Does your family depress you?

I think I can understand how you feel. Recently I've had to move with my mother after my separation with my husband. It has created a void in my life which is difficult to explain. My mother's old and finds it difficult to understand my situation sometimes. But I love her very much. She is a darling and has always stood by me in the difficult times of life. But I understand that it is difficult for youngsters to live with old people expecially a generation apart. I guess you are also sufferig from what they call the generation gap. Just take it easy and chill. Everything will be allright once you have shifted away. Until then just concentrate on your life instead of your relationship with your grandmother.

Do you know her story? I wonder if she's been through bad things in life that made her feel that way. I understand it's hard for you to stay with her like that, but I also understand her, do you know if she's been through anything bad?

I don't live with my grandmother but still there are times I'm depressed because of my family, particularly my father. My father is getting old and he is very very generous to all people except to his family. He's happy when he has lots of money and if he runs out of money he blames us for everything. His way of thinking is absolutely ridiculous and he is always finding fault on what we do. I'm now a firm believer of the saying when someone gets old his/her thinking reverts back to being a kid because of my father. Sometimes I failed to understand him and we go into collision with each other. It's not easy but in this case we the young ones are the one to take the responsibility to understand our family and somehow talk to them. If the case is like my father then there is no use talking just try to avoid such situation that would really bother you.

Just because Grandma is unhappy doesn't mean you have to be. You know this is her personality so don't feed into it. Accept her and how she deals with and sees life. Understand that no matter what you do you cannot make another person happy, they have to want to be happy. Then live your life in a happy manner. Let her complaints go in one ear and out the other. Accept that this is what you will hear from her and it has nothing to do with you. You can even tell her that you accept her unhappiness but you will not participate in it. Encourage and reward he with you attention when she is positive, ignore the negative. It probably isn't going to change her but it can make living there more bearable. It may make like better for her too if she realizes that you aren't going to leave her, you aren't going to judge her but you aren't going to go through life with the same bleak outlook she has. Who knows she may even begin to be more positive - but don't bet the farm on it.

My grandmother passed away two weeks agao. While when I was in hometwon, I was also unwilling to live with her. Because my grandmother was talktive, and often she talked a single thing for more than 4 or 5 times. I was really bored of her.She would speak something bad about me to my aunts if I was indifferent to her. So I had a unhappy memory with my grandmother and aunts. I left hometown for nearly 10 years, the unhappy memory also faded with the time. I also feel regreted for not treating my grandmother well when she was alive.

Hello ,Hansonfan.Welcome to mylot.I sympathize with your experience.But she,after all,is your grandmother.If no relative around accompany her and she certainly very lonely.More understanding and tolerance.

You never know was she always this way? Maybe she is getting dementia or slight altheimer's. I would suggest her seeing the doctor. They can give her a pill to help with this condition, or even a mild depression for that matter.