how to make your husband sweet to you??

Philippines
December 12, 2009 12:45pm CST
Im naturally sweet to my husband but my husband is opposite to me. He does not like hugging too much and public display of affection. How do others get to make their husband so romantically affectionate to their wife? Hope anyone can give me advice. Thanks.
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@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
12 Dec 09
The situation of being romantically affectionate to your partner depends on the characteristics your partner has. That is the first thing to be considered and be given solution.. If you see your husband only do not want public display of affection but he is romantically inclined when at home, I see there is no problem. But, if in both thing he is not romantic to you, then there is the big problem. The first thing you must do is to ask him directly what is the problem, his wants so that you can meet half ways in fixing the matter..have an honest conversation with him, there is nothing wrong when you want to make things alright for both of you. Second, find his interest and reveal his inner senses..some uses good props to catch the attention in their partner like some uses aroma candles, changes their outfit styles, or even have a travel to change the mood of the partner. Some people are worry type of person who tends to bring them any where and cannot separate if that totally can affect their lives without their knowledge either directly or indirectly. Third, Be observant in his doings and stuffs that contribute to his being cold to you and have an instant plan ahead for solution Lastly, Better communication and understanding is the most important factor to solve the problem. this will clear out any misunderstandings and will give both of you inner peace of mind and contentment.
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
12 Dec 09
wow... he sounds like very hard to deal with huh? if I sweet to my husband then he just react to me right back. sometimes, he kisses me in public or hug me... well, sometimes he can't hold my hands cuz he is busy pushing the baby cart. you should still be sweet to him and ask him to do the same thing back to you in order to keep relationship work very well. see how he say about it
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
13 Dec 09
You can't change your husband so stop trying. It's a waste of time and could cause problems in your marriage. Some people are naturally more affectionate while others are more reserved, but that doesn't mean that your husband doesn't care about you. Accept him, warts and all as they say. Continue to be your normal sweet self but, if your husband is uncomfortable with public displays of affection, respect his feelings. He will appreciate you even more for that.
@allknowing (130077)
• India
13 Dec 09
Love demonstration - I would rather have a serious man than this one who is pretending!!
Dont even try it. One cannot change another's personality. Husbands are shy creatures very few of them are demonstrative in public. But this lack of demonstration is no indication that your husband does not love you. Look for other signs. All of us who have read Bills and Boons are victims of this trait. Red roses, kisses, kisses and more kisses in public,gifts in the morning, gifts in the evening, gifts at supper time! Most of these gestures have no substance!
• United States
13 Dec 09
Maybe he needs some space! People are different like this. Ask him and talk to him. Maybe you can have a romantic relationship otherwise, instead!
@bhav27 (442)
• India
15 Dec 09
oh i am so sorry for you , he is hard to deal then but i think that your love can change him , try to pretend that you are completely dependable on him and you can't do anything with him , my father is same like your husband and i learnt these kind of tricks from my mom , my mom made herself to be dependable upon him even she is not in need of him at some work , by doing this your husband will think that you need him a lot and he will starting pay attention to you with hugs. I hope this will work. all the best.
@AnnaB7 (756)
• United States
12 Dec 09
My husband likes to be too kissy in public or affectionate, but does not in private, and to me that is a bigger problem. If your husband is affectionate in private then I would not worry so much. If he isn't then I would be concerned, my husband does not even seem to want us to be together anymore in private as he stays up all night, and when he comes to bed he is tired. But in public he wants to be affectionate, and I don't like things that way at all. Sorry I don't have any advice. Maybe someone else will.
@fsll518 (304)
• China
12 Dec 09
I think that's something from people's nature or characteristic. Some people are just shy, and not likely to display affection in public place. If you want him to change, then you can try to point out this gradually, and make some mutual understanding about showing intimacy publicly: it is not a show-off, just some natural behavior :)