Are you confused with your feelings?

@becdmd (705)
Philippines
November 27, 2009 8:11am CST
Is there a time in your life that you thought you've found the One, Someone you want to spend the rest of lives with? Because you've been captivated by the way he/she treats you as if you're special, someone you've found as a great companion, someone who listens to you and have a lot of good advices in store for you, someone you thought will give you more his/her time, someone will not leave you when you need him/her, someone you deserve...but in an instant! all of a sudden after a couple of months, after all the speculations...it was a false alarm! you've realized you were just confused... you're not falling in love...but you've just realized it's just a mere friendship, friendship that has no guarantee if it will last or will end soon...ironic but true. Because that someone is already taken...(ouch!)
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15 responses
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
27 Nov 09
I think false alarms like the one you mentioned above come a few times in a lifetime. More often when you're a teenager and you live things differently, with more passion and less thought, just going with the flow. I believe that each time you get a false alarm like that you're one step closer to finding the real "One". Why? Because each time you find yourself being wrong about the one you are with you are more carefull with the next person and you have your eyes open wider. As for the right person for you being with someone else, it is no problem. If it really is your perfect match you'll be together no matter what. And if not, it just means you're wrong again. And that your senses were messed up by his/her charisma. Hope I sucsesfully answered your question, because the last two phrases were a bit ambigous!!
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
you have a good point there! If that someone really for meant for us...nothing can separate us from them and God will continue to bring us closer together.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
I'm sorry for the bad english..I'm kinda sleepy lolz! i mean nothing can separate to people if they were really meant for each other and if the two were separated that means it's not the perfect time to meet the right person.
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
27 Nov 09
Exactly! You must always think about what will come ahead, enjoy ehat you have and be gratefull for what you had. Even if it's a bad experience, try to make the most of it. Learn from it, use it to build your character and get stronger. When it comes to relationships, there is no recipe. You must adapt as you go, take your own decisions and not let yourself be influenced by others, because you live your life, not the others. That doesn't meant you mustn't listen to advice. Hear them out, the people that give you advice, and try process the information they give you with your own mind. Since we think different and wish for different things, the results will be different. I really wish you goodluck with that person and I hope things work out for the two of you. And if they don't , look foreward to the next event in your life. My favorite quote is one from the spanish writter, Garcia Marquez. He sais : "Don\t vry because it's over, smile because it happened!"
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
I think this happens to almost everyone. Well, yes it happened to me too. The relationship was almost to be called perfect. It even affects my post graduate studies then because I think I was so in love with the guy. Unluckily, it was not. Sometimes, we tend to be impulsive even towards our feelings and get confused because of the care we get from that person. Only to find out in the end that it is not worth it to last and move forward with the relationship. I have learned though. That is life.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
We really should guard our heart when we have into this kind of situation...thanks for the response!
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I agree with that it's part of life, but sometimes it's the part of life i wish i wouldn't experience again since it was very painfully for to experienced but since after that i became stronger and a bit guard when it comes to people around me, i don't fall with women who i get to hang out with
• India
28 Nov 09
Nope........... i am not confused with my feelings.............. However i have a female friend of mine who is confused............. She is one of my best buddies but she is confused......... i can clearly see in her eyes that she has very strong feelings for me ....... but she is confused that whether she can come out of our very good friendship and can start a serious relationship
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
then tell her what you feel for her so that she won't be confused...tell her directly that you like her as bestfriend. I think us girls are most likely to become confused because some guys don't talk a lot. lol!
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
hello becd, it's part of taking risk, you never see the future or predict the out come if we don't take the risk. there are many scenarios where you end up right or wrong. first and foremost when your interest are completely different most specially about things that you two are interested at. and lastly, if the feelings aren't that compatible to each other or simply it changed from time to time. that's already normal, and it's part of life, i myself got hit by that experienced that i end up being wrong with my emotions.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Yup I just learned a lesson and it really gave me a lot of realization thanks for d response
@Norah0804 (165)
• China
28 Nov 09
I quite understand the way you feel, because i have the same experience like you before. In that time, you have the feeling that he is your great support, no matter you met who and what, you would like to speak to him and share with him. Actually it is not a kind of love, but a sense of interdependence. He is just your supporment, not your lover.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
you're right! I am ok now, we are still friends and he's the same.
