What are the disadvantages of spending too much time with friends?

friends - Friends could either be good or bad influences.
Philippines
November 25, 2009 5:41am CST
I observe that when I spend too much time with friends i tend to forget some important events in my family, which includes birthday, anniversary and other important special occasion because of too much focus in the friends affairs. Since, I give more time with friends while my family is celebrating at home I am on my friends house and tend to forget the important celebration. Then, their is cases if you happen to be with the bad company of friends, their would be a possibility that one would be misguided. Then,if you have extravagant friends you would likely spend lavishly which would cost you a lot of money. How about you, What do you think are the disadvantages of spending too much time with friends?
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
26 Nov 09
Well, frenz are important to us, and important in our lives.. We need them survice, and we depend very much on them, other than family members.. BUt however, family should always be our top priority and we should never forget them.. Since u have already been influenced by your frenz, it's time for u to wake up and realise what has gone wrong.. OR rather, what are the things which makes u stay away from home more often.. ONce u find out the cause of it, solve it, and everything will be back to normal for u again ^_^
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• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Yup, and i comes out with this question as it is the same scenario which i observe happen to my sibling and other friends too. Actually, that happen to me during highschool when I am still curious about things and like to explore a lot with my friends around i could have a lot of fun, unlike in the house their is less fun to do. Well, as the years past by and grows more mature with lot of priorities lining up in my mind. Friends would come and go as i could not control them they just good to be true would eventually vanish when they are already busy with their life. Thus, I have bestfriend in the past and already gone, for little shares of pleasure. Then, i may have few friends now but not rather take it seriously as it is hard to let go knowing they have more priority to look at and friendship is like a diversion. Good till they are still around and eventually becomes bland with the passing years. I could not hold on a promises to last as they all tend to end or expires. So it is better not too expect too much from them.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
30 Nov 09
Good frenz are always hard to come by.. SO one needs to cherish those current ones.. NO matter how busy one is, at least when they make it a habit to keep in touch with u, it will be good enough ^_^ Friendship lasts forever, while some just come and go.. Nobody can stop them, while u have the choice to choose, who to be your good frenz as time goes by ^_^ Frenz lost, can be gained back again, when u are in a new environment ^_^
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
Yup, though their may be few friends that last they are likes treasures that last till lifetime... that good as long as they have time though busy with their life still mange to communicate with their friends... that very true and it is up for them to remember and to forget as they have the freedom though it is good if they could still recall each other even for a long time they have not seen each other... with new friends of course...[em]happy[
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@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
26 Nov 09
Yup, you are right. Nowadays, many people tend to be extravagant in their spending, and if one hangs out with another, there needs to be money spent all the time. The days whereby money is not an issue has been gone totally and nowadays, everything is about money. And only the victimized parties would feel the pinch. It's about showing off mainly and I'm just sick and tired of the rat race sometimes. It's best to just let it easy and just take a chill pill. Not literally, though, LOL. I'd rather have some relaxed friends whom are not into spending $100 a day, ha... good topic here, Neelia.
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hello zed, yeah, as many believe in the saying money makes the world go round unlike in the older days where money is not a popular method for survival as people quite live in simplicity..Nowday, people are befriended from their status in life if one have a lot of money to spend have more tendency to attract superficial friends... yup, too much competition in today craze world often lead to maddening situation unless one have a lot of self control would not let those things affect your positive disposition in life.. rest assure you;re still lucky to have genuine friends even with or without money..
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@zed_k4 (17634)
• Singapore
12 Dec 09
Very well said, Neelia.. You are right; if everything in this world is to be measured by money, then I think I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone, LOL.. it's great to see you around again.
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• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Yup, and money is not the only main things which trigger happiness as their are other meaningful ways one could seek it through the refuge and company of genuine friends and family. well, I am quite busy lately, still hop in at anytime I am free.. Nice good looking avatar, is that you? Happy holiday, zed.
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@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Their are bad and good friends which may brings a lot of influences. being with good friends gives a lot of motivation to do all good things. Having bad friends stolen your time to spend with family and brainwash your mind to attend lot of parties and spend unwisely. all things need to be control to be put in balance and by doing well you'll be fine.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi flower21, yup they are good and bad friends and one need to be selective in order to obtain only real friendship and not to fall under the influences of other people. it is also important to have spend quality time with family never neglect them in favor of friends.
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@kiuhkj (117)
• China
26 Nov 09
I think the family important than friends. Of course, if you friends and your family needs you, then according to the importance of the matter reasonable arrangements.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi kiuhkj, Yup, they are both important they make us what we are today and they have good influences to each person being touch by their care and concern. Though, the focus for priority should be the family first before anything else.
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• Indonesia
26 Nov 09
I agree that the disadvantage spending to much time with our friends is we accidentally become far with our family... To avoid this, i usually make my friends close with my family so we can spend times together... I have 8 bestfriends...and they all close with my family..sometimes they come with me in my family gathering...
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi valentbaby, yup, being friends teach us the beauty of socialization and helps in building networking connection with friends and yet the negatives downside because of being busy some family aspects are forgotten which is not suppose to be but should always be remember...
