Facebook: Find a past friend request?

United States
November 21, 2009 2:04pm CST
Hi! Does anyone know how to find out it you tried to Friend someone on Facebook? A friend of mine said she clicked to add someone she knows as a friend and she forgot for a week and realized she didn't hear anything about it for about a week. So, she search for the profile again and it says 'add as a friend' and no sign she ever requested it in the first place. I don't know much about Facebook but I thought that if you go back and the profile says 'Add as Friend' and not pending request that it means that the person ignored your request. Now she is wondering if she ever clicked it. Is there anyway to tell if you send the Friend Request? She said she can't believe that she would turn down her request because they were really good friends and still exchange emails. She doesn't want to send a Friend Request again if her friend denied her request because then she would be embarrassed. But, if it never went through in the first place she would like to send it. She is now embarrassed to ask her friend about it cause if she denied the request she is obvioulsy sending her a message about, what she thought was, their friendship. So, is there anyway to find out if she ever sent the request, besides asking the friend? The poor thing has been depressed over the thought that she was denied by who she thought was a good friend. So, any help would be much appreciated! She is sitting right next to me and says thank you to everyone who responds. An extra question. Has anyone ever been denied by someone you sent a Friend Request to? How did it make you feel?
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
21 Nov 09
Facebook doesn't let you know if someone denies your request, so (apart from memory) there is no way to know whether you invited and they refused or it never happened. The only way to find out if that, indeed, was the message they intended to send is: a) to ask them b) to add/invite them again (and remember this time!) Some people like to keep their Facebook accounts strictly for family (or, perhaps, for certain friendship groups). It doesn't necessarily mean that your friend has been snubbed. NEVER read your own thoughts into those of other people's. If in doubt, ask straight out so that you KNOW!
• United States
22 Nov 09
Well, that doesn't seem right. Oh well, I will let her know. Thank you very much for taking the time to help. We appreciate it!
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
23 Nov 09
It's because of 'privacy'. Many sites do the same (MyLot have the same policy of letting you know if someone accepts a 'friend' request but not telling you if they deny).