Are there any intentions of the mother and father continuing in a relationship that would be nuturing towards the child? If not then they need to decide now how to handle this as it could cause greater problems between her mother and her aunt. Family therapy may be in order here to figure out what is best for all parties and to settle any friction that may have started. As for the health issues in the child no one can honestly say if there will be any until futher test are done. And if there are health issues no one can say without DNA testing that is casued by the fact that the two parents are cousins as many children are born each year with mental and physical issues. I send a prayer to your entire family that this child is a blessing, born with heath and happiness. That the ties that bond your family grow stronger each day and that if this child is brought into your family that you remember he/she is a gift of God. And that if your cousin does not feel that she can be responsible for a child that she will place it in the loving arms of someone that will treasure the child.
• United States
17 Nov 09
NO!!! I knew a girl who did that once too! The baby had a bunch of physical and developmental problems. She needs to make sure she tells her doctor that information so that they can do tests and be cautious! Hopefully the baby is healthy and fine when it is born.
• United States
17 Nov 09
The issue comes down to in breeding. There was for centuries no taboo on this type of relationship. Not until it was realized that inbreeding causes birth defects and the passing along of "broken" DNA. It is too late in this situation and it must be made clear though that it cannot continue.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
17 Nov 09
Though I live in Canada where it is frowned upon to be with your first cousins, I do know a few here that have married and had children with their cousins. A couple of them knew, but a few didn't know that they were cousins until later on. I think now a day with so many people having children from more than one partner and/or an absent parent there are going to be more and more people getting involved with someone who is related in some way. I am not too sure of the science behind what happens when people who are related have children. But I have seen healthy children come from these relationships. Though I would probably have not encouraged a relationship before, she is only 18, having a baby and needs support. I wish her the best of luck.
@menolly22 (217)
• United States
17 Nov 09
I guess it doesn't really matter wether it's OK or not anymore as she is pregnant and the deed has been done. Otherwise I would have said no, that's not OK. I understand cousins marrying each other. But they are down the line cousins. Like 9 or 10th cousins. I think some therapy is in order here. Prayers for your little cousin being so young to have a baby and to be in that kind of situation