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@lindiebiz (1014)
• Canada
26 Nov 09
You have said all the disadvantages of spending too much time with your friends. It is necessary to be able to create a balance in your life between your friends and family. Skiping occassion in your family for friends is not worth it because friends come and go but family is forever
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi lindiebiz, yup, family is irreplaceable even though friends is also important still family should be the first priority above all..including God..
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@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
26 Nov 09
When we do things that make us have fun we tend to forget about more boring but serious and important things. For example, if you hang out too much with friends you can start paying less attention to studies, work, or other kind of hobbies. Is important to know how to set priorities. Of course is important to have fun, but we don`t have to forget about other things that are as important as friends too ;)
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi madtea, yup, and being busy with friends is not good things to practice as it is one way that family being the foremost priority are forgotten. Though, it is important to keep in mind the family as being around for a long time compare to friends at anytime they would be out of sight and not all the time they are on one side..
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@olisaur (1932)
• United States
26 Nov 09
Having friends and being social is healthy for you, but too much of it-like too much of anything- can hurt the rest of your life. You could forget about important things for work and school, as well as things for family and other important people.
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• Philippines
28 Nov 09
hi olisaur, Yeah,friends are good as way to learn to socialize and be part of a group which shares the same ideas as not all the times like to shares some secrets with a family and most of the times a friends is the one whom a friend could rely on for better and good times. Thus, family and friends are both important as it is in balancing that everything would be put at rest with not much of a competition. thanks for your responses.
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@MrKennedy (1996)
25 Nov 09
Although friends are wonderful, and spending time with them is great, there are many disadvantages I can think of regarding spending an abundant amount of time within their company. The longer you spend with a person, the more chance you have of discovering what bad habits they may have, or find that their personality isn't exactly one that you are fond of. Spending too much time with friends can also result in these negative habits and characteristics rub off onto you, making you slightly more disliked by others. Certain people can be just too clingy, and this can give off vibes of creepiness. I always tend not to be that person who leeches onto his friends and cannot bear to be away from them, although I have unfortunately met many people who do, and let me tell you this, they have been some of the most unsociable, unengaging people I've encountered because, quite simply, they have had all individual personality sucked away from them. Despite this rant, I think that to have a strong set of mates is one of the best things possible, and sharing experiences with them is, for me, what life is all about.
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• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Yeah, that very true as one could discover superficial friends and genuine friends through longer spending time with company of friends. Some have adorable behavior and others is completely with unnerving attitudes which one need to isolate self before before being infected with their wrong upbringing being a bad role models. Some friends are fair weather friends when they only like you if you have something to boat of and could give any favor they like and when one is penniless the so -call friends are nowhere to be seen. Though, they are important factors who makes a person feel complete with the presence of friends and family one could not feel miserable as long as their is balance of work, play and fun.
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
25 Nov 09
I try and find a happy balance. Many of my friends have become as family to me. Some of them are closer to me than most family. But I don't forget often about family events. It is the thought that counts, not the amount of money that gets spent.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi ers, Yup, i agree with you it is the thoughts that counts especially if one is busy with works not all the time one could not a visit a family or be on time as restricted flexibility of the job...Though, it is just a phone call or email which could be enough to eases away the worries of failing to attend important events..
@soiree (36)
• India
25 Nov 09
FrIeNdS are absolutely gift from god. And, if they are good, then you are blessed! But as it is said too much of anything is fit for nothing, it applies to spending time with friends too. 1) You never think about whats next in your life coz life is what we think it to be! 2) Eventually, parents and relatives(in case of a joint family) tend to miss you after some point of time 3)You may get too much influenced by your friend
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi soiree, That right people are gift from God especially those generous one and the family too. They are very loving, understanding and affectionate too and in times of trials they are always around to make a sympathize..
• Bulgaria
25 Nov 09
If you spend a lot of time with friends you don't have enough time to study and sometimes if you have money and don't work you do nothing but going to parties and clubs. So you don't read books,watch TV or movies and that could make you very stupid because you do same things every day. If you have inteligent friends you can learn something from them and also to speak about many things.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi poster, Yup, that true and all things you mention are the after effects of spending too much time with friends have most downsides rather than benefits. One need to be smart enough to select good friends and not just accepting those who request friendship unless they have good attitudes.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 09
Dear neelianoscet, I personally think that we should put some priority in life. Our family and love ones should be at the top of the list. It is good that we can keep in touch with our friends. Talking about friends, we need to be selective, good friends are hard to find. We should appreciate our good friends too. Life and friendship should be balance. Time management is very important. Thanks and take care
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• Philippines
12 Dec 09
hi iriene, That is really in my mind most of the time now a days and i really realize the values of family camaraderie is way of better than having a wide circles of friends. I have friends both offline and online which are very sincere though I really appreciate their concern and I do the same things with them. They colors our life both family and friends alike, bringing joy and laughter. Have a nice day too..
