Do you mean what you say?

@allknowing (58072)
India
December 19, 2009 8:39pm CST
I dont think there is anyone here who has not said 'I dont care'. Do you mean it when you say it? I just said it a couple of minutes ago, after waiting for a call from someone close to me. But I actually care and in fact I care too much When was the last time you said 'I dont care' but you actually did care?
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15 responses
@kevinll (967)
• China
20 Dec 09
It is just a kindly sence. Sometimes we can not do what we say. Are you really never mind? Acturally you care about it. It make you feel better. Otherwise we can feel sad. We should try to adjust our emotion. So it is naturally when we say i don't care. It is not related with the meaning.
• Mexico
20 Dec 09
Hi kevinll: I would else add that we use these words for our self defense. I mean, we try to make a thing that affects us emotionally looks less important that it really are, specially when our expectations were high and we have a bad result. Thanks for your answer, Have a nice day. -Alvaro.
• Colombia
21 Dec 09
well thats sort of a complicated question to answer, if Im talking to my friends than no but when I talk to my family yes. :D
• Australia
20 Dec 09
hey allknowing! There are times when i have meant what i said but there are also times which i haven't. I think sometimes people say stuff that don't mean such as 'i don't care' is because during that moment, they can't admit to themselves they're true feelings and therefore, are unable to convey what they really mean to those close around them. I suppose this just shows how complex the human nature is!
• United States
20 Dec 09
I know someone who says what they don't mean. With me I say what I mean unless I am joking or retract my statement. It all depends but I think it is better to say what you mean then to use sacrasm all the time.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
20 Dec 09
It depends on the Situation really in what sense I say it but yes most the time I actually do care I think a lot of People say it to try and convince themselves that they do not care when really they do
@nautilus33 (1831)
20 Dec 09
Yes, I do! I always mean that what I say, even when I'm angry! I also say what I think without lie when I'm angry!
• Mexico
20 Dec 09
Hi allknowing: I know what you mean but i actually can not remember of a situation at the moment but what i can say is that we say "I don't care" just to feel more confident with ourselves or to minimize a problem. In some cases what we really think it's I will let it go, i can't do anything else instead of I don't care. Thanks for starting this discussion. Have a nice day. -Alvaro.
@bhawanee (174)
• India
20 Dec 09
Just now i told my wife for one minor incident but i love her very much.
@xJaiiDK (164)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
It depends on what my mood is. Sometimes anger just boosts up the fire in my head that my head just blows and i say everything bad. but after sometime, i felt bad. i feel sorry. i do regret saying those things. For me, Most of the things(bad things) i say to a person is just caused by anger. and i do not mean it at all.
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
20 Dec 09
My aunt always used to scold her children as alpayushu means less life span. Does she really mean that her children should die soon? Never. Just at that particular moment, for scolding them, she used that word. In the same way, when we are fed up with something, we say I do not care. If we did not care, then why should we go to that matter, whatever it is whether waiting or for someone's words, and then say I do'nt care? Since we are fed up for any thing or are hurt by others' words, that we use thoe words.
@Genericbe (1379)
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
I have some words that I mean when say and some not at all. Saying is a form relating your thoughts and feelings. it is something you want others to know by informing them.. and sometimes what we say, are true, half-meant jokes or just any we wanted to say. It happened to me when there are some argues in the family. I say I do not care because of my sting emotions but the truth is I really do care and no matter how I was being hurt by any situation. I still continue to do things pleasing for them to avoid any argues. I will adjust my self to patience and understanding because they are my family and I do love them.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
20 Dec 09
Hi allknowing, I usually mean what I say. But yes, there has been times when I have said things I have not meant and it often hurts to say such things. It is not always 'I don't care' but I have said other things like 'I hate you' or 'Don't talk to me' or 'I am angry'. They were just expressions and outbursts but really did not mean what I said.
• United States
20 Dec 09
I think for myself, whenever I do say 'I don't care' (or at least most of the times), I don't honestly mean it. I mean, it's not like I completely don't care for whatever it is, but it's more like, I just don't really care right now, kind of like, 'tell me later when I don't mind'. I know that I say things I don't really mean a lot. It's usually because I don't think before I say in those moments. Everything just flies out and I don't think about the repercussions. I'm usually angry or stressed or I just have a lot of things on my mind when I say things I don't mean. I think the last time that I said 'I don't care' was probably to my brother because I say that a lot to him. I usually end up regretting it afterwards because I realize that all these little 'I don't care's' can really add up in the future and it might affect the way he thinks of me as an older sister. But the thing is, even though I do realize this, I don't always try my hardest to stop myself from saying it. Of course I care about whatever he wants to tell me. I'm his older sister. But I don't always show it. But after typing up this response to your discussion, I've definitely made a choice to try harder to think before I say, especially to my little brother, so I want to thank you for bringing up this topic. It's an extremely good point =D
@Hatley (163856)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Dec 09
hi allknowing When was the last time I said " I dont care" when I really did care was in the activity room yesterday as I had just got comfortable in a chair that was not so low to sit in that you felt like you were sitting on the floor.for an elderly person to get up out of one of those chairs is like to being almost impossible.so this woman comes in and asks me if I minded moving over to another chair so she could sit next to her friend. oh I said, sure I dont care. but yes I did as the chair I had to sit in was almost impossible to get up out of, and the two of them had the whole room full of empty chairs if they wished to sit together, why bother me? they were both much younger and better off physically than I was.I should have said sorry but I do mind as I cannot get up easily out of those low chairs thats why I am sitting here.
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
Most of the time it depends on the situation, people often say not-so-pleasant things at the heat of the moment and that's when conflict starts -- when we say regretful words which we we don't meant. I for one say things which I regret weeks, days or even minutes later.