would you ever go out with a friends ex or someone they like?

United States
December 22, 2009 3:13am CST
i would go out with nether to me its kind of wired going out with your firends ex to me its like kissing them and i'm like no. and its BIG time not right to go out with a firends crush that is realy hurtful. the only time i would say if you can do any of them is if you guy or gals are not friends no more.
6 responses
• United States
22 Dec 09
I would definitely not go out with some they like. Maybe both of you can talk about it. But in the end, its who the other person likes back in return. Of course its up to you because your friendship is on the line, but honestly, if they are your real friend they will understand. Its funny when the media makes it a joke and makes it all interesting when two girls cat fight over one guy. But to see it in real life is kinda pathetic. It doesnt show class and just show immaturity. If they are you true friend they will understand,BUT communication is key.Talk to them about it. As for dating your friends EX. Of course like I said above, if they are your true friend they will understand. It is recommended NOT to date them right after they broke up but it is ok after a long while because therefore it gives your friend some time. But it should be oK to date their EX after that. I DISAGREE that you can only date their EX if you werent friends with them anymore. Why? Why so much drama? That shows immaturity and the inability to let go of things. Sure it might hurt that they are you EXs. But you broke up with them in the first place for a reason. You need to let it go. If the reason you wont let your friend date the EX is because you still have feelings, then, again, COMMUNICATION is key. Talk to them about it. Everything will fall into place. =] Hope this helped!
• United States
22 Dec 09
o this is not happending to me its just a disscustion that i wanted to see every ones in put on.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
To avoid arguments and the like, I would choose not to. I mean, I would rather value more of the friendship we have with that of my friend other than enjoying a person's company which I think can much possibly cause issues to our friendship. Even if I got no wrong motives or bad intentions at all being with that ex or someone my friend like, but it will surely be an issue in the long run or it might be something people will misinterpret. So, I would choose to avoid such things in order to prevent complicated issues which could also complicate with the relationship I have to people close to me.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Personally, I would not go out with a friend's ex especially if the relationship was recent and it was a long-term relationship. It's such an awkward situation to be in. Of course, I would not like to hurt my friend's feelings. Also, I do not want to be compared. I can't help but think that the guy would be comparing my characteristics and personality to that of my friend's. But then again, if they dated each other more than 10 years ago, or it was something that's called puppy love between them, then I might consider having the relationship with the guy as long as my friend is okay with it.
@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
22 Dec 09
a few yrs back my bros mate went out with a girl. now my bro has been with her for about 6/7 months i think not sure on the time factor. but i got told today they are spilting up. isn't it a general rule not to go out with friends ex's.
@TD_GURU (108)
• India
22 Dec 09
Its like spitting and licking it again.........
• United States
22 Dec 09
Yeah, I agree with you. I don't think I'd be able to go out with either. I don't want to hurt my friend in any way, so even if I liked either guy, I wouldn't go after them because I don't want to hurt anyone in the process. I agree with you on the last part too. I also think that the only time that it is okay to date either the ex or someone they like, is if you and your friend aren't friends anymore.