Between Age difference, Culture difference, Marriage and the Gossips..

To hell for those who are still practicing discrimination in whatever form. Regardless of ones race,color, belief,religion,status and others we do not have the right to judge because we know nothing or little abut them.

Well... first of all, ignore all that. If you are in love with each other and love each other, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. What other people gossip and say - nope. Why do they matter, why do their opinions matter? They don't. If it is negative, throw it out, ignore it, let it go, pretend those people don't even exist. That's what I do if I ever run into issues from people who basically mean nothing to me. Don't let it disturb or get to you. It's obvious to me that people who make comments like that may be jealous of your relationship. They may be petty shallow people who just can't stand to see someone else happy or for someone else to get something good. I do have an age difference gap between me and my husband, and I also moved away from the rest of my extended family. I don't consider either of those a make or break thing, and of course I would never take it seriously if any person tried to influence me or get in my way. I believe too many people allow others to influence them and make them feel bad or guilty or change what they want to do in some way. Don't let this happen! Your life is YOUR LIFE, never forget that. Whatever YOU want to do, the only approval and blessing you need is that of yourself - and your life partner. Whatever anybody else has to say really doesn't matter in the long run. It's very easy to cope with it - shut everybody else out if they are not going to be decent and accepting. Some people will actually be mature and they will support you once you show them you will not be bullied. Other people will be very IMMATURE and have a fit, but those people can just be shut out of your life until they choose to be respectful and decent again. I wish you good luck....

Hi Sachii! If you feel comfortable in your relationship with your fiance and would be husband, there is no need to bother about others. If you are happy with him and can get along well, let others say what they want to. It is the tendency of people to find faults with others and they cannot see a couple happy. If you feel that your would be hubby has all the qualities/traits you are looking for and vice versa, it would be a healthy relationship between two of you. My best wishes to you.

It is fine that you are a 23 year old Japanese-Filipino and your fiance is a 40 year old Korean. Age does not really matter in a relationship. I think that it is best for you to ignore all the gossips. Saying that Korean men are desperate and can't get a Korean wife is terrible. Of course it is common for one nationality to marry a different nationality. I am British and I married an Australian. Now I am divorced. There is no such thing as a ticket to a better life. I can imagine life in the sunny Philippines with all those tropical beaches. I can think of the gray skies in Korea. It can be challenging to adjust to cultural differences. I wish you lots of luck and hope that you will have a lovely wedding. Best wishes.

im sorry, but i had none of these experiences, but since i went thorugh the discussion you posted, i felt like responding to it. my suggestion would be not to go with the mysth around the world. u shd just be happy if you love ur hubby and forget all saying. best of luck!

hi sachii315, Your present relationship is very challenging and i believe that it crossed many bridges for both of you to meet and share the same direction. Having different cultures or traditions is very conflicting but as long you have one goal in life and to settle things up? then there is no worry at all. Do not mind those people around you who tend to just disgust you or even try to ruin your relationship together, besides, they have nothing to do with you but just comment except if you believe that their comments will bring you good points in life.. Love really do not choose..Being stable with the man you love and secure for lifetime is the only assurance you got to live a better life. so do not be affected much which all the criticisms. nobody is perfect nor nobody had a perfect relationship.. All people work out for a better relationship. As long both of you know what is best and would make your life happy? then do all the things possible in no limitations. They say, good opportunities in love and career knocks only once. so, be the the best you can be, have an open communication with him. all your fears and happiness..put trust as your center foundation. that matters for all. I wish you good luck too..

hi sachii, All the gossips and intrigues surrounding your relationship is not important. As long as you love him and he loves you, none of it matters. Even couples sharing the same culture and beliefs gone to this type of obstacle in their relationship, sometimes some people just say what they want to say even it's not true, some just want to ruin your relationship while others are somewhat born to create some gossip and weird stuff just to make themselves bigger and pull you down. But the question is, are you going to let them destroy your relationship with him? As long as you are true to him and your love for him is strong all other things are irrelevant. For me, you should take all those criticism as a challenge to prove your love for him. Happy Lotting!

I have not come across these incidents but I can definitely tell you about myself. I am in a Hindu and my fiance is a Muslim. We both of us studied together in the same computer institute and we love each other a lot. People also tell me that it will create a lot of problems as there will be caste differences but I dont care about what people say. Thet is the best way. We should take it as a challenge and prove to the world that we are the best couples.