Take pride in your Momness!
By EmtMom
@EmtMom (27)
United States
December 13, 2009 6:23pm CST
What makes you the best mom? In your eyes what is the singular thing that you do for your children that makes you stand out from the rest? My husband and I try to incorporate traditional values, such as honesty; responsibility; and basic compassion for fellow people into our daily life. We may let a few small things slide. Such as, making a huge mess of your room, as long as you will take the responsibility to clean it up later. Or taking a punishment for something you've done. We also listen to each of the twins before we jump to a punishment. More often than not, most kids have a reason for doing something, even the little ones, and even if it doesn't make sense to you. What is it about you that makes you the Mom you are? Or Team you are in our case.
6 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
14 Dec 09
The thing about me as a mother that I think stands out above most of the other mothers that I know is that I like to be a friend to my children just as much as I am a disciplinarian and guide to them. This way I know that they can come to me in confidence and I hope that there is nothing that they don't feel comfortable about discussing with me. Right now both of my children are still smaller, but I think that by instilling this in them at a young age, it is ultimately going to make a difference in the relationship that we have with one another when the kids are a bit older.
@EmtMom (27)
• United States
14 Dec 09
Take it from me, this does make a big difference. Even though our kids are just 8, they know it's important to talk to us about things that go wrong. Even if it means they would be in trouble. They know it's wrong to lie to us and they get in less trouble when they tell us the truth. I am hoping this will continue into their older years. That way if they have a major life changing decision to make, they can come to us and know we will have an open mind about it before we go crazy and punish them before we know everything. Kids see everything in their lives a lot different than adults do. Sometimes you have to think about it from their perspective. It might make more sense if you have them explain it to you themselves also. Being their best friend may give them the wrong impression but, being an open mind and a ready ear for them to vent at is worth it IMHO.
@Enigma010 (27)
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14 Dec 09
Hey,
i like that you listen to your kids when they've done something wrong rather than just fly off the handle like alot of mums i know do.
i wouldn't say i stand out from the rest and wouldn't claim to be the best mum, but i think one of the best things i've done for my son, who is 11 months, is just be there for him. he wasn't planned so me and his dad split up when i decided to keep him and then he was born extremely premature, he spent 5 months in hospital and i visited him every single day, whereas his dad visited him maybe 5 times despite all the times when he was close to dying. ive just turned 22 and it was by far the hardest thing ive ever had to go through, and at one point i actually wished i could just turn off my feelings and not go back to the hospital because i felt the pain of losing him would have been too much as i loved him more and more each day, but i scraped together some strength every day to keep going back.
i think it can be hard to instill certain values, alot of parenting is hard, especially for younger mums/couples but i believe just being there and loving them no matter what is the best thing that can be done.
@EmtMom (27)
• United States
14 Dec 09
I had my son at 21, his dad wasn't around either. When he was 2 I met my husband now and our kids are both 8 years old. My son is the most influential thing in my life. I am sure if you stick in there everything will come out great. Just believe in yourself and be sure you know anything is possible if you work hard for it!
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
14 Dec 09
I am no where near what you call "best" mom. I am teaching my kids the basic golden rules of life: Show respect to others, have manners, think before you act, be honest, do unto others as you would have them do unto you..
I know very few kids being raised like this anymore. Seems to me that most moms these days are too busy trying to be seen as the "cool" parent.
@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
14 Dec 09
i also have the same opinion like yours but i'm afraid we may lose the temper to the children still if they really did something to angry us. but i can think that back and realized the weakness of doing so after the case.anyway the children did that by just they think that's funny or that's just rihgt.we should be more patience with them.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
14 Dec 09
Hi
I have two kids aged three and one.One thing I think I am doing good is that I am their best friend and I want it that ways always till they grow up and I grow old.Although,they are small I involve them in every littel chore and also discuss a lot of things with them.Although my 3 year old understands everything and it is really funny to see how my one year old communicates with her.
I think I am doing my mother's role incredibly well