@Fireheart (683)
• India
25 Nov 09
Having good friends are good but spending more of a time with them than yourself leads nowhere and on other hand as you said misguided friends can lead only to your doom,i say friendship has both advantages and disadvantages more to advantage to say, we cant live without friends too with their love and affection. only that there is a limit in everything like spending half of your time and then half on looking after your own life is pretty nice move that i do.really for me friendship is all about fun.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi fireheart, yup and all things need to be put in balance the same things with spending time with friends so that the other priorities are not neglected their is a need to keep in mind the other obligation which need to be fulfilled which friend have no capability to sustain on the long run.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
there are many disadvantages when spending too much time with friends.one is that you'll place on the wrong path.another is that when your friends are bad influence you'll be losing your future for heading the right track which is the right way.spending too much with friends will forget special occasion as what you said a birthday,anniversaries so on and so forth.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi amyson, yup that right and one need to identify first the kinds of friends to select which should be a good influences to keep away from bad influences and so that the family obligation is not neglected. Friends are good to keep as long as they never taught their friends to commit a lot of wrong doings and stay as a good role models then having a lot of friends would be a lot of fun rather than disruption...
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
Well, whenever there is conflict with my time between friends and family, i usually chose to be with my family. I only explain to my friends that i cannot be with them because i have to be with my family which is my priority and they always understand. They also have a family and they also do the same when they are in the same situation. I also have friends who spends like one day millionaire, but i don't let her influence me.I stick to my own way of spending because it is difficult to spend beyond your means. With regards bad companies, i always choose my friends. I have few friends only and i am already happy with them.
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• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi triplejazz, yup, family should always need to be the foremost priority and friends as the secondary priority. Though, their are times when we need friends as a companion to seek and learn new things as family is not all the time would be in a position to accompany one in travel and their also things which one are comfortable to confide with friends rather than with the beloved. Both family and friends bring a lot of happiness they makes one a complete person with ll their understanding, concern and affection.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
I think the disadvantage too much time to our friend is that we can forget something relevant work in our home or works or anything that is important thing to do...
• Philippines
11 Dec 09
hi aerous, yup, that right and in order not to neglect the other parties need to have a balance schedules or time management putting aside first the first and secondary priorities.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
Yes, I do agree with you...We need extra management to do more jobs...
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Yeah, and I think you are good on it,happy holiday, aerous..
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
25 Nov 09
For me really would be none as My freinds dont visit that often and I have several family members living with us. Only thing they arent the side of my family they are my SILs and I could do with out a couple of them!lololololol
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
hi lakota, Good for you as friends of you are lazy to hang on you or probably they are just busy with their family affairs as the same things with you. Well, having a lot of family members living with you could also be a source of fun as both of you could shares some ideas and be your companion enjoying different activities. thanks.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
26 Nov 09
lolololol oh I am glad you think so. This woman has never had an original thought of her own even repeats exactly what I say all the time drives me up the wall. and I have been on jobs with her too . Where I would get how do you get along with her? Just told them I really dont pay that much atention to her and after work she goes to a differnt house lolololol
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
yup, well, that is quite annoying imitating every words you say and that is quite better now as i feel you even enjoy without her company. have a great weekends.
• United Kingdom
25 Nov 09
If you spend too much time with friends I'm thinking that there is a possibility that other areas of life can be neglected like family and things like that. As regards forgetting about important events like family birthdays and things like that well I use a system which I really like and that is, I use the windows calenda that comes built in with windows vista and it reminds me constantly of upcoming events! I think that if you spend too much time with friends then there may be a time when you all need to give eachoether some space! It's nice to have a lot of friends though that keep you busy! Andrew
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Yup, friends are family are important they make up of you as a complete person. Their presence brings a lot of happiness as I know if one have no friends this world is a dull to live full of sadness and misery. I think I would be completely feel miserable without their presence and I am happy just knowing they are safe and in good hands with God' grace. Though, it is right it is just a matter of balance and everything would be alright. happy holiday, Andrew.
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Yup, friends are family are important they make up of you as a complete person. Their presence brings a lot of happiness as I know if one have no friends this world is a dull to live full of sadness and misery. I think I would be completely feel miserable without their presence and I am happy just knowing they are safe and in good hands with God' grace. Though, it is right it is just a matter of balance and everything would be alright. happy holiday, Andrew.
@enieweiz (98)
10 Jan 10
Well, when i spend too much time with my friends i tend to forget my responsibilities, in school and with my family. I have so much fun with my friends, whether they be good or bad friends. actually, i feel like my whole world stops when i am with them. True, that extravagant friends exhaust my wallet and sometimes i even have to ask money from my parents which i do not like doing. but i have keep up with my friends. i realized that i have to put things in moderation and just balance my time. my friends will understand if i spend less time with them. they know i have responsibilities and i have to attend to that.
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
hi eneweiz, Forgetting is very normal but in extreme cases it is no longer a good reasons unless one is too old like having a slow mind like a senile. And so far when it comes to having friends it is good unless one have a good influences one could get from having them it becomes bad when you associate yourself with bad friends that it gives you a bad reputation which is very bad and could cause a lot of conflicts with family and friends relationship. So as what you mention having a balance ids the key so the harmonious relationship never ends.