Should you be friends with your Ex?
By mawong79
@mawong79 (215)
Malaysia
9 responses
@aguas_aj (498)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
It's possible. there are people who can handle it but for me. it would be hipocracy and total pain. especially if the choice to break up is his. For me, i'd rather have no communication from him atleast until i'm healed and moved on. hipocracy because if you think you can deal with him or her, why break up. Staying in love is a choice
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
9 Dec 09
hipocracy because if you think you can deal with him or her, why break up. Staying in love is a choice
Why break up? Maybe things on an intimate level just werent meant to be but that doesnt mean that on a friendshp level things can't or wont work out...And as far as being/staying in love, thats not a choice..Love and being in love are natural you can't choose to be in love or not be in love with someone IMO
@aguas_aj (498)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
I say hypocracy to be friend with your ex. Now for what you are saying that, It's something naturally felt. Yeah, it's true, when you start to fall in love, that's natural.That's why the people we love is not the people we choose to be in-love, but after having commitment and relationship with faithfulness to that person, It becomes a choice. People tends to get cold after a long relationship with their partner and only commitment and constant work-out will only continually blossom what you have felt before. It's a choice to keep it working and feeling the same love you felt. It doesnt stay as people believe it. Love will fade if not nourish. and isn't that when you nourish a relationship or a love it becomes a choice? Because if not, You wouldn't care for that person or for that commitment. Now, to whatever is your belief, I don't stand against it nor will try to convince you. Coz in my belief, To stay in-love for a long period with the same person is a CHOICE.No matter if it's for friendship or love, it's a choice. And I guess, It's hypocracy to be-friend with the person who hurted you deeply.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
10 Dec 09
Hi, there.
I guess it depends on how both couple end up. If both party agree about the break ups and accepted it and had a good foundation of friendship i guess it's possible.In my previous relationships I prefer not to be their friends because they are all "Ahole".[Though i was the one initiated the break ups but still wishsing i never had relationships with them.
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
9 Dec 09
It is in my case, we had children together, and it would have been tragic to not stay in contact with my kids and my ex for their sake! I stay in contact with them, and I have even become friends with her present husband!
I guess we'll always remain friends because, we were, before we were lovers! Things change and that's the way it goes!
@slaveofsensation (348)
• United States
9 Dec 09
It depends on the situation,I am friends with lots of people I have slept with before but I am not friends with that many of my Ex-Boyfriends usually when you are in an actual commited relationship and you break up because of a great betrayal then you should forget about them and never spaek their name again but if the relationship ended amicably then why not stay friends?
@smart44 (510)
• Philippines
10 Dec 09
it depends on the person,but for me its possible to be friend since there is no wrong to be friends with ex. specially if you part away with common decisions and no hard feelings to each other.
@mariashieryl (61)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
It actually depends on the situation. If your already committed to another person and having friends with your ex doesn't bother him at all then I guess its okay to befriends with him. Feelings, affection pass attraction will not go away I think but it can be avoided if you can control yourself and if the feeling is gone.
If your sure about yourself and what you want then go ahead and be friends with him. After all, you wont feel good if he gives you that friendly smile and you just ignore it and feel bitter. Try to smile back it wont hurt at all anyway.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
9 Dec 09
Is it possible? yea its more than possible..and other than 2 of my ex's I remained friends with all the others...I see no reason not to. After all we were friends to begin with and if the break of is a smooth one why shouldnt or couldnt we be friends after the fact ya know..
@cecelgay (563)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Some they say it is possible but actually i don't really believe on it, bacause how could you be friends to someone whom love before, or how could you befriend someone who hurt you or someone you hurt before, I mean what's the point? it is because you already move on? I dunno but for me things may get complicated especially when either of you have another relationship, the possibility to get hurt again is there. You may compare how he or she show love to that person and what are the things that he give to you, I mean for me there's no way, and how could you move on totally if she/he's still at your side, you still see her/him you still communicate i mean the only difference in there is you dont have any attachment.
Some take that offer because he/she still dont want to move on or she/he's still holding on.
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Yes its possible for us to be friends after break-up because we really know each other well so we can just be friends. Its only up to us how to control our self so that their will be no friction between us time heals but its not impossible for us to be friends.