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
28 Nov 09
Although my actual relationship is pretty good, it has happened to me in the past. At 1st we're in a happiness bubble because of receiving too many good things at once, but then the bubble becomes more and more transparent, until it pops up and you see reality. It would be great if reality was as nice as inside the bubble.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
nice description out there huh I already picture us in that bubble...and it pops already lol!
@Jensie (120)
• China
28 Nov 09
Once I did have this kind of feeling. I met someone and all that he did for me made me feel like that he was the one, the one who could take me away from all those suck. But inside, I knew exactly it was a form of escapism. We could only be friend. I was just confused.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
The lesson is: "just don't assume" and be careful of our feelings
• India
28 Nov 09
Every one does it.It is human psychology.when we find some one in helpful to us in all the way in some part of our life our mind tend to get attracted by them and create an emotional feeling for them. well this is a normal human activity nothing to be feared or hated. At the time when we find the truth suddenly our mind jumps to another form of thinking to forget the past..
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
I agree with you...the moment I write this post..I am already starting to realize everything that it's normal...and I the next day I already moved forwadr because i know where I stand.
• Canada
27 Nov 09
That has happened to me but not in that exact way. The person was not already taken, but had feelings for another person already, and I was just a friend to them. It's sort of a slap in the face. But I think we need to look at the positive side of the situation. You now have a very good friend! The friendship should be appreciated, even if it wasn't exactly what you had wanted in the first place.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
yup and I already accepted the reality..i moved on already for about 1 day after all the realizations haha it's not that painful and I'm happy for my friend.
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
There are instances wherein you can not predict if that special someone is really the man in your dreams. Me myself experienced how sudden an emotion change specially when the emotion's involved is concern. A friendship that developed into something more. But suddenly can not push through it for the sake of the friendship that it might lead to nowhere. It really confused me a lot thinking how to respond in this kind of situation.
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
so confusing eh?!
• India
27 Nov 09
the dangerous aparatus in our body is our brain and heart, sometimes it plays with us and our emotions. its obvious that we expect more in starting with them and we get disappointed when they are not upto our expectations. in early stage they too want to be like gems even if they are not.. as time passes they start fading out and we see the true colour of them in later stage by which time we would have tied them to our heart.. this is the time where we will be able to feel the pain.. i have experienced that and now corrected myself..
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
Thank you for the great response! yes our brain and heart is really fragile...good thing we learned how to fix it and learned something from the experience.
5 Jul 10
You cannot be confuse with someone you really love specially when lovers spend real moment with each other help them to get focused on each other,allowing each other's heart to connect and letting the feelings to flow freely. confused feeling is no room or it doesn't matter what you do when your together.Instead its how you pay attention to each other during those moments together.
@shuila (15)
• China
28 Nov 09
We should believe that their feelings like that is like it,do not like do not like it,should not be left face to judge,thank you for proposing,let me awake
@Aingealicia (1906)
• United States
27 Nov 09
Nope. I don't have a soul mate or a mate. I have known this all my life so there is no confusion there. Ainge
@checkmail (2042)
• India
27 Nov 09
Hello becdmd this is checkmail and me too often gets confused about mine feeling when someone from mine past pops up in front of me, especially mine best friends and relatives.Normally am straight forward and firm in mine feeling abotu the ohter persons in front of me, even express it to them very frankly.Yeah msot of hte time am very attracted to the girls but just the friendship tag do hold mine feeling within its border.Else am easily confused when am out of mine cash.Well its really serious but funny pro.