What do you think?

@cher8558 (425)
Canada
December 13, 2009 7:58pm CST
Hi friends, My family celebrated our Christmas last night at my nieces. It was a great night with great food. We were opening the presents and my great nephew came up to me and said "this really isn't my style and I really won't wear it". My husband and kids were appalled. I don't know what to think. On one hand I think it is good to be upfront and not waste the gift (I sold it to my niece for her son) she loved it. So that all worked out. But what do you think. Do you think? At least it didn't get thrown in his closet never to be worn. Rude or up front? Oh and I gave him 20 bucks instead. Cheryl
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@adamc151 (479)
14 Dec 09
I think that is rude. as the saying goes 'its the thought that counts' for someone who would say that, obviously can't put himself in your position or sympathize or have any ideas how his actions affect others. pretty selfish i'd say. But then again, i don't know him and wouldn't think to judge him on that one action. He might be a nice person and felt it was the right thing to do instead of pretend to like it.
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
well i would be embarrased if i was his parents. but if it was me i would say that this kid has a lot of nerve. you should always say thank you even if you dont like it and get rid of it later. i dont think i would have given him anything.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
14 Dec 09
Hi, cher8558. I am very sorry about your nephew's rude behavior. He should have been more considerate towards you when it came to you giving him a gift. It is very sad that he embarrassed you by saying such a cruel remark. He should have at least accepted the gift and kept his comments to himself. Next year, just remove him from your Christmas list. Don't bother giving him a gift if he can't bother being grateful. It is the thought that counts. And obviously your thought did not count in this circumstance. Shame on your nephew for not appreciating the gift that you gave to him.
@Downwindz (2231)
• Netherlands
14 Dec 09
This is exactly the reason i never wish for clothings for Christmas, because i have a very specific style, and i can go shopping on purpose to find a pair of trousers but not come home with a pair because i dislike one minor thing about them. I certainly think it is fair enough to be honest about the present, and alternatively it could be traded in at the shop for another shirt instead he could choose by himself? That is a good alternative when your buying clothings for individuals who have reached the stage of awareness about thier own style... Ofcause you should say it in a nicely manner that the specific item is not exactly what you expected, so you try to avoid hurting the feelings of the present giver.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 09
I live in Indonesia, and in my country, nobody would dare to say anything like that. I too had some gifts that I didn't like, but i would keep it for awhile, and the minute I see a friend who would like it, I'd give it to that person instantly. Personally, I think your great nephew could have chosen better words, after all, its the thought that counts, not the "thing".
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
He is just trying to be open & flat than keeping the present without any use.
@nemrac12 (388)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
if i were you, i would feel hurt for what he told you about the gift. It is not a good attitude toward us elders.. and parents should teach the boy good manners. On the other hand, kids now are very different.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
14 Dec 09
Well I know I couldn't do that but if he said it like this, "I'm sorry but I would hate for this to go to waste because its just not something I would wear" then that isn't so bad. If he said it like you wrote it above then that is a bit more rude. Also it depends on his age. If he is very young maybe his parents need to show him some manners. If he is old enough to know better then I would be appalled too. I'm glad though that it all worked out for you in the long run.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
14 Dec 09
It does seem rude to a certain degree that he would come up to you and say something like that. I too would have been appalled. I've received my fair share of gifts in my life that weren't my style or that I just plain didn't like. Did I ever go up to that person and tell them that I hated the gift? No, I would never do that, my parents taught me better manners than that. What I would do is try to figure out where the gift that I didn't like came from and when the opportunity came about, I would return the item to the store that it came from for either cash or something else from that store. At the time that I received the gift, I would thank the person that gave the gift to me just as I would if it was something that I loved. I guess I'm just not that bold.