husband smokes too much!!

India
November 28, 2009 6:25am CST
I am a married woman, as other i also love my husband too much, but some time i hate him ! you know why? cause he smoke too much, i don't know why can't he leave this dangerous thing as he him self well know that thing that smoking is so dangerous for his health, i try too much to make him to leave this bad habit but he don't listen, what should i do know? if there is any way to leave his bad habit do share with me.
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8 responses
@free_man (7339)
• United States
28 Nov 09
Hello Sweet and welcome to my lot. I am a smoker and believe me if I could quit I would put those nasty things down today. But once you start to smoke it isn't a habit that you can drop at will. Pray and ask God to take them away from him. I have tried the gum the patch but nothing worked for me. It is a nasty habit but no one can make anyone give up smoking. God is your only real choice as far as I know.
@free_man (7339)
• United States
28 Nov 09
Hello Oreo I tried for over a year but I was under a lot of stress when I tried. I was in the hospital for over a month and it was as if I had never been without a smoke. I know how addicting it is and have tried many things. I did want to quit and still want to quit but I have always had a lot of stress that keeps me from stopping. I lite up one to keep from being a real mean person. When I want a smoke it is just plain hard for me to quit. One of these days maybe!
@madteaparty (2765)
• Japan
28 Nov 09
I have the same problem, but my boyfriend would never stop smoking. At least, he's a very caring person, so he would never smoke near me because he knows I hate tabaco's smell. Unfortunately the only person who can make a smoker to stop is the smoker itself. They will never listen to others as what they have is a very strong addiction.
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
That is right. Only a person can change himself. Nobody can change another person. We are only to advise and let him understand the effects of smoking. I hope the time comes when the husband realizes how bad it can do to him and maybe, she can slowly advise him to seek medical help to be able to quit. The wife should support her husband in this thing.
@bettydeng5 (1696)
• China
28 Nov 09
Hello, sweetmaxy, it's actually a bad habit to smoke, you can give some suggestions to your husband,you can find some tips how to stop the habit of smoking from internet, and you tell him the bad after smoking. Again, you can prepare some chewing gum for him, when he wants to smoke, just chew these chewing gum to avoid to smoke. Smoking is a habit, it's not easy to stop, it needs time to stop the bad habit, so you need spent time to let your husband accept your advices then to stop the smoking.Don't worry. Good luck.
• India
28 Nov 09
thanks !! i will do follow your suggestion !! but its not so easy as it look
@BART78 (2933)
• Canada
29 Nov 09
here's my story, when i meet my girlfriend, now my wife, i used to smoke 2 packs a day, before my girlfriend accepts my proposal we made agreement to quit my smoking habit, so i quit, if she's not around, i was her birthday when she caught me poping smoke, she get mad at me and almost ended our relation that night, the following morning she gave me a only one tiny chance, i love her and i really battled my habit of smoking, she always bought me mint gum until i finally quit smoking...i think if she didn't gave a chance that night i probably still smoking today, i love her so much so i'm willing to gave up my habit..
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
My late husband didn't smoke and no one smokes from our household. Nobody smokes in the office, too. I hate smoke and I usually refrain from people who smoke. We can only advise them about the adverse effects of smoking. It is really up to them if they stop smoking or not. Let your husband understand how much you really care for him and that you want yourselves to be together for a long time. Let him understand, too, that smoking does not only bring damage to himself but also to the passive smokers, including his children and yourself. Pray that he stops smoking... he alone can make the change.
@ram_cv (16517)
• India
29 Nov 09
I think your concern is good and valid. I think for starters you can have a tete a tete with him. Then you can try and understand why he is unable to give it up. The problem for most smokers is that when they try to give up, the addiction to nicotine keeps dragging them back and if they get back then they will get back to the habit with vigor. During that period you need to take special care of him and ensure that his craving for nicotine does not arise. All the best in your endeavor. Cheers! Ram
@flower21 (768)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
that is outrageous behavior i do smokes lightly and not occasionally as i know the danger of smoking. it makes anyone look old, gives bad breath, yellow teeth and it retards the mind. i think try to chew anti-nicotine chewing gum or tablet that his desire for smoking would be lost over time.
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
29 Nov 09
We have the same problem here. My husband can not stop smoking. Sometimes, I think that he is smoking too much. But I know that I can not push him to stop smoking. I know my husband that it will not work if I push him to stop smoking. It should come from him self. Maybe others can share something for us here to make our husband stop smoking